Probably I posted the following in the wrong topic. Although this is about asking a partner and not parents to be belted, I think that this topic is the closest to where I should post this:
I'd tike to sum up my situation briefly, then aswer to your nice suggestions and finally explain what I am going to to and ask for some final advices.
I have got a gf for some years and we like kinky stuff. That is why I have been locked up for some weeks already some times but then I have always been unlocked for even more weeks. We do not live in a female led relationship or something similar, we treat each other as equals.
However, I feel that masturbation drains energy and is not good for our relationship and she noticed that some weeks ago as well. She even said that she did not like me to masturbate. That is why we locked me up again but probably with kinky ideas in mind again. Some days ago she told me that she likes to control my sexuality.
Now there are two aspects of being belted and being controlled.
One is the kinky side and one is about the relationship and controlling masturbation without kinky thoughts.
What I'd like her to understand now is that even I enjoy being locked for a certain amount of time and being denied pleasure I want to be belted not because of that alone and that I want to be belted almost 24/7.
This might cause some confusion for her and problems to not mix up the two reasons and there is the problem that she no only has to take responsibility but that she has to deal with keeping me belted even when it is hard for me and there is no kinky aspect to it then.
Thank you for your suggestions. I like the idea of having a safeword and having to face very bad consequences if I do not use it in the case of emergency. This links also very well if I can explain her that she should treat me like someone you does not wear the belt voluntarily.
My idea is to suggest a period of some months to test keeping me belted almost 24/7 and then to reflect what we have to change in oder to make this a possible addition to our relationship before we continue without any planned end in sight. However, during all the time having sex when she wants to is still possible. This is not about being 100% chaste from now on. Of course we should also discuss some rules (when the belt has to come off for cleaning or doctoc visits and so on).
Do you have any additions ideas what we need to consider or what would have to be discussed?
I am thinking about a possible rule to limit the amout of orgasms as well (as the problem might not only be masturbation but the numer of orgasms in general). However, when she wants to have sex, this limits her freedom as well when she is bound to a rule that I may not cum again within the next x days or whatever.
