Introductions

Max9

Matt Oh welcome here. Sorry if I missed your introduction. There's just a lot going on here.
Yeah, it's always nice to hear a bit of a description of someone to kind of get to know each other and you don't feel like you're talking to any impersonal robot or weird guy.

Philipp

Angelina

Yes, i asked for her. her situation is a bit complicated. and I therefore feel somewhat responsible. but I'll write more in the threat blockpiece where someone asked about the background of her thigh bands

Angelina

Philipp

thanks, through other threads i now know at least who the key holder is, i suspected otherwise 🙂

Tobi07

Hi,
I am Tobias from Germany and I wear a male cb since 6 months. The reasons were a few bad decisions and actions from my side, so my parents came up with this solution. I wear it 24/7, supervised cleaning and bathroom only. I was reading up quite a bit of information here in this wonderful forum, but I hope to engage a bit with fellow wearers to exchange on tips and advice. For now, my parents supervise me in reading and writing in this forum, just so you know.
Cheers!

Sasha

Tobi07 Welcome, hope the adjustment has been relatively easy on you.
Mind if I ask what this bad decision was? And also your age?

Angelina

Tobi07

welcome to the forum 🙂
somehow you seem like the male version of @Sasha
may i ask how the belt helps?

PS: I don't think this camp has much to do with sexuality, I think it's more like an education camp or something, also called boot camp in the USA.

Tobi07

Sasha Hi Sasha, I cannot go into the details of my bad decisions. Let's just say I did seek pleasure at places and in ways not appropriate and got caught and told off to my parents. So I was at a point where it was hurting me and others.

youdontknowme

Yeah, curious how old you are and how it relates to the role your parents play in your life. The fact that they supervise your online activity makes it sound like you might be a bit young to be wearing chastity devices or you have somewhat overprotective parents. Bad decisions makes it sound like they may have a reason to be somewhat overprotective?

When you say "male cb", do you mean a full belt around the waist and everything, or more of a cage that just protects the parts prone to making bad decisions? I assume the latter.

But the biggest question: how did you take your parents' proposal? Was it easy to convince you, or were you hesitant at first. And if the latter, what did it take to get you to agree?

Tobi07

youdontknowme My parents don't supervise all my internet, but I am not allowed on pages dealing with any content related to sexuality. So they allow me this forum only if they know what is going on.
I wouldn't say my parents are overprotective, indeed they do have reasons and I am grateful they give me the chance to better. I did things that were bad, and could easily be bad also for my life. So let's say this is my last chance, but I really feel like it is indeed good for me and helping me focus on my life.
I wear a belt with a cage, to give realistic protection against masturbation.
How did I take the proposal? Well, I did not know what it really was or what it meant. I mean it was easy to convince me as the alternative would have been going to correction camp or worse, so I took that straw without asking twice. Took me some time to adjust, though. It really is not easy, both physically and psychologically, to deal with it. We had very long discussions, an adjustment period and a lot of practice and help from their side. But when I decided to give my yes to permanent lock up it felt like we could go on with being a family again.

Sasha

Tobi07 the alternative would have been going to correction camp or worse

Sorry if I’m mistaken but that sounds like one of those “corrections” things for homosexual behavior, which is outright abuse. And what’s the “or worse”? Kicking a 16yo out on the street.
I’m sorry to say this, but making a stupid decision to be with a girl (or boy) like I used to be doesn’t warrant being abused

pestulens

Sasha I hope that isn't what we are dealing with here, though the possibility also occurred to me.

Tobi07 I understand why you can't talk about it in any detail, so I'll just say I hope you are at lest on board with your parents reasons and not being forced into this with coercive threats.

Ines

Tobi07

No, and here your participation is very limited due age nature.
Not adults threads and absolutely not allowed any detail of sexual nature.

youdontknowme

The threat of a "correction camp" to control a kid's sexuality does seem rather abusive to me as well. If what you did was something as criminal as rape, agreeing to wear a chastity belt for your parents would not save you from the courts, if it was anything less, sending you off somewhere unpleasant over it sounds like your parents are vastly overstepping their authority - you said you are from Germany, so I would like you to read this: https://unwedchastity.org/d/846-useful-links-in-case-of-abuse

Kaja

youdontknowme In my country is nothing like correction camp

Sasha

Angelina I hope that’s the case and I’ve gotten it completely wrong. Unfortunately there are “camps” as I’ve eluded to here, not particularly pleasant things. But what would be worse is my question, camp, chastity, or what?
Honestly can’t say if he’s like I was though since he hasn’t elaborated on why he’s wearing. But it’s possible it’s a similar situation.

youdontknowme

Markus Me neither, and I doubt they would be legal either way, but sadly neither fact is conclusive proof they do not exist, nor does something need to actually exist to be used as a threat in coercion.

Tobi07

They do exist in Germany. And most common are these so called "Wohngemeinschaften für schwer erziehbare", where would likely be placed. But I better behave and stay at home,that's my plan, definitely.

Andrew

Tobi07 They do exist in Germany. And most common are these so called "Wohngemeinschaften für schwer erziehbare", where would likely be placed. But I better behave and stay at home,that's my plan, definitely.

I am neither an expert on the German youth care system nor an expert on the German language, so I may be wrong, but it seems to me that institutions of this type (Wohngemeinschaft) are more of a crisis-oriented rather than corrective nature. I wouldn't call them a "camp" either.

youdontknowme

Tobi07 They do exist in Germany. And most common are these so called "Wohngemeinschaften für schwer erziehbare", where would likely be placed. But I better behave and stay at home,that's my plan, definitely.

Those are not exactly places where parents can just send you if they are unhappy with you; unless there is an immediate threat to someone's life your family would have to have been in contact with government social workers or youth psychologists for quite a while to demonstrate that they are totally overwhelmed in their care for you.

I mean, the threat of the tyrannical social worker is frequently exaggerated to scare kids straight, like a modern-day Struwwelpeter, and I do not really mind that as a way to teach that actions have consequences. But when it comes to using those threats to extort a pretense of consent to let parts of one's body be physically restrained for extended periods, that is an entirely different matter.

Angelina

Tobi07 They do exist in Germany. And most common are these so called "Wohngemeinschaften für schwer erziehbare", where would likely be placed. But I better behave and stay at home,that's my plan, definitely.

as far as I know, this can only be ordered by the authorities, i.e. by a judge. your parents cannot simply take you there.
also, camp would be a bit of an exaggeration, as far as I know it's a sheltered accommodation for young people who have serious problems and yes there are hard rules, but not to be compared with a bootcamp in the usa or something like that.

Sasha

youdontknowme Didn’t know this was a system outside the US, very interesting learning about things like this.
But I have to agree that using something that extreme as a means of extortion is crossing a line. Plus he mentioned send him there, chastity or worse. What exactly was the worse option?

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