Sorry to hear. Depending on the country you live, your mother is probably breaking laws and will be in trouble if she keeps you in that belt against your will. That gives you excellent leverage in a discussion. I recommend you have a calm and grown up conversation about this situation with her, politely alluding to the danger your family faces if your predicament becomes public. I can offer a "practice discussion" by text to prepare you, if you want. Your first goal could be to negotiate better rules like regular breaks for you.

    But she also said she is 19, so not a minor. Dealing with a parent (or any heyholder) should not be about legal solutions to force the removal of the belt and more about a mutual understanding of why a belt is necessary and what the advantages are to wearing one.

      Tjc what the advantages are

      Do inform her about all the advantages, I'll rather support her get out of a bdsm relationship with her mother.

          Helena the worst thing that annoys me is when I tell my mom to take it off

          Have you ever tried to pick the lock?

          Damien bdsm relationship with her mother

          Interesting view 😃

              Time for the bolt cutters.

              Can't make you wear the belt if the belt is no longer wearable.

              Helena Schedule a time to talk to your Mom so that both of you have a chance to cool down/your Mom doesn't feel trapped.

              Make it fun, prepare tea and treats, do everything to show your Mom that you are an adult. When you are ready, clearly lay out the reasons you don't want to wear it and what it is preventing you from doing.

              Ask her why she wants you to wear it, then talk about how you are ready to change, to become a better adult, and how by doing things X that meets the needs of your Mom, it obviates the need for wearing.

              Obviously you haven't done anything wrong and you shouldn't need to do any of this, but, sometimes, as adults we make compromises to make other people happy.

              They are your parents and it is probably worthwhile not to burn bridges as you may need them in the future.

              You should also come up with a plan for what life would be like without your parents support, what you would need to get there, and how that might work out. It's something for you so that you don't get cowed by your parents into doing something you don't want.

                  Helena
                  When there is discomfort like physical pain the belt should be removed immediately. There is no excuse for not removing it then.

                      Sara It is good to see you back posting on the forum again. I am curious where you are with your belt journey these days?

                        Helena

                        may i ask to what extent you have given your consent to wear the belt? that is not clear to me from your previous posts. try to have a conversation with your mother by talking openly with her about your problems. a good key holder must always have the health (including mental health) of the wearer in mind first and foremost

                        Helena and she rejects it angrily

                        a good key holder should always conduct such conversations in a calm and level-headed manner

                            Padre There is no excuse for not removing it then.

                            Right, but you have to tell them the reason

                              Helena

                              Helena when I tell my mom to take it off and she rejects it angrily

                              For what reason/purpose do you wear the belt at all, and how much voluntarily do you do it?