My daughter wants her own belt!

MarleenTotok

Andrew if possible, let her try wearing yours.

yes its possible. shurely it will not fits 100% but nearly! She could try my belt and the most of acessoiries if she would do them.
My belt is ready for an try, its cleaned and now only waiting for my doughter.

Mithras

MarleenTotok Acessories? You mean thighbands and/or a metal bra?? All other acessories I can think of, would be of a kinky nature, isn´t it :-)

Andrew

MarleenTotok most of acessoiries

Thigh bands and chastity bra?

MarleenTotok

you bouth are right! For serious use i have bands and bra. bands are daily used, my doughter only has seen me with the bands on.

Mithras

MarleenTotok For serious use i have bands and bra. bands are daily used, my doughter only has seen me with the bands on.

Will you give her the "full program", with thigh bands and bra?

MarleenTotok

NO! i dont give her an "programm"! She sould only decide what she would try. In my mind she should only try the belt for first try.
But she knows from bands and bra, so she should have the try otion for all (excluding kink stuff). I could not tell her, you could try the belt and the other things are not allowed but i wear them for serios wearing (excluding kink stuff). that not realistic in my mind.

Mithras

MarleenTotok that’s a good plan!

curious

@"MarleenTotok"
So, what is your daughter`s goal?
Why does she want the belt? And have you made up your mind what are your conditions for being keyholder?

MarleenTotok

curious So, what is your daughter`s goal?

her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship. The goal is not an wedding or similar else, only an stable and serious relationship. I could accept them!

curious And have you made up your mind what are your conditions for being keyholder?

not easy to explayn. if her wish would be real, my husband would be the keyholder. i would handle locking or unlocking, but the keys are on his hands, i would prefere them. our daughter would accept them.

She is now at home and she will try now the belt! She is preparing her in the bathroom and if she is ready, i would helb her with the belt and try to fit them for her.

Laura

MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship

You might consider an abstinence belt for her

Renita

MarleenTotok do you mean me?

Me. I don't know how about you.

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

Well done. First "no sexual activitys without an serious relationship", but the "she could masturbate".
I'm trapped the same way.

MarleenTotok The goal is not an wedding or similar else

Are you sure? Would you let her out without a wedding ring?

Angelina

MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship.

would this include masturbation? i ask this because abstaining from masturbation is also much harder than "just" having random sex.

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

and would she want/get breaks from the belt for that? or would abstaining from sexual activity (until a serious relationship) also mean she can't masturbate anymore

one more note, the older users here know that i am a fan of contracts. if your daughter really wants to do the thing with the belt, then the three of you should draw up a contract that includes all the important points. i.e. when the belt is to be worn, when cleaning breaks are to take place, who is to take care of it, etc.

Mithras

Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

Please, what is the difference between an abstinence belt and a chastity belt? Just the secondary shield?

MarleenTotok

Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

i am also asking for the difference?

Laura

Mithras Just the secondary shield

Yes

MarleenTotok Her first impression is that it is quite tight.

My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

MarleenTotok

My daughter is now locked in my belt. We had taken our time but now everything fits so far.

We only need some little adjustments. She wears them now in the thightest position of the waist-band (i have an my-steel who is adjustable a bit) The crotch-band is similar to me.

In my mind it fits better then expected. We would see I am right or not. It could may also secure.

Her first impression is that it is quite tight. She now has about 20 minutes to getr first impressions alone, then we have dinner together. i'm sure with a clear topic of conversation.

MarleenTotok

Laura My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

this she expected, but the tightnes she dont expected as it is. she thought he would be more comfortable.

Laura

MarleenTotok i am also asking for the difference?

A chastity belt without a secondary shield at all or with one she has a key from

MarleenTotok

Laura A chastity belt without a secondary shield at all or with one she has a key from

ok, i understand you now. I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt. Its not possible on my My-Steel, its always on the shield.

If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

Laura

MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt

https://unwedchastity.org/d/194-abstinence-belt

MarleenTotok ts not possible on my My-Steel, its always on the shield.

You can order a Neosteel for her

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate

And other non-penetrative sex. But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

youdontknowme

MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt.

That is because that definition is fairly specific to this forum, I have never encountered it elsewhere.

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

If you and/or your husband want to have a hand in her keyholding schedule, you need to be on the same page as her when it comes to what sort of sexual activity is to be prevented and what wear schedule that translates to. Only that way can informed consent be given. If you only agree on "preventing sexual activity", but had different ideas of what this "sexual activity" refers to, any consent given was not sufficiently informed.

Ines

Laura But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

Well, I think no so many keyholders will allow it...

MarleenTotok

Laura But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

yes this its right!

Ines Well, I think no so much keyholders will allow it...

I think so too!

youdontknowme That is because that definition is fairly specific to this forum

right i read them in other post now too.

and your other words are right! for all us, chastity-belt means for us an real belt and not an abstinence belt. So, there is also mastrubation includet by wearing an chastity-belt, or better, mastrubation is no more possible.

My daughter is still in the belt. On lunch time it was a little bit strange. Knowing she is wearing the belt. We also talked an bit about them.
She is fine with the belt, she told us.
At the end of the lunch we asked her to unlock them, but she aksed to stay a bit more in it.

But now, she asked for an unlocking of the belt after going to the bath-room. I got the key from my husband and if she is in her room, i will unlock the belt.

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