Milord If the parent asks, convinces, bribes
i think it's a bit problematic to equate these three things. in my opinion, there are clear differences between asking and bribing. if parents only ask, the child can always say no. if they bribe, i agree with you, it can become toxic and therefore harmful
Sasha But there’s one thing I do know, for several years I wanted someone to stop me, mom, the cops or courts, anyone. I didn’t know who to ask or even how. But that was my dream back then.
I think the problem was that you didn't talk openly with your mother about it; you apparently realized at the time that your behavior was self-destructive. I don't think it would have been better if you had worn the belt sooner, because the first step always has to come from the person who has the problem. Maybe your mother should have paid a little more attention to how you develop, but someone can only be helped if the person wants it.
If I understood you correctly, then you only wore the belt after you decided to change your life? That's exactly the point, you wanted it, you wanted to change
PS: I'm very glad you're here and not in jail or worse 🙂
