Couples chastity

Sin

Laura It's not specific to couples chastity

Why on earth not? It's basically ye olde classic chastity tale where the maiden is in a belt and the knight is off on a quest.

Laura

Sin Because classic female chastity. In my opinion couple chastity is when they both wear chastity devices

Ines

Laura Because classic female chastity. In my opinion couple chastity is when they both wear chastity devices

Exactly, I have the same opinion, it is the usual women wearing but adapted to marriage.

Zoe

Guess it depends on the motivation of both parties involved.

I am the more emotional and sexual more needy one in our relationship. I used to try to push my girlfriend whenever I felt the urge. Getting grumpy and moody when she wasn't in the mood.

One day she said, when I didn't want to stop, she'll put me in a chastity belt if I don't let her watch TV in peace right now. I made a snarky comment and just cuddled up to her.

A few days later she approached this topic again. This time just casually showing me a picture of one on her phone while we were snuggled up on the couch.

I jumped up furious and shouted a few things at her. The next morning, after a sleepless night I got up early and researched the internet myself. I made breakfast for her in bed and we talked.

I agreed, I would wear one, if she wears one too. Didn't seem fair to me to be the only one.

The basic rule at this point was, we would always have to were it when and as long as the other has to wear it

I was hoping that would mean, she wouldn't put me into that thing on a wimp, as it would mean she has to endure one as well at the same time.

Well, it kinda worked like that in the beginning. But then she found excuses why she can't wear hers or has to be released earlier than me. I am a bit of a pushover and overtime she hardly wore hers, while mine just barely came off anymore.

To be fair, I did not mind and as mentioned in another thread, overtime actually felt much calmer and safer wearing it. Although there are times I bang with the fist on it and want nothing more than for it disappear forever. And yet feel naked now when I am on a "holiday".

Long story short, I think in every relationship are two sets of emotions. A chastity belt is something very powerful in my view that really screws with your emotions. If one is just warring it to do the partner a favour, it might emplify other things. At least I think it would strain our relationship, if I would really hate it and just do it because I want to please Ann.

Greatcornbow

Andrew As for me, a couple in chastity belts could only function sensibly if there was a third person who was their keyholder (so in practice it would be a kind of triangle).

This could be a really strong scenario. I've heard it actually happen but not often.

Andrew

Greatcornbow This could be a really strong scenario. I've heard it actually happen but not often.

Few couples are likely to fancy such a triangle.

Greatcornbow

Andrew Few couples are likely to fancy such a triangle.

Ver y few but not none: usually a submissive couple with a Dominant Third.

Sasha

Andrew I’d have to agree, I can’t see someone else holding mine or my partners keys if we are married

Tjc

I know of two couples who did this in the early 1990s when Tollyboy belts first were available in the United States. Both couples were from the kink community. The keyholder (same for both couples) did a lot of teasing but was quite liberal about releases. The arrangement ended fairly quickly. I think wear continued off and on after that but not with a separate keyholder.

Greatcornbow

Tjc

Tjc I know of two couples who did this in the early 1990s when Tollyboy belts first were available in the United States. Both couples were from the kink community. The keyholder (same for both couples) did a lot of teasing but was quite liberal about releases. The arrangement ended fairly quickly. I think wear continued off and on after that but not with a separate keyholder.

Yes it was this sort of thing I had in mind. Tollyboy belts were ace for this as the rafdial locks could be interchanged as well as being very secure.

Ines

I respect to everyone, but in my opinion it is mere fetishism, keyholder and wearer is a relationship in only a sense out of the fetish world.
A girl wearing the belt can not be keyholder of her husband or so.
The more I read about these practices, the most that I reject them as something totally alien to my values.

Angelina

Ines A girl wearing the belt can not be keyholder of her husband or so.

and vice versa? and if you say the man can do it, then please explain the difference

Tjc

Greatcornbow This was back before Hal introduced the radial locks but the idea was the same. The padlocks were interchangeable so the keyholder could change them out for better security.

Ines

Angelina

Well, everyone knows that I am a totally strange to make chastity and sometimes my writing style betrayes me, but I mean that wearer and keyholder is a relationship in one only sense. Not only I find disgusting a third person holding, for example, the keys of a couple, but without third person, I find strange that, again for example, husband and wife can be wearers and mutual keyholder.

Greatcornbow

Tjc

Tjc This was back before Hal introduced the radial locks but the idea was the same. The padlocks were interchangeable so the keyholder could change them out for better security.

Ah. When I saw Hal he had gone over to radial. But before that when he ised padlocks he said they were an Italian type not readily replicable

Avery

Ines I find strange that, again for example, husband and wife can be wearers and mutual keyholder.

Perhaps it is a matter of style. By why cannot a married couple promise not to have sex with anyone except their spouse. And to prove their fidelity each will wear a belt. And their keyholders will be their partners. That way guaranteeing that the only way each can have sex is with their partner.

And it is a good question does the sex of the partner holding the key matter. What if both partners are women.

Angelina

Ines I find strange that, again for example, husband and wife can be wearers and mutual keyholder.

i even agree with you on this point, i think chastity in relationships always has something to do with power and "submissiveness" (or call it surrender). if now both wear a belt and both hold each other's keys, this is taken to absurdity.

Avery By why cannot a married couple promise not to have sex with anyone except their spouse. And to prove their fidelity each will wear a belt.

maybe i have too romantic an idea, but from my point of view, fidelity in relationships/marriages should not have to be proven, but should be a basic prerequisite.

Tjc

Greatcornbow It was not possible to get that model of padlock in the US at the time. This was before the ability to shop internationally via the internet. That made it impossible to substitute another padlock. I was never able to find key blanks for the padlock in order to make duplicates, even for legitimate customers of the US distributor. Any keys or locks had to come from Hal and he was quite clear about only supplying them to the keyholder.

curious

Angelina maybe i have too romantic an idea, but from my point of view, fidelity in relationships/marriages should not have to be proven, but should be a basic prerequisite.

Unfortunate as it is, your view is indeed heavily biased by your romantic perspective. Looking at research, infidelity is way more common than you would ever imagine.

WriterAlexis

Angelina

i think chastity in relationships always has something to do with power and "submissiveness" (or call it surrender).

Unfortunately, I am inclined to agree.

Sasha

Angelina should not have to be proven, but should be a basic prerequisite.

While I agree with this, even though divorce is legal in most countries, people still do it and cheat on their partners.
Never really got that, I don’t expect someone would be in love with me forever but at least end it cleanly if they aren’t

Sin

Angelina if now both wear a belt and both hold each other's keys, this is taken to absurdity.

Doesn't have to be at the same time. For example... I'm currently stuck in chastity while my partner works away. He can't wear a cage on site, and there's not really much point given the surroundings (it's reeeeally remote). We video call most evenings, and he can open the key safe for me if he wants to. I don't care if he plays with himself when he's away.

When he comes home, we swap. I'm free for a week while he has to wear the cage (or belt, it's up to me). Sometimes I'll let him out to go surfing or whatever, but the way I see it he has obligations to his family, and I like being in control of that. Almost every interaction he's had with society this year he's had to do with a cage locked on his dick, and I think that's really hot.

Of course I tease him relentlessly, but the flipside is he gets to lock up his partner while he's out of town. It's romantic in and old fashioned knights & maidens kind of way. He knows I couldn't possibly cheat (not that I ever would) and I get to hold him by the balls. And we both have regular time off. Earlier this year we had a third party involved, and probably will again. It's the same situation, just stricter.

Kaja

I like this idea. Best case for me I think

youdontknowme

curious Unfortunate as it is, your view is indeed heavily biased by your romantic perspective. Looking at research, infidelity is way more common than you would ever imagine.

I would argue that the moment you asume your partner is cheating on you, your relationship is already in a pretty rough place. You assume your partner is better than the average, not in the worst quarter.

I would consider the belt less a proof of fidelity, and more of a reminder of the partner's presence in your life.

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