Hello,
after lurking for longer than this site exists (before that on MisterPoll, where I posted one or two times), I finally decided to join. For the longest time I felt I shouldn't, because my interest in chastity is primarily fetish, but as a person I often feel for many of those who wear these devices involuntarily, and from that point of view I have several times wanted to post. Until recently I felt I was not someone this site is meant for, but since several others also joined that have more of a fetish interest, and those seem to be accepted, I decided to join anyway. Of course I will try to always keep the intention of this site in mind when posting.
I am male, in my fifties, and I only have some toy chastity devices for some experimentation (a plastic cage and a Chinese wire model), but not with the intention of becoming a serious wearer. I am from the Netherlands; as far as I know only the second on this forum: the only other I know of was a boy writing about being forced to wear a belt and bra (!), but I don't see that topic anymore, so perhaps he has removed it, or requested to, or the admins decided he was a troll and removed it.
My personal belief is that the involuntary use of chastity devices by parents, especially on minors, is hardly ever justified. Perhaps in areas where rape is a serious danger, or someone has a high risk of getting pregnant from casual contacts, it might be justified to let it be worn outside (only), or in cases where masturbation is so much that it interferes with school/study/work, and all other options are exhausted.
But in normal situations I consider masturbation healthy, and not something that should be discouraged, let alone blocked. This is a more generic item for me: people learn from making mistakes, and blocking making mistakes causes either to make the person fearful or reckless, since they haven't experienced the consequences and learned to weigh the pro's and con's of an action in a balanced way. Of course parents need to judge how serious the consequences might be, and if the child is not yet capable of judging the risks, blocking might be necessary until the awareness has grown.
Of course the ultimate mistake one can make when not wearing a chastity device is getting pregnant or making someone pregnant, but to me it seems that a very large majority of people also manage to avoid that without such drastic measures. Like I said, blocking is to me a last resort. For instance a chastity device will make it harder to start a relationship, and I think that is something one needs to practice, to get to know what is important to you in a partner, which things you can live with and which you can't, whether you have the tendency to fall for the wrong type, learning to set your boundaries etc. (Protected) sex should be a part of that. Otherwise you might end up with a partner that isn't right of you, perhaps even hastened by the wish to get rid of the chastity device(s), and even stay with that person because you are afraid that you'd need to go back to living with the parents otherwise, and be forced into them again.
To me masturbation and sex are natural, and beliefs that it would be sinful, that you should be a virgin when you marry, etc. sound awfully old-fashioned, and not based on any facts. And chastity wearers who believe such things, seem to be raised in an environment where such values are preached, and accepted them as truth, perhaps without wondering about the modern-day value of such beliefs. A bit like it used to be normal for girls and women to wear corsets, and being fitted for your first one was somewhat of a rite of passage. All the downsides and medical issues were accepted as normal and part of being a woman, by most of them. And also a bit like when women's votes were introduced, and a lot of women were against that themselves, because it went against the natural order of things.
I'm not writing this to insult anyone, or even start a discussion; purely to introduce myself and my personal points of view.
