Subby Jonas Thank you Jonas for the warm welcome. My plan was to start off by trying to play on my own at first to get more comfortable since I probably wouldn’t be ready for long term lockup at first. Then gradually involved my partner regarding holding the key. At first I might use a lockbox and maybe online locking website just for short term to get better at wearing belts.
I think it is very sensible to go ahead slowly, it does take time to get used to a full belt, especially a tight fitting steel one. A lock-box is good for getting used to giving up control and it is safer to saw through this than the belt if it ever became necessary. A lock box slowly increased to 24/7 use could even be where it all ends up: you don't have to give the key to your partner. That's for you both to decide. If you go with Neosteel the seal bolts could be another option as they prove that you haven't removed the belt for the time you've been apart.
Interesting you mention Neosteel Arch I have actually been looking a lot into getting the Neosteel Fun. I haven’t made up my mind yes since each belt comes with its challenges.
That's a great belt. For me anything less is more like a toy. The Neo is the real deal. I am unable to have sex or masturbate while wearing mine - though it took a while to be able to wear it this tight.
Seems like very difficult to get measurements right.
It isn't straightforward. Male chastity is harder than female to get right imo.
The Neo waist belt is adjustable, but it's worth getting to your ideal weight before purchasing. The rear cable can be sent back to be adjusted... but this ofc means weeks of time without it. If you had the money I guess you could order two tubes with cables of different lengths. However, the aim here is not to end up with your own personal "Museum of male chastity belts that don't quite work" which is an expensive and frustrating waste!
I think you should use their measuring kit if you go with Neosteel, but even then a Neo belt can sit lower and feel impossibly tight at first, unacceptable even. But you just gotta stick with it. It's worth it for those nights in the future when your will in-the-moment weakens and you try to circumvent your chastity belt. If it's tight, you won't be successful and your promise (and your investment) will be safe.
My girlfriend and me loves something that don’t screams too much male or female something little in between.
Well, the downward pointing tube alone will achieve a lot of this. If you wanted to cross dress it acts as a gaff and prevents any bulge from spoiling the line of a skirt. It also changes how you touch/experience yourself, there's no longer anything there to grab a hold of! Lol.
I'd say start off in a very slow but progressive way. The body and its sex drive is strong and can derail your attempts at chastity merely by claiming discomfort or through endless delay. Whether you set a target for 2 months, 6 months, or a year's time; I think a step by step progression towards the level of chastity that you eventually want is necessary. Also make sure your gf is on board every step of the way. If you're in chastity, both she and you can help you to maintain it by being positive but firm.
