For my own clarity today, I've tried to gather together all the steps I've read and can think of that seem relevant to making an informed, consensual and healthy choice to purchase and use a chastity belt for its intended purpose. Please, let me know any changes/additions/problems in discussion below. Sorry the post is long.
1) Read through others' experiences.
2) Consider your reasons for considering a chastity belt:
Avoid pre-marital or extra-marital sex
Avoid ill-judged sex the wearer may regret
Avoid bad or shallow relationships
Address excessive masturbation
Increase focus on work or studies
Save yourself for your current or future partner
Place limits on sexual excess
Strengthen and deepen loving relationships
Demonstrate commitment and trust
For peace of mind
As a personal "pre-commitment" device
As a means to effect a change in behaviour
For chastity as a virtue in of itself
3) Understand the challenges of wearing a belt
Discomfort (at least at the start)*
Limits to clothing choices
Limits to movement/activities
Fit with wearer's values and temperament
Social pressure to accept sexual freedom as normal
Difficulty of keeping belt hidden*
Association in some people's minds with sexual fetish or kink*
Prevents sex (though this is the point of a chastity device, some would see it as a negative thing)*
Prevents masturbation (again, this may be seen as feature of the belt, but some would consider it to be a disadvantage)*
4) A keyholder for a chastity belt should...
Want the best for the wearer*
Know the wearer very well*
Have the benefit of experience*
Be able to separate real use from fantasy*
Be able to act with authority*
Firmly and fairly stick to agreed rules*
Make plans for how to deal with any medical issues*
Be similar to the wearer in temperament or have understanding and respect for differences of opinion*
Learn how chastity belts work*
Understand the challenges involved in wearing a chastity belt long term*
5) Consider rewards for continued belt wearing.
Technology, Car, etc
6) Making the decision
Ensure wearer is an adult
Wearer must be mentally and physically healthy
Wearer must be informed Eg: discussion, forum, images from manufacturers, personal experiences.
Choose trusted figure to hold keys.
Consider buying a belt for keyholder too (to learn from and share experience).
Discuss goals, rules, measuring, fitting, and cleaning procedures.
Decide whether to add secondary shield (to curb masturbation, oral sex, or for comfort when sitting)
Decide whether to add security tags
Decide duration of chastity (marriage, university, personal goals)
Discuss and plan for how to deal with a medical emergency while wearing a belt*
Maintain positivity about belt and decision, if in doubt wait.
Consent to wearing must include clear agreement as to the rules regarding the belts removal*
Potential wearer must be given the freedom to say NO to a belt
No consent, no belt.
Useful to write down all that has been agreed*
7) Purchase and usage
Select belt make (Eg: NeoSteel, My-Steel)
Select belt design (Eg: type of waistband, front shield, cable or flat rear).
Select secondary shield.
Order measuring kit (if available)
Measure for belt
Wait for belt to be made.
Try belt out for short periods to get used to tightness
Begin any agreed rewards
Adjust belt shape after each wearing for perfect fit to avoid soreness
Use talc, hairdryer etc to remove moisture after bath/shower
Use plastic water bottle with pipe or syringe to flush water after urination
Aim to increase wear time a maximum of +1 hour/day until desired wear time reached.
Phew! Is this everything?!
*[Change since list first published.]