suggestion for a chastity belt for my daughter

BikelockFugitive

Laura Would what change?
Laura you making me confused. From a legal point of view, it might change something, why you asking? Really I don't get it.

Laura

BikelockFugitive No possible child abuse like your mention, but the rest of the discussion remains the same. That's what we need. If somebody is looking for a chastity belt for their daughter they should find answers.

Megan

Okay Mandi, It may be awhile until I get to a computer so I guess I'll try to reply here. I think that it will be difficult for you to get your back opening to fit just right you might start shopping for the different types like this http://www.chastitybabes.com/images/belt4.jpg
You have said that you have a neo steel and a mysteel, which is it? If you have a hip belt that is good so long as the other parts fit you well. The shield does not to have tiny holes you need as much ventilation and flow from your shield as possible. If you have a shield with holes rather than long open slots either send it back or get it cut open.
I am starting to wonder if any of my CBs would fit you?
I am glad you are doing better.`

strictfather
This is what I wrote to Mandi about mine in 2016 on the old website.
I now want one like this to try after I am married in October!
https://fancysteel.com.au/collections/frontpage/products/female-slim-fit
https://www.dhgate.com/product/female-chastity-belt-pants-device-with-2/438426860.html
http://www.chinaglobalmall.com/products/546510016488
I have never tried this but I can think of several advantages even if my main ones have been top of the line very valuable.

You made a mistake in arguing with her! Now that you know that she has some serious problems and that this is what you must do you should never have told her! You should have spoken about her future, how irresponsible she is and how much she hurt everyone. You should have told her how it would be to be dumped by some criminal or drug addict or how she could be a migrant with a child!

By telling her about Chastity she can now think about that instead of taking responsibility. She can read horror stories about bad Chastity that caused terrible chafing and sores. Now she can spend the week before she gets it crying and getting ready to fight! She should be writing and assignment about what she did.

No you should have just started looking with your wife. Also for the low prices of the "Slim" or my types of belts your wife should own one so that she can know the difference between a manipulative complaint and a real problem.
You can shop but you see my picture with the locking plate. Mine was expensive but we live in USA not France! You can look at one like this (choose double cables, you can adjust the waist with that and the anus is left free not to get dirty).
https://www.ebay.com/itm/ALL-TYPES-Stainless-Steel-Female-Chastity-Belt-Device-Adjustable-long-term-wear-/123668730689
If you have cash and the store allows you to return items in so much time. I would buy several of the belts for her and your wife. Then return the ones that your wife does not like.

Megan

strictfather i understood there are two main chouces: neosteel and mysteel.

1)which one create less hygienic problems? (i have fear of infection own there)
2)which is the safest to stop orgasm?
3)which one is the safest, i mean impossible to open without keys?
4)when you walk with a belt you have to wear something between the body and the belt to protect the skin?
5) which belt is adjustable? (if my daughter increases or loose weight, i would like to adjust it)
6)the front shield: is was thinking with holes without slot (i will never need sick fitting as didls or similar) . or does the slot help to piss or to clean other?
7) menstruation: what happens with blood having a chastity belt?
8)the belt press really hard on vulva avoiding insertions (a finger, a pen,...) or is the front shield width to avoid insertions?
9)back connection: is better the single wire or the double or the rigid with the hole?

NeoSteel & MySteel are both very expensive. For some of us price is not a big problem but you probably need to make a decision on the next day. The mother should want one as well so that will be TWICE the price! That would cost thousands of dollars because your daughter lies and is irresponsible.
Do not feel like you are being cheap or disrespectful getting another brand. This is not like buy a sports car or Lamborghini this is buying clothes. If your wife was going to tell you daughter that she would not be allowed to wear Victoria's Secret short shorts to school you would not need to sit her down and tell her ahead of time and have a long argument. No you would just get different clothes. This is the same thing.

1) This is a good fear, a woman can die in a day from Toxic Shock Syndrome. Any of the ones I showed will not cause hygiene problems. What is most important is that the shield is bent upwards before her ass. People who have never worn before have terribly fitting belts which hang lowly, scratch the skin terribly, and trap waste after the bathroom. make her and her mother responsible not only for the fit but also hygiene. If she is lazy and filthy her mother should shame her.
2) Any of them. I myself did not understand how to do so until just a few years ago. So I never fought over it. but some girls will stress out terribly and have panic attacks after some time. For this reason I think it would be okay for your wife to allow her some rest breaks as Catherine gets. During a rest break tell her that it is important that she clean everything and give her some guidance on what is allowed. She does not need to insert FISTS to relax and sleep well!!! Some rebellious people will tear themselves up and for this reason maybe an anal hole that is not huge is a good idea. The mother should tell her exactly what is appropriate to do, how many times, how long, if you allow a rest break.

3) @BikelockFugitive watches a lot of movies, this is not really a problem.
4) The lining that comes on the belt is very important. Do not wear underwear! Just belt!
5) The ones I posted are adjustable. I do not believe women should wear waist because it restricts breathing. It helps with all health to open and fill lungs completely. The "slim" cables do not seem as adjustable as the other ones (The bands have those small holes and when unlocked you can feed them through to make as big or small, as tall or short as the needs. I think that the "slim" cables can always be replaced with more cables look at that, also if she puts on a little fat on her stomach that will not change the size of her hip bones so there is no need to adjust depending on where the cable go.
6) The more holes the better! Would you want to urinate through a tine hole?
7) Again the more holes the better. I rinse with a squirt bottle or get in shower with shower head if no one is around to help me. No problem.
8) It needs to fit and leave a gentle mark like your underwear elastic does. It does not need to press into the bone or leave red bands.

Is her room close to a bathroom? During breaks you could attach her foot to a chain around the toilet and let her mother deal with her for several hours. That would prevent violent arguments later.

BikelockFugitive

Megan Oh bite me.
Assuming the wearer of the chastity belt really doesn't want to wear it, it is a problem.

James

strictfather The general point I think you can take from this is you can buy a belt, sure.

It is not a magical cure!

You need to think of and change a lot of things about how things run in your household, including discipline, and mom needs to be involved. Just trying to belt her will be a miserable failure.

However, you need to restore your relationship with your daughter in the process, and trust, which is right now at zero. This is discipline, and it is a process. Which is separate from any belt. If you want to talk about that, I would be glad to do so.

Angelina

James

ok so the posts from @Megan and @James are really very helpful and very detailed. i think it's important for the father to get all the information.

the discussion about legality we already had in my case. it's clear he can't force his daughter to wear a belt, that would be child abuse and is not tolerable.

it seems to be difficult to convince her of the belt, but i believe that the parents only want good and really care about the daughter. i agree with james, a belt is not the solution to all problems. the daughter lies, freaks out if you talk to her calmly and if she continues she will probably soon be pregnant.

it's a difficult situation the family is in, i can't really guess for or against a belt, it would help her but she also has to get involved with the help. besides, i think that the family needs psychological help to find each other again.

a question for everyone. is it helpful if the daughter signs up here in the forum ? so she can talk about her fears and maybe we can see if a belt is a good idea ?

@strictfather no one condemns you because you are a father. you really worry about your daughter, besides it is also interesting to write with someone who is on the other side

Renita

Laura Renita Do you happen to know what the make is? Customized Tollyboy?

Tollyboy or Wiiliam Jones.

Raziel

@strictfather
My idea to solve your daughter's failing grade issues are to stop her from visiting her friends for the rest of the school year and next year. Tell her, that if she could get great passing marks the whole school year next year, THEN you'd allow her to visit her friends ... once a month (maybe once every 2 weeks if you're generous). A chastity belt would help prevent pregnancies, but emotionally, it'll be hard on her the most. I'm not sure the chastity belt is a good idea either, but it sounds like it MIGHT help. Or hell, give her two choices: raise her grades now without hanging out with friends or wear a belt and visit her "friends".

This reply is so late that others have given way better advice anyway, but the true first step to help resolve this issue is to stop giving your daughter so much free time to hang out with her boyfriend.

BikelockFugitive

Raziel Actually naw, your advice is by far one of the best.
The emotional pressure a CB would put on her would just make everything worse.

Ines

Hello all you,
in my opinion, NONE. Reading the history, it can become worst the problems in your family. I hope you have luck protecting your girl, but chores or a ground can be more effective.
My small sister dont wear belt, and she is a bit more complicated, (more messy, more unruly she do not study all she would have to study ...) than me and the other sister, never my parents have punished her with anything related to chastity. When It is necesary, we are grounded (me too ) and is enough and accurate. It would be a terrible missconception use the chastity choice as toll of fear.
A true chastity life have to be founded in acceptance (and anyway, all of us sometimes have tested, even a little, our belts).
First of all is that she recognize her mistakes, that she feel herself forgiven and caressed, just a girl in pace can embrace chastity.
With all familie ties reconstructed, then, maybe can be time to talk with her about this choice.
If you take off my trust in my parents, my status become in a hell.
Angelina, wrote a beautiful sentence that resume the concept, is our parents love what make that wear thigh bands, with all their drawbacks, be our protection, and not to have our legs tied.

Renita

Ines A true chastity life have to be founded in acceptance (and anyway, all of us sometimes have tested, even a little, our belts).

I totally agree. I believe that a girl should decide to wear a belt herself

Angelina

nice that @Ines goes into it again, many things can be endured better if you see it positively

@Raziel sorry this is a good idea of yours but it's even harder to enforce than a CB. my father controls every step of me and could never prevent me from meeting my friends

Raziel

Angelina
Even if your father can't stop you from visiting friends, I think it's better to balance out your fun and happiness by doing something, since you have a huge downside, the chastity belt. If you were belted and couldn't see your friends, that is a double negative to me. I think it's ok for you to visit your friends and make time for yourself, but the restrictions you face are still way too much. I really hope it gets easier for you and you get out of the device soon. Best wishes to finding the right guy and living freely! o/

strictfather

i wanted to write here that i think you are right: i never thought to "force" my daughter to wear a chastity belt. it was only a possible choice but she has to understand and accept it. i also understand there was a bigger problem, a communication problem between parents and daughter.
but... on saturday happened something that made clear that the fire burns under the ashes...
Here follows a short description of what happened saturday at dinner
ah1 i didn't tell you i have a second daughter who is 15.

it was saturday dinner time, we were all eating around the table.
my daughter(16) had low eyes, didn't talk (as in the last 2 weeks since has been forbidden to go out except for school).
Then she looked at my wife and told "why do i have to wear it if i stay at home?"
silence on the table
my wife tried to explain that it was only an idea, no decisions had been already made.
"i don't want to wear that prison" she affirmed
i tried to explain that we had to talk more about what had happened with that boy, specially about consequences. and that maybe she could understand the need to find a way to solve school problems, to avoid other "risks" (i mean unwanted pregnancy and so on...). and that only a long talk. after a long clarification we could eventually try to think to some solution all together....
(daughter16) "in the last two weeks i have always been at home, so why do i need to think to that horrible object? it's useless..."
before me or my wife could speak the other sister told her
(daughter15):<<its scope maybe is to prevent you from acting like a bitch again>>
WHAT????? oh my lord!
daughter(16) looked at her with a very hard look and responded
"what must I hear, the poor innocent saint.... i think you are on the right way to follow my steps. you already spend time to kiss your friend. and only god knows what you have already done or what you dream to do..."
me "(daughtyer15), apologize to your sister. don't you think you were rude? she is your sister...."
but my wife asked "what friend???? what are you talking about"
daughter(16); what friend? hehehe
daughter(15): shut up!
daughter(16) <<i explain to you what friend>>
daughter(15) "don't listen to her she's lying!"
daughter(16) <<ah! it's not true?>>
daughter(15) "no!"
daughter(16) leaves the table and run in the bedroom area. immediatly returns with a small book in her hands "here the explanation"
daughter(15) (screaming) give it back to be NOW! trying to take the small book
daughter(16) running around the table to escape from the sister <<this is her diary. read what she wrote on it and then we will see who will need the chastity belt>>
daughter(15) you... you... come here.... it's mine. when did find it???? ahhhh!
me and my wife were speechless and daughter(16) gave the small diary in my hands
daughter(15) [speaking to me] it's mine. you can't read it!
daughter(16) what's the problem? you are a saint after all hahaha
i gave back the diary to daughter(15) telling: reading other people diaries is not a good idea. if we start to read private thought this family soon will become a nightmare. freedom is important. respect more important. here situation is out of control. we need to talk more and clarify our ideas about what happened. i don't want to make the lesson, i don't want to force you to do something, i don't want to be a bad father.. i would like you only understand we, your parents, are trying to help you. i'm sorry because i understand till now we didn't find the right way to help you. so let's communicate, let explain each other point of with, more that already we did..."
daughter(16): yes, let's talk about me. never about her. as usually you protect her and i am evil...
me: "the problem is not this". later i (or my wife) will talk also with your sister and if she wants we will clarify what's happening.l but not now. not here.
daughter(15) [crying] it's not right....
daughter(16) yes, it's not right. but if it involves only me is right, isn't it? welcome to real world, dear sister

and we spent all Sunday to talk to our daughters.
The daughter(15) confessed she started to date with a friend and that one month ago they kissed. but she he swore that nothing else happened because "i am not as my sister". ah! that's the point maybe! i understood that there is a deep fracture between the sisters and in the family and that we (me and my wife) have to work to solve those problems.
So in the next days we have to talk very much.....
now the chastity belt idea will remain only a far idea. i will continue to read here and ask something to clear my mind on it. maybe in future i will need to buy one.... but not now and not before if my daughter(16) doesn't understand the real problems of her life.....

Laura

strictfather Maybe daughter(15) is better candidate to be a chastity belt wearer.

BikelockFugitive

Laura The 15 YO one should get the standard talk about pregnancy 'n stuff, but no belt. She has done nothing wrong and you need to have some trust in your children, its healthier that way.

strictfather Like I said, without a therpy things might spiral out of control. Something is telling me that your older daughter really has a problem she cannot communicate with any of you. But good Job staying away from the Belt, you may ahve dodged a massive bullet there.

Angelina

strictfather

ok that changes the situation quite enormously. I would also not guess for the time being to the chastity belt, because there can be quite other problems here . with your 15 year old I would hold a clarification talk, but that should please your wife take over, because it is not easy for girls to talk to their fathers about it. your 16 year old should first deal with their problems .

so don't buy a CB for now but solve the family problems first. best a family therapy

Laura

BikelockFugitive She has done nothing wrong

We shouldn't consider a chastity belt as punishment, but in her interest.

BikelockFugitive

Laura Why in her interest?
This thing comes with a bunch of problems and she wil lmost likely see it as such.

Renita

BikelockFugitive Why in her interest?

To not "acting like a bitch"

strictfather

chastity belt is a method, not a solution. if the wearer doens't understand the importance to avoid some attitudes, force her to wear the chastity belt would be seen as an abuse to be fought without any sense. so the scope would fail. you can't take a girl. open her legs, install the chastity belt CLICK closed, problem solved. wrong. not solved at all. Inner world of girl (her thoughts, her fears, her wishes,...) is more important. the "click" would crush this inner world. yes, you don't see the inner world but she feel it and the damage will propagate in her future life.

i also read other topic where someone forced the daughter to wear the CB telling her "or you do it or i will not pay anymore your studies". well. with my daughter(16) i risk to unleash a rebellion "ok. i stop studies".

from the other side the second daughter feels herself better than the sister because, i thinks she thinks not to be a "bitch" as the sister. installing the CB would mean "mark" the daughter(16) with the "guilt". wrong. i didn't think CB as a mark or a punishment. in my idea i thought... well.. eventually if i avoid her to make such things.... now i saw there are more problems behind....

i will continue the same to read here because i am thinking to another way: install CB only when daughter(16) go out house (except school), example with "friends". but it is a it is a theoretical idea completely detached from reality. i mean it is an idea "i like to win easy" but....life doesn't work this way!

Laura

strictfather i am thinking to another way: install CB only when daughter(16) go out house

That's what my parents did with me initially. But she might "forget" to put in on every time she leaves.

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