Chastity for brothers and other boys

Vanessa

I think it is because,even if it can affect our feminity too,it impacts much more the virility of the men to wear a chastity cage(or a male chastity belt)and their self-esteem,and so,they prefer to keep it as secret as they can.

They may too fear to be laugh at due to this,but it is the case for us too.

Angelina

Vanessa

yes it's true for us too, but I think it's worse for men 🙁

but we already deviate again from the actual topic 😉

Esteban

Angelina
For my part I do not share your point of view on this point.
For example, imagine that I am one day called to coast a girl who is belted by her parents only for the purpose of preserving her virginity. And well, at the risk of surprising you, I can say that I would prefer a hundred times carry a chastity cage (to preserve her virginity as agreed) if it allowed my girlfriend's parents to get rid of his belt.

What I find delusional with the belt is that the potential victims are locked (so girls) instead of containing the assault of potential aggressors (boys)

In the same delusion, we could also conceive to lock all the victims of rape in prison so that it does not violate a second time ...

Vanessa

Angelina

I think too.Different feelings emotionnaly,and more painful.

Angelina it's more about the social value of sex within a group of men or a group of women . while women consider you a bitch if you have too much sex with different / foreign men, men are proud of their buddy if he had sex in one night with 3 women 😉

Totally right,it is very unfair,but it's the case.

Ines Anyway, a calm boy able to take care of a girl is something difficult of find in young boys.

And,even if they are like this,they may want to hide it to their frriends.

Ines

I think too.

Angelina

Esteban

I have meant the whole actually somewhat differently . first I give you in your argumentation totally right 😉

it's more about the social value of sex within a group of men or a group of women . while women consider you a bitch if you have too much sex with different / foreign men, men are proud of their buddy if he had sex in one night with 3 women 😉

we girls tend to hide sex with strangers more than men.

it is therefore much more difficult for men because they have to prove themselves more socially 🙁

Ines

Esteban What I find delusional with the belt is that the potential victims are locked (so girls) instead of containing the assault of potential aggressors (boys)

I think your approach even not totally wrong, in fact some girls here started to wear the belt as protection, I think the conceptualism of the girls as victims is not the main motivation under modern belting of the girls.
I think, that in most cases, parents think in "preservation" before than in "protection". They, in general, are not in panic about rapes, more well they are fear of girls bad steps before marrying.
I think.

Esteban

Angelina
What you say is exactly Angélina.
This is unfortunately an observation that everyone can do.

And the worst is that even girls are not sufficiently supportive of each other to counter the malevolent thoughts of some boys.

What is unfortunate is that boys should be better educated to respect girls than to gird girls to prevent them from being respected by boys.

But I must admit that some girls are blameworthy for wanting to start relationships with boys "heartbreakers" thinking that they "will do better" than previous girls.

It must be recognized that many girls have the unfortunate tendency to favor bad boys, whom they often consider much more exciting.

And at the same time they leave aside the caring and more respectful boys who could be much more beneficial in their emotional development.

During my teenage years I was one of the most respectful and caring boys towards girls and, in the end, it was I who had the least female conquests compared to all of my group of friends .

But now I do not care, I have my conscience for me, because I have always forbidden myself to play with the feelings of others.

If I felt that my feelings were not sincere enough I preferred to do nothing more.

The others around me did not ask so many questions to get their way. And their partners often ended up disappointed in having engaged in a relationship that was based solely on a purely sexual aspect.

Personally I do not find that it is necessarily rewarding for a boy to boast of having a table of important female conquests because in a way it is so many failures to be able to establish a lasting and sincere affective relationship.

And in front of so many failures it would be advisable, in my opinion, to recover a little in question.

Ines

Esteban
I agree. I see it class every day. Some girls misunderstand a dominant and independent boy with boys that are only rude or almost pimps.
Anyway, a calm boy able to take care of a girl is something difficult of find in young boys.

Angelina

Esteban

wow, I think it's really very nice of you to share your thoughts and experiences with us here 🙂

and you're right, it's clear that girls aren't faultless either, it's more about describing the social status of a man in the situation but both are to blame if the relationship breaks down because of wrong facts 🙁

Esteban

Angelina wow, I think it's really very nice of you to share your thoughts and experiences with us here 🙂

I must admit that this is a small contribution if you compare to what I can learn from you (the girls of this forum)

Next to that, what I find quite funny on this forum is that we can very quickly go from a refined conversation (phylosophical or intellectual) to a very trashy conversation (with a strong sexual connotation)

Esteban

Ines I think, that in most cases, parents think in "preservation" before than in "protection". They, in general, are not in panic about rapes, more well they are fear of girls bad steps before marrying.

Ines, your comment is very interesting.
I think that I will be called to develop this distinction (protection / preservation) during a future post. But for tonight I must admit that I am much too exhausted to be able to expose my ideas on the subject.

Esteban

Ines I think your approach even not totally wrong, in fact some girls here started to wear the belt as protection, I think the conceptualism of the girls as victims is not the main motivation under modern belting of the girls.
I think, that in most cases, parents think in "preservation" before than in "protection". They, in general, are not in panic about rapes, more well they are fear of girls bad steps before marrying.

Thanks to your post you have highlighted a subtle distinction but of capital importance.
Indeed, according to you, the main motivation of parents to wear the belt to girls would be to preserve their virginity rather than protect them against possible rape.

So if we push the argument a little further, it means that these same parents would feel less affected (or less distressed) if their daughter would lose her virginity against her acceptation (in case of rape) than if their daughter had lost his virginity by making love to a boy with all his heart.

And here I must admit that I am deeply revolted that some parents can think that way.

Indeed, in such a case, it is clear that it is the ego (or pride) of parents who prevails over the emotional security of their daughter.

It simply shows a deep selfishness on their part and I will never be convinced that such parents can act out of sincere love for their daughter.

In fact, it is not their daughter that protects but their own pride (their own vainness) and it shocked me deeply.

I consider that the primary mission of a parent is to protect his daughter from any external physical and psychological danger without affecting her consent or sexual fulfillment.

For my part that parents who sincerely love their daughters must put their physical and emotional safety above the honor or reputation of their daughter.

I think a good family man claiming sincerely loved his daughter, should invest in this kind of equipment:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyDBP2rp6DE

I honestly think it's a great invention to protect the girl against potential abusers while leaving her full of sexual freedom.

If for example the girl is a bit drunk during an alcoholic evening she can not be sexually abused against her will.

It's my educational philosophy.

Raziel

I do feel that most people, in this society, expect guys to do and like manly things, like being interested in sports, cars, and openly discussing porn or something like that. Personally, I am not interested in sports, but I am interested in games with stories. As for cars, new model every year, so I'm not going to bother keeping track of them, even though I like computer and they come out every year, I stick with one pc, and one car, for many years, and I'll be happy. Basic computer and car is for me. For talking about our personal sex life, I rather discuss that with a woman who I'm in a relationship to get closer for when we're ready for that time. Talking about ideas with other guys isn't a clean feeling, so I'd rather just not tell them anything.

As for chastity, sure the belt and cages might tug and pull on guy parts, but I see it as a symbolic meaning, showing that a guy can be trustworthy and faithful for their partner. Another good reason is to stop self pleasure so often that they give themselves rashes or distracting themselves from life goals and chores. Final reason, the guy and girl, of a couple, wears the belt and only takes it off each other to enjoy each other's company and only enjoy their freedom if in the intimate moment with their partner. The last idea falls under faithfulness, but also kind of sounds like a game/foreplay when I reread this paragraph for errors.

Oh well, whatever the reason for chastity, as long as you're safe and it's consensual, do whatever you want with your personal lives. There are still many things I wouldn't want to talk about in public regarding chastity, but I do believe I would keep my device for at least another 10 years.

Angelina

Raziel

it doesn't have to be every man the same, but I think the problem is that it's still not recognized in society if a man has too feminine interests 🙁 I think it's sometimes hard for a man who has to prove his masculinity all the time even though many men don't want to, but that's still a stereotype that many people can't get out of their heads 🙁

Vanessa

Raziel

As long as it is consensual,I think too chastity can be used,and maybe even useful.I read a story,even if it was used not as it is intended,but still not as a fetish or a game,about a couple who used to both wear chastity devices during a part of the reviewing of the lessons for the partiels and during the exams to concentrate in studies,and not be distracted.Not sure at all it was true,but it is a good example of an useful and consensual use of a chastity belt.

And I agree with you,many people tend to think men would always like some things,and women would always like other things.Many people would feel strange a man who like to spend time decorating the house,or a woman who like to repair cars...

Angelina

I think too.Often people would think he's gay,and,if a woman like masculine things,they would think she's lesbian.

Angelina

Esteban

that's one of the reasons why i like this forum so much, the different opinions on the different topics give me strength and inspiration 😉

Laura

Esteban Next to that, what I find quite funny on this forum is that we can very quickly go from a refined conversation (phylosophical or intellectual) to a very trashy conversation (with a strong sexual connotation)

About male chastity only 🙂

Angelina

Vanessa

i am very feminine of my character, yet i am bi . i think our behavior says nothing about our sexual orientation 😉