Megan SO I am now always going to drive in the car with my phone in my purse in the back seat behind my seat and let all calls go to voicemail while the ringer is muted.
This is a good decision. In our country it is forbidden and there are very high penalties if you are caught. Your accident shows how much one is distracted from what is happening.
From my experience, I can only say that after some time, being in love turns into a basic attraction. Many things become routine and you slacken your efforts. Little things in social intercourse get on your nerves without being addressed. And therein lies the fault.
What I have learned from my relationships is that talking is very important. Even small things that are usually not addressed should be clarified. You should also reflect on your own commitment and initiative for the relationship and ask yourself whether you really give your partner the feeling of being important.
If you have the feeling that there is tension, take time to listen to each other about how the other person is doing, what is good and not so good, what you miss, what goals and expectations you have.