Sabina thread

Sabina

youdontknowme But the fact that you seem to be experiencing both these dynamics with the same person feels a bit incestuous to me.

You have right to your own opinion. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, neither doing my mother. Comparing my case with others described on the forum, it seems to me that it is very decent and honest, because of lack of any coercion.

Laura

Sabina When I'm wearing the belt I haven't such possibilities. Belt is very good and tight fitted to my body.

How about trying to obtain a spare key?

Sabina for example during student internship in court

Who locks it back and checks after?

@Renita has the long saga of fighting with her belt. Because her mom takes it seriously 😂

Sabina

Laura Mom never let me take the key, she always open my belt herself. The padlock can be locked without a key, so I almost always put on my belt myself when I get home. Mom sometimes control it, but not always, because in the evening she has to take off my belt before shower. If it turned out that I didn't wear a belt, I would be punished.

Laura

Sabina Mom never let me take the key, she always open my belt herself.

You might know where she keeps it

Sabina so I almost always put on my belt myself when I get home. Mom sometimes control it, but not always, because in the evening she has to take off my belt before shower

It actually means you are belt free all day 😂
I had similar rules before, but "forgot" to put it on too often

Sabina

Laura You might know where she keeps it

I know it - she wears key to the belt with keys to the house on same keyring. Other keys to the belt are locked in the safe with combination lock.

Sabina

Laura I had similar rules before, but "forgot" to put it on too often

It was never happened in my case... 😉

Renita

Sabina I should start wearing a chastity belt to protect me from carnal temptations

So you wanted to protect your virginity only, but received full chastity instead?

Sabina I can resign from wearing the belt at any time. However, if I resign against my mother wishes, she will never be my keyholder again.

Same for me.

Sabina The same if I do not submit to the punishment that she may inflict on me for any misdemeanor of a sexual nature.

What kind of punishment? Do you use any other accessory beside secondary shield?

Sabina she wears key to the belt with keys to the house on same keyring

Mom did the same until I've demonstrated unlocked belt. Since that she always uses the safe 😃

Sabina

Renita So you wanted to protect your virginity only, but received full chastity instead?

Before I start wearing belt 'permanently' Mum warn me, that it will be full chastity, and masturbation will be forbiden. I agreed, but sometimes I regret it 😉

Renita What kind of punishment?

Punishments are not defined in advance. I was punished only once. I was stupid and admitted to my mother that I had struggled with the belt at night and tried to get my fingers under it (it worked, but I couldn't masturbate). As punishment, I spent every night in locked bondage mitts for a month. I haven't confessed to anything since then. 😛

Renita Do you use any other accessory beside secondary shield?

No.

Laura

Sabina Because you didn't need it 😂

Laura

Sabina I agreed, but sometimes I regret it

But why did you agree? I wear a belt for virginity. Although it has the secondary shield, full chastity is not enforced by my parents

Ines

Sabina I spent every night in locked bondage mitts

Ohhhhhhh!!!! It was taking a while but they called bingo!
Bears and their cubs do not interrupt their hibernation while nursing.

Angelina

Sabina Before I start wearing belt 'permanently' Mum warn me, that it will be full chastity, and masturbation will be forbiden. I agreed, but sometimes I regret it 😉

well, she forbids masturbation but has no real option to enforce it, seems kind of unserious to me. somehow i think it's all about control your mother likes to have and you like to be controlled by her right?
somehow you are doing exactly what some here have accused me of, you seem to be living in a BDSM relationship with your mother

Renita

Sabina I was stupid and admitted to my mother that I had struggled with the belt at night and tried to get my fingers under it (it worked, but I couldn't masturbate). As punishment, I spent every night in locked bondage mitts for a month.

Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

Sabina I agreed because I was a bit fascinated by living chaste, but I didn't think it would be so difficult for me.

Understood. I had no choice either.

Sabina For them, the belt is just a BDSM toy, but it may have additional uses depending on the context. For me too.

That's the problem. Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.
For what I'm reading you have high risk even of intercourse, not only masturbation.
Let me give some recommendations

Your keys must be kept in safe you don't have an access to. Without exceptions
If you need to have the belt off, for example, for court, you must establish procedure of taking off and putting on the belt. Your mom might drop-off before and pick up in your court day. You must not be alone without the belt outside.
Obtain a high security belt that couldn't be cut by a pair of scissors.
Use only chastity accessories for punishment.

Sabina

Laura I agreed because I was a bit fascinated by living chaste, but I didn't think it would be so difficult for me. Once masturbation was not a particularly high value for me, only the lack of it made me realize how much I want it.

Laura

Ines Ohhhhhhh!!!! It was taking a while but they called bingo!

Remember, her parents are in BDSM, hence it's not impossible

Sabina

Ines Bears and their cubs do not interrupt their hibernation while nursing.

I don't understand your logic @Ines. You question truthfulness of what I write just because I mentioned mitts. Really, it's not a drastic measure - wearing them didn't cause me much discomfort, especially since I wore them only at night to sleep. My parents have a lot of 'toys' and if my mother wanted, she could punish me much more severely.

Avery

Laura You don't need a chastity belt for this

Well said, @Laura . Well said!

Ines

Laura

Everyone making such things, is in such "scene".

youdontknowme

Laura Remember, her parents are in BDSM, hence it's not impossible

Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

Laura

Sabina What was your mom's rationale?

Sabina

Laura What was your mom's rationale?

Rationale is simple. In terms of virginity - my mother doesn't really want me to get pregnant before graduation (so I will wear the belt for at least 2 more years) or waste time and energy on closer relationships with boys. Of course, there is such a thing as contraception, but my mother has very limited confidence in it for personal reasons - her sister got pregnant despite using it. As for masturbation. Mom believes that masturbation is an immature, incomplete form of gratification. That's why it was forbidden for my father in the first place, and - since I choose to wear the belt - it is also forbidden for me, at least officially.

Laura I suspect they consider her chastity belt as another BDSM item

For them, the belt is just a BDSM toy, but it may have additional uses depending on the context. For me too.

Laura

youdontknowme I suspect they consider her chastity belt as another BDSM item

Sabina My parents have a lot of 'toys' and if my mother wanted, she could punish me much more severely.

But chastity items

Sabina

youdontknowme Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

Maybe I'm dumb, but I don't understand something here. Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint? (similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch).