In Spain is not common to wait until wedding, well, at least I don't know anybody did that (friends, etc) because if don't know the details for all, at least I knew if they were not living together before marriage, they spent holidays together, and things like that.. Is very common living together before marriage.
I can't talk about everybody, so is why I say "common"
I think you are from France, and it's true in the past Spain was "delayed" compared to other european countries like France with that let's say "free love" from the 60s..
Here we had old customs, heavy influence of church, etc.. but since 70s and 80s our parents become more europeans in their behavior and related to what they think acceptable for their sons and daughters..
I know you may be used to an example here 🙂 but I think she is a singularity, because I'll tell my experience and what makes me think that..
It's curious that the only girl I met trying to reserve her for the marriage was just the past year.. not when I was a young student.. nor she was not a young student, she was already working with some experience, and very polite and cult (even conservatory studies), and here also comes something funny, despite she was living alone in Madrid, she comes from a good family from the northern of Spain 😁 but I think is different longitude in the map 🙂
Well, at the end I realized everyone has his own audience, and I attract maybe more classy girls and also the kind of person what I like..
In other thread I told once I met a girl she was reserving until marriage, and I would cope with that at least if I'm free to balance the situation 😅 and/or if she helped with that.. And is not the same when you already experienced many things (no hurry to discover things in this field) and have temperance..
We aleady saw we were very compatible and could be more in most things and felt a connection, it was going quick.. and wouldn't be too much time because as told she was already working and if not, wouldn't delayed much more as I'm already stable and I could maintain both while necessary until she achieved her professional development.
But I decided to stop the incipient relation when we discussed more about intimacy and she clearly explained she was not very interested in "these things", just to fulfill duties towards her husband because she understood is necessary for him.. and to have children...
I could cope with the waiting, if I knew for example next year I was going to have a wonderful partner for life.. and I don't expect a perfect person, but at least not lack of libido/complicity/imagination/etc...
My non scientific conclusion is... nowadays, if a girl hasn't experienced intimacy relations is because she didn't felt that desire/need, often asexual people, that hard to believe, but exist..
Yes, with exceptions, I know... ¿semi-forced? girls in chastity.. I didn't knew any in real life..
or even willing wearers even with willpower for selfcontrol which also express their passion for the proper moment of release, and also later in hands of her partner, here is when I talk about singularities.....
I wish that girl had been another singularity, and able to find one! 🙂
