Sara2001 Can you discribe the setup in which you hold the keys? To whom? How many breaks and for what reason? How does she think about it and so on. How difficult is it for you to stay consistent when she begged you to open her belt and stay strict and say no.
I hold the keys to my wife's belt. We're alternating between a My Steel ACTIV (sic) hip model (where we exchanged the standard shield with a perforated one after a couple of months because we've had a couple of very painful incidents) and a Chinese cable-based one.
I brought the idea into our relationship. Describing how I got there and how I feel about it would probably fill a book - but based on what I've read here already I think it's important that I've developed this particular "character trait" on my own and without any influence in my family, religion, community,...
She was open to the idea, so we gave it a try and then slowly started a rather long learning experience for both of us.
The question about the breaks is probably what strikes me the most about this forum: there's definitely more time out of the belt than in and I am amazed how people here are apparently able to do much longer time "in". This is where my curiosity strikes and I hope to learn more about how that's possible and what practical tips others can share.
Apart from mindset and good measurement, there's just so much "real life" to deal with that 24/7 seems unrealistic/unreachable where we're standing right now. Covid-19 has "helped" in some regards - less contact, particularly less close contact with friends and family - but it's still far from perfect.
