How I can convince my daughter(s) to wear a chastity belt

Vanessa

Angelina He also means that sex is only with my
partner should be made (in my case camryn) and also only if we are married

Same for me presently.

Laura Well, probably they have a point. But I agree with @strictfather, they can't do it forever, although they are satisfied with current situation.

Right,it can become hard to follow it for too long.However,except if you leave the city or get married,I'm not sure why they would decide to change it.

strictfather

A lot of talks,and not easy ones,since it started.I hope it'll become better soon.

However,even if if you don't want to suggest chastity again,I noticed it:

strictfather she told to me and the mother "if you want me to wear a CB. well... wear you first and give me the key!".

It was exactly what Ivana did when she decided it would be good for her daughters to wear a chastity belt.She bought one for her,give the keys to her husband and started wearing it.When she convinced her older daughter to wear her,she gave one of her keys and the other one to her husband;in exchange,her daughter gave Ivana one of her keys,and the other one to her father.So,no one have the key to her own belt,and only the husband of Ivan(a and father of the daughters)have all the keys.Even if I don't know if Ivana made copy to give to her second and third daughter.

If your oldest daughter change her mind about chastity ,or hestiated,you could suggest it.

At least,as,since she is in "prison",her friend has lose interest in her,she should know he wasn't interested in her,but only wanting to have sex with her.

Angelina it would be too bad if a family breaks on itself. hope that soon better news will come from you good luck 🙂

Yes,it is a very complex situation.Almost everyone is angry to everyone,I imagine it is hard!

Ines

strictfather
Therapy could be best choice... as all here said you since minute 1.
In a context of anger is not possible smooth relationship in the family. I hope you can fix the situation the quicklier the better.
With a happy and strong family you can talk about all, and now that you know much more about us, you can expose the convenience of wear a belt.
As you know, in my family mi mother wears a belt too, and It is perfect. But if it pass you will must be the holder, not your daughter (I can understand rage talked there) 😉.
A bel can be a good tool to maintain a happy family, but you have to notice that this will increase a lot your responsibility about family.
Anyway, no matter the way, I hope you have a peaceful family as soon as possible.

Angelina

Ines

a belt does not currently solve the problems in the family. maybe later but not now

It is important that a therapist is visited as soon as possible, talking to a neutral person can help a lot 😉

Vanessa

Ines A bel can be a good tool to maintain a happy family, but you have to notice that this will increase a lot your responsibility about family.

Only if it is fully accepted.

Angelina a belt does not currently solve the problems in the family. maybe later but not now

I can understand why a belt for her would be useful.But I agree too it is not the best thing to do right now,and never if she doesn't agree wilingly.

Ines

I think same 100%

Angelina

Vanessa

no, she shouldn't be forced to.

it would have to be your free decision but currently I don't think it will come to that

Ines

Vanessa Only if it is fully accepted.

You know It is only way in which I judge acceptable to wear a belt.
Forcing is not in my vocabulary 😁

Vanessa She seems not ready to agree to it,and not sure she would.But anyway,it is not the right time for starting it.

Again agree. It is what I tried to express in my first response. First is time for therapy, and love. Only in a peaceful home can a belt have a place.

Vanessa

Angelina it would have to be your free decision but currently I don't think it will come to that

She seems not ready to agree to it,and not sure she would.But anyway,it is not the right time for starting it.

Angelina

Vanessa

no, i don't think she's in that kind of psychic shape to make a decision right now. 🙁

Vanessa

Ines You know It is only way in which I judge acceptable to wear a belt.
Forcing is not in my vocabulary 😁

I totally agree with you about it.

Ines Again agree. It is what I tried to express in my first response. First is time for therapy, and love. Only in a peaceful home can a belt have a place.

Especially as the possibility or making their daughter wearing a chastity belt have caused arguments between the daughter and her parents,the other daughter and her parents and between the two sisters...Only if these arguments are solved,and everyone can talk about it calmly,it should be discussed(or not).

Angelina no, i don't think she's in that kind of psychic shape to make a decision right now. 🙁

Sure,and it seems it would impact badly her sister too,and damage the relationship between all the members of the family.

James

If I remember well your precedent posts,you consider punishment,right?

In this situation,I'm not sure it would be a good idea.It may very well only add more anger to the punished daughter,and not help at all.

However,I think too the chastity belt subject should not have been totally discarded.Especially as she should feel as much as possible at ease if she want to discuss it and consider wearing it for helping herself.

And the daughters are not winning at all.The older one should stay at home almost everytime she had free time,and her sister is fearing to have to wear a chastity belt,and is restricted about her free time too.And their relationship is more tense(I hate when I have arguments with my twin and our relationship is more tense,even for a few times,and I'm sure he hates it too).

Ines

I think too it is the best solution for now.And I hope it'll help them to resolve the several conflicts they presently have.

Angelina

I think none of them are happy with the current situation,so I guess they'll do their best to solve it.But sure it should not be worse everytime they came back home.

James

strictfather Well, I hope the therapy works, but I doubt it. For talk therapy to work the people involved need to want it to work, but it doesn’t seem like that’s what you have there. At all.

None of your daughters or your wife want to really talk things out - and none of them see why they should by sounds of things. There are things you could do though @strictfather, and if you want to talk about it in detail we can do so via email.

I will say though, declaring that you won’t do something you were considering for the sake of trying to stop a heated argument is really no good as a strategy for you at all.

Ines

James
I have not idea of psychology, but he wrote that all family agree with therapy.
I think that nobody likes stay angry with parents, specially the girls, and this can be an option.
Psychologists are university professional with an ethical code, so, for sure the chosen one will mentor @strictfather rightly.

James

Ines Trust me when I say many girls are quite ‘happy’ to stay angry with parents. Therapy helps people to talk out their problems.

Great...except for that to work the various parties have to want peace on therms they will accept. Based on the situation as it is, I don’t see diplomacy succeeding because of the way things have developed. If I’m his daughters, as far as I feel, I’m ‘winning’. All I have to do is keep being unpleasant and eventually force dad and mom to terms.

If they feel they can do that, why negotiate?

Ines

Think that somebody is happy being angry... maybe these girls see the world of a very different way that their parents, but normally, sons and daughters do not like be angry with our parents. And daughters, specially are more sensitive with this point. You can think your parents are dumb, or strict or that they can not understand you, you can be angry with them, but 99% of people do not like that situation.
We must trust in professional psychologists. These therapies work fine. They study in order to help people, so, will see. For sure they have ways to redirect the conflict.

James

Ines We will see indeed. You’re totally right that many girls do not like this situation, but many struggle to see how to resolve it.

Talking works just fine so long as people are ready to honestly reflect and be fair...and we will see if that’s the case here.

Angelina

James

James I think therapy can work well with this family, but you're also right, everyone in the family must get involved in the therapy and be able to talk honestly with the psychologist and with each other.

It is important that everything that is discussed in the therapy stays there, it does not help if the conflicts that can still be kept calm in the therapy escalate at home.

in this sense I wish the family all the best 🙂

Angelina

Vanessa

Caution is the best thing you can do in this situation. the family has to have many long and above all quiet conversations. I also think that the idea with the chastity belts should not disappear completely, but this should be thought about only when the family situation has relaxed.

Ines

Angelina
Agree absolutely.

Vanessa

Angelina Caution is the best thing you can do in this situation. the family has to have many long and above all quiet conversations. I also think that the idea with the chastity belts should not disappear completely, but this should be thought about only when the family situation has relaxed.

Yes,I think too they can mention it again,after all the problems are solved and propose a chastity belt to both daughters as an option,their choice,but asking them to think about it,not refuse it immediately or without thinking about it truely.And making clear it is the choice for each of them,not connected;one could decide to wear it,it won't imply that the other one would have to wear if she doesn't want to.

Tere The basic part of convincing a girl is to make the conflict disappear in the relationship between her and the belt.

Yes,but how do you suggest to make it,if she is totally against wearing a chastity belt?

Tere Apart from what has been said, I think the example of mothers is very important, and the behaviour of the males of the family is very important. If my husband did not show me every day that he is my support and my guardian angel, I would lose an incentive to wear the belt and serve as an example to my girls. The involvement of the whole family is basic.
I believe that neither I nor any of my two daughters would wear a belt if it had been loaded with negative connotations.

I think too it is an important part of it.It seems that mainly,the ones who wear a chastity belt willingly,is the ones with their mother wearing one too.

But is @strictfather's wife ready to do it,to help their daughters accept it more easily?

Tere

Hello everyone,
for me the only answer to this question is this:
To make your daughter not fear the belt of chastity, the key holder must be firm but kind, and make that after a pause, she wants to wear the belt again, without fear of consequences or that pause could be the last.
Parents have many tools to educate our children, and it's a mistake to use as punishment an element that a girl should be proud to wear.
The basic part of convincing a girl is to make the conflict disappear in the relationship between her and the belt.
Apart from what has been said, I think the example of mothers is very important, and the behaviour of the males of the family is very important. If my husband did not show me every day that he is my support and my guardian angel, I would lose an incentive to wear the belt and serve as an example to my girls. The involvement of the whole family is basic.
I believe that neither I nor any of my two daughters would wear a belt if it had been loaded with negative connotations.
I'm sorry I wrote such a long post, but today I have a little time, and I hope that when you read it, you reflect and tell me your opinions.

Tere

Vanessa Yes,but how do you suggest to make it,if she is totally against wearing a chastity belt?

I believe that girls have to wear chastity belts of our own free will, and I believe that almost all of us can accept it if there is a proper education in the homes.
Having said the above, it is true that we are not all peristing at the same ages to start its use, I think this is the case of my daughter Sara, and even, that there are girls who will only eventually realize it, as I have read you , you call it "second virgins".
And there are also girls, and you have to accept it, who will never wear a chastity belt because they are profoundly contrary to their personality.
In any case, forcing a girl to wear a belt is a quick path to a grave for the family, and I don't think, fair or possible for parents to go crazy with this, nor, much less traumatize a person.
Belted or not, I want my daughters and grandchildren having dinner at Christmas at my house! 😄

Vanessa But is @strictfather's wife ready to do it,to help their daughters accept it more easily?

If the husband is right, a wife wearing a belt may be the happiest woman in the world.
I must also say that a mom voluntarily visiting a chastity belt is basic. A girl is going to be more reluctant to do something her own mother doesn't do in the present.

Angelina

Vanessa

it would definitely be an idea if the mother would start to wear one, but it is still a completely different situation. the mother is a wife who is sexually delighted by her husband, the daughters are chaste and have no sexual "valve", it can help but the reasons are quite different

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