Introductions

JackF

I know I'm generalizing now, many women, not all, on this forum live in MLR families. My wife grew up in a family where FLR was the basis.
When men wear a chastity belt it is often seen as a fetish and he is unfortunately dismissed as a sissy. There is nothing wrong with making a woman a good woman. Then why not make a man a good man. If it's not good for a woman to have sex before marriage, why is it normal for a man? There are so many forums where FLR comes up, too bad almost all of them are more of a sex site. I hope I find understanding here

hanna_anders

JackF welcome Jack, and thanks for being clear about your thinking. You’re right that most people in chastity here are women in MLR, but there’s no reason for you not to be accepted in n your FLR.
There are quite a few chaste men here too, I’m sure they can answer any questions you might have, but you are welcome to ask anything of anyone 🙂

Avery

JackF There is nothing wrong with making a woman a good woman.

Some are of the opinion there IS something wrong with MAKING her. But most of the women here ARE made to, or are the people doing the making.

JackF

hanna_anders thanks for the understanding

JackF

Avery
I know forced isn't right but what I read here is making her often the reality. Sometimes it looks like voluntary but in between the lines you often read an emotional compulsion. In many cases, the girl or woman then gives in. I know I'm walking on thin ice now, but making people to do things in general is just real live. I started voluntarily, but after a while it got emotionally heavy, especially after I told my father. In his opinion, a man should enjoy life and enjoy women. My then girlfriend (now my wife): you can also enjoy life and enjoy women in a chastity belt. You have to learn that sex is part of life, but certainly not the most important thing. And yes in that period she was making me.

Avery

JackF My then girlfriend (now my wife): you can also enjoy life and enjoy women in a chastity belt. You have to learn that sex is part of life, but certainly not the most important thing. And yes in that period she was making me.

But you presumably have a sexual outlet, i.e. your wife. Many folks accept that situation readily when they take their marriage vows, or even if they just have an understanding with someone, and they don't need a belt to honor their agreement.

But many people here are made to wear a belt with no sexual outlet, not even masturbation. That's a totally different thing.

youdontknowme

There is a difference between pushing a person to stick to their plans when their willpower is too weak (which is very much the point of a chastity belt, otherwise the lock would be of no use) and making them do something they never wanted in the first place (which is abusive).

JackF

Avery
Your assumption is incorrect. Like most here, I didn't had a sexual outlet. Not even masturbation.

Angelina

C-B We are Hana and Pavel - parents, Hanna is belted

So Hanna is your wife and you have a daughter, did I understand that correctly?

JackF

welcome to the forum 🙂

JackF Like most here, I didn't had a sexual outlet

but you do have sex with your wife, don't you?

Avery

JackF Like most here, I didn't had a sexual outlet.

A few posts later you do say you have limited sex with your wife. Some people here have nothing for years. If I could get off a couple times a week I could go on in my current situation for years.

JackF

Angelina
Before marriage compare with most women here no sex and no self gratification. After marriage limited sex, but still wearing so no masturbation.

C-B

Angelina Hi, yes correct

Angelina

JackF Before marriage compare with most women here no sex and no self gratification. After marriage limited sex, but still wearing so no masturbation.

but you are married, aren't you? then you have sex occasionally?

JackF yes she was free to do

But if you were always locked up, she was also rather restricted sexually.

JackF

Avery
I don't want to battle who has the hardest life. Let me explain my situation. I was belted at my 19th. Married ad 25. During that period no orgasm. So know what most women here go through. I got lucky at my wedding day. The first and last time I had penetrative sex. My wife can't have an orgasm from penetrations. Having sex for me is not getting penetrations. Ok I get very very limited orgasms. Given your reaction, I almost feel guilty that I sometimes orgasm.

Laura

JackF I was belted at my 19th. Married ad 25

Belted by whom? By your parents?

Avery

JackF I almost feel guilty that I sometimes orgasm.

I would think that is a common occurrence here. After years of hearing sex is bad, not for you, you must be belted to prevent it. How can you then on your wedding night suddenly think it's wonderful.

Avery

JackF My wife can't have an orgasm from penetrations.

Seriously, there are therapies for this.

Megan

JackF I don't want to battle who has the hardest life.

I understand you and maybe there is some reason your wife cannot enjoy penetration.
Just as I say for wives in chastity husbands must have a reliable outlet too. . .

So even if I am conservative where I want my husband to be the focus of some things, both genders deserve care from their partners. This is obvious to me and not political.
Otherwise you are more in a femdom topic and not an introduction sir.

JackF

Laura
no by girlfriend

Laura

JackF no by girlfriend

For 6 years? May I ask how she convinced you?

JackF

Laura
It may sound stupid, but her desire to be purely for her appealed to me. She explained to me her family circumstances. Female Led. and I thought why not too but soon regretted it, not about the chastity device, the problem was my parents, especially my father from whom I got a lot of negative comments. Like a man should be able to do what he wants. A man has to be in control and all that kind of nonsense. like you are a sissy. My girlfriend supported me and that gave me confidence. It's your life and your choice. I appreciate it a lot. Tensions ran high at home and I decided to leave the parental home. I had a hard time, luckily I got a lot of support from her parents. They proposed to live with them for the time being. So the temporary became 6 years.

Laura

JackF My girlfriend supported me and that gave me confidence. It's your life and your choice. I appreciate it a lot.

But how about her? Was she able to do what she wanted during this 6 years? As I understand, only you worn a chastity device

JackF

Laura yes she was free to do

Laura

Angelina But if you were always locked up, she was also rather restricted sexually.

Or had sex with someone else 😂

JackF

Angelina the only restriction was penetration

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