Introductions

Vanessa

LoonyMel

Welcome!

LoonyMel Also, Mel is a name which can cast doubts, in effect.

Yes,I thought at first it was a nickname for "Mélanie" or "Mélissa".

Angelina It would be better if no one did it this way, but that is just my opinion.

Why?

LoonyMel

Vanessa
This is the reason why I tought I had to clarify that.
Also, I found you are all really kind. Thanks.

Angelina

Joh This is all fine but it will not lead to a valid result.

hard to say

Vanessa Why?

because it is not that difficult to write in full sentences, it is not difficult to write (I'll use myself as an example). my name is angelina i am a 17 year old (almost 18 year old girl) 😃

LoonyMel

Angelina
On that part I strongly agree with you.
I have a humanistic formation and I love to be strictly formal with text. I like to write too and I think that incouraging that is a good thing.

Joh

Angelina hard to say

If you look on all possibility which rice up it is not possible to estimate what the outcome would be. You can estimate many solutions but you will never know which one would it be.

Vanessa

Angelina it is not that difficult to write in full sentences

Sure,but "name/gender" is pretty common on the net.

Franc

Welcome!

Is the woman you knew,who were wearing a chastity belt,"only" a friend or a girlfriend?

Franc

Yes.

Laura

Interesting! 😉

Angelina

LoonyMel

don't get me wrong, I didn't mean to attack you. it's just my personal opinion 🙂

Franc

welcome to the forum 🙂

Laura @Liana ?

Sure? 😂

Franc

Hi!
I am Franc, (Male) i am not belted or keyholder .. the reason i am here is because i am curious in learning about chastity lifestyle and changing opinions with you guys..it seems something interesting and special so i can't wait changing opinions with you .. i had a friend (female) who was in chastity , she was the person who introduced me to this and i have also met males who are in chastity .. see you around 🙂

Laura

Franc i had a friend (female) who was in chastity , she was the person who introduced me to this

@Liana ?

Franc

Vanessa
Will you remain in chastity until you get married?

LoonyMel

Angelina
Do not worry, I understood clearly your argument and motivation and I admit that I strongly agree with both.

Angelina

Joh

you are probably right, it was also more of a theoretical idea, of course it is difficult to implement in practice.

Joh

Angelina
Oh yes. This the difference between theory and reality.

Franc

Vanessa Is the woman you knew,who were wearing a chastity belt,"only" a friend or a girlfriend?

Only friend

Franc

Vanessa Welcome!

Thank you! 🙂

Angelina

Vanessa Sure,but "name/gender" is pretty common on the net.

I know, unfortunately

LazyGoat

I'm a 41 year old (and single at the moment) male from Finland. I have played with chastity belts and cages for about 20 years. Keyword here is "played", longest i've ever been continuously locked is about a month. Female chastity has been a big interest of mine for ages. Haven't had the possibility/right timing to give the keys to anyone, so hence the "play".

Like most men here, I was absolutely stunned to find out some parents actually do lock their teenagers and older kids in chastity belts until marriage or something else. I've read this thread from start to end and it has been dicussed so many times that I won't go any further wondering how questionable and/or illegal this might be. I thought this was only a fantasy scene, like in "Exempt for restriction" like someone previously mentioned.

Further more I was even more surprised to find out this is happening even in Finland (Heippa @Maija! 👋). Although there are few very conservative religious groups that might just use this kind methods...

I'm not exactly sure from where I stumbled on this site, might have been Reddit... But after reading this Introductions thread, I thought to join, since I might have some opinions or advice to share with you.

PS. Yes @Ines, I've read the forum rules 😀

Best regards,
Goatie

Joh

LazyGoat
Welcome and feel free to contribute.

Maija

LazyGoat Further more I was even more surprised to find out this is happening even in Finland (Heippa @Maija! 👋). Although there are few very conservative religious groups that might just use this kind methods...

Yes, it's very much a thing here 😉

welcome also on my part!

Angelina

LazyGoat

welcome to the forum 🙂 and yes it happens more often than you think, at the beginning i also thought i was an exception, but here are also many from my country

Ana

welcome to the forum 🙂

i am not sure if you are a man or a woman because you write about ejaculation in another thread.

Vanessa

LazyGoat

Welcome!

Ana

Welcome!

An unusual point of view about chastity here.

Maybe you should discuss it with him a bit more(without the cage on),to be sure your boyfriend being submissive is what you both want.Even if I doubt a chastity cage change him so much,and so quickly.

Angelina you write about ejaculation in another thread.

Hum,interesting.

Maybe it could be useful to remember to @Ana that fantasy is not welcomed here,only in case it is needed(even more as the changes of her boyfriend are very big and quick,I think)...

Foxies

Do you think 2 weeks in a chastity cage would be enough to make him behave much more submissively than he was used to?

LazyGoat

Thanks for the welcomes.

Maija
Guessing you are part of those groups... Just out of curiosity, do you know other girls (or boys) locked in chastity (besides your sister)? Within your social groups that is....

Ana

I’d like to talk about the changes chastity has brought about for not only my bf but for me! My bf was in strict chastity for 14 days. I then gave him a release and then placed him back in chastity for the past 4 days.

His behavior changes have been stunning. They include vigorous daily exercise, full takeover of house chores including cooking and cleaning, complete and total cooperation on all decisions, 100% attention on me always. Constant displays of affection, both in private and publicly. Attention to what I wear, how I am feeling, where I am going. Several times I’ve actually had to ask him for some space and/or distance. I LOVE the attention, it is like a drug, but I want to maintain a healthy independence also.

As for intimacy, our time has been breath taking. With both of our focus on my satisfaction, I have enjoyed the best sex of my life.

While all of this was a secret fantasy of mine, I never imagined it would come through at this level.

What I have not been expected was how much I would change from Greg’s chastity. On the plus side, I have had more energy, able to manage a hectic daily schedule at work and with my daughters. I am completely in tune with my needs and desires, never putting off something I want. I have more time to do the things I enjoy.

The things I’ve been challenged with are my emotions. I don’t like that I enjoyed Greg’s punishment. When I think on it, it was needlessly cruel and I did much of it only because I could.

I am also not as comfortable with how my position in the relationship has changed. Did I think that chastity would make Greg more submissive? Of course. But I never imagined that our entire status would change. I am making all the decisions and he is happily agreeing to them. Things like what we watch, where we go out to eat, even what friends we see. I feel the analogy is we’ve become like a boss and subordinate. Part of it thrills me, part of it scares me.

Is Greg going to continue to change? Is he going to become more and more submissive? Should I be enjoying his submission this much?

I plan on sitting down with Greg and talking about this. I’d love feedback on these questions and how you have handled similar feelings.

Sara2001

Ana I plan on sitting down with Greg and talking about this. I’d love feedback on these questions and how you have handled similar feelings.

I think we have some similarities, just with opposite roles.

I think you should talk especially about his "long term" wishes, goals and needs. I can tell you from my experience, that I can accept that I am very limited in many day to day aspects, even important ones, as long as I feel that my long term happiness is the top priority above anything.

Foxies

Ana

An interesting post not least since we don't have too many posts from key holders, especially female keyholders of chastised males. What you describe, however shouldn't be too much of a surprise. It is reasonable to suppose that willing wearers of chastity devices who have given up their keys, enjoy submission. I suspect their personalities are such that they get pleasure submitting to certain individuals and once they have found a willing keyholder, they enjoy a role that can be kept private. While it is tempting to believe that their behaviour changes purely to obtain sexual relief, I suspect it is more complicated.

More likely is that they actually get pleasure in behaving in a private relationship that would not normally be socially acceptable, or at least, acceptable in their own minds. Locked chastity however provides an excuse for them to behave towards an individual (their keyholder) the way they really enjoy, at least subconsciously. It provides a pathway for them to accept their own behaviour while at the same time keeping it private. A path them allows them to enjoy their secret pleasures with the freedom to not make decisions and rely on someone else to guide their relationship. Giving up responsibilities and allowing others to take control is actually quite a relief for some.

It matters not that society would frown on such behaviour and possibly punish them. Morally and ethically all that matters that no one is harmed by this behaviour. That both the chastised submissive and the dominant keyholder enjoy their roles and lifestyle, that is all that matters. Thus, neither of you should feel any guilt for what you both want. Whether you keep your bf locked up four hours or four months is irrelevant. My only concern would be that you keep the discussion actively open, discussing your own enjoyment of controlling him and making sure that that is really what he wants. If he shows any sign of unhappiness, the responsibility is on you to detect it and correct it since you have accepted the responsibility of power over him.

Clearly, the two of you have developed a relationship of unequal power sharing. You are in charge. But think of it that you are really in charge of both of your happiness. It could well be that you enjoy punishing him and there really is nothing wrong with that, so long as that is what he wants too. While he might not relish being locked away for four months, it is likely that he enjoys you having that power over him. My advice would be to use that power wisely.

It is also your responsibility to see that his health does not suffer and that what ever devices you secure on him do not cause physical or emotional harm, even though he wants it. You are directly responsible for things that he no longer has control over. This includes damage to his prostate if it is not “milked” periodically.

From the little I have read, you are not the first woman to observe the effects on a chastised male, nor to relish that power over him. In the end, life is for enjoying and providing you remember and keep faithful to maintaining his happiness, then that is all that matters.

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