Asking parents to be belted

Tobbe

Michael It is best if you slowly increase the time you use the chastity belt. One more hour every day, if there are no problems, such as redness or soreness. Then you get a short break. Check skin and probably adjust your chastity belt carefully, to fit your body.

Michael

There is no soreness anymore after the adjustments I made. Redness happens where the silicone lining presses into the skin around my hips a bit. I have already done a bit of bending but probably I cannot solve that completely. The belt is tight but doesn't fit too tight and I dont want to make it more loose. Usually if I take the belt off after 15 hours of continous wearing it takes no more than 1 hour until all the redness is gone.

Tobbe

Michael Some redness is nothing to worries about, if it is gone in an hour.
Best tight than lose! A lose belt can feel fine, but rub your skin and make sores. Something like to have to large shoes on the feet.

Michael

When I wear it at night (during the _15h) I wake up less and less. The first night was bad but last night I woke up only once. Therefore I think I can try to get close to 24h next weekend. Probably we don't want to take any health risks and would do a cleaning on daily basis (I once had a protate inifection that was not nice) if possible. Therefore I think I am fine with my gf having the keys already and to be honest it feels good to know that I cannot get out if I wanted to 🙂

Max9

Michael Yes, the first werk after being belted / caged for the first time is always the most difficult. Daily cleaning is good, but also a bit often. I personally am convinced it's enough if you do it every few weeks and have an erectiob every month for health reason. But sure, if you had an unfection once you might want to do it more often.

Angelina

Max9 Daily cleaning is good, but also a bit often.

it is not often, but good, these are our most intimate and sensitive body points, you should not skimp on hygiene there 🙂

Vanessa

Michael Do you hint that I should wear the belt 24/7 and not almost 24/7, so I would get no orgasms at all?
If so, why do you think that?

I don't think so,I only wanted to precise it is possible to make her orgasm without you having one,but not implying you should do it!😉

Michael What do you think a good suggestion for a test period would be?
However, what do you think a good test period without an orgasm for me would be good instead or in addition?

Maybe you should start slowly and increase the duration.For someone who never wear it,a training often start by wearing it a few hours,then a day,than a day and night,etc...As you're more used to it,you may do similar,but for higher duration,starting by a few days,than a week,than two or 3 weeks,etc...You can discuss the next increase with your girlfriend,too.

Not sure a period without orgasm would be useful,as you would get orgasm while having sex with your girlfriend,even after you wear the cage/belt almost permanently.

Michael

If you're less used to wear the belt,you do it well by adding only a few hours each time.But the training may be shorter than for a new user,as you're used to wear the cage and have no access to your private.

Michael if I have to switch from belt to cage for a few hours.

Do you plan to alternate both,or only do it during the training with the belt?

Angelina

I agree,hygiene is important.

Michael

Vanessa I only wanted to precise it is possible to make her orgasm without you having one,but not implying you should do it!

I don't mind to make her orgasm when I am not allowed to have one even during having sex. However that should not always be the case. I think my orgasms from masturbation should be reduced to 0. How far orgasms from sex should be reduced then, I don't know yet.

Vanessa Do you plan to alternate both,or only do it during the training with the belt?

In general I want to wear the belt. The cage is only an option if I have to do something more active where the belt would hinder my movement too much or when there is sore skin but the acess to my penis should still not be given.

Thank's for the tips about the training. Maybe test and training period are two terms that might have caused some confusion. With test period I don't mean to learn how to increase the time I can wear the belt continously. Instead it is about to see how wearing the belt influences our relationship in order to decide after this time whether my gf is willing to lock me (almost) 24/7 then. I think something like 3 months could be enough time how this works, even if we are in a bad mood about the belt at times.

Vanessa

Michael However that should not always be the case.

I agree.

Michael In general I want to wear the belt. The cage is only an option if I have to do something more active where the belt would hinder my movement too much or when there is sore skin but the acess to my penis should still not be given.

It seems a good way to wear these.

Michael With test period I don't mean to learn how to increase the time I can wear the belt continously. Instead it is about to see how wearing the belt influences our relationship in order to decide after this time whether my gf is willing to lock me (almost) 24/7 then.

In your case,it could be a good idea to do such test period,yes.

Michael

A small update:
We have not decided when a test period starts and what the exact rules will be but she has agreed to doing a test period and we are going to talk soon about the exact rules (we both take time to think about how we want these rules to be formulated and what is important for us to make it work).
However, even if the real test period has not started yet, I have been belted meanwhile, I am still belted and she won't let me out. That is obvious as she demands to lock the belt back on directly after a cleaning break and doesn't want me to have acces to the keys.
When we had sex last time, she even told me not to have an orgasm, while she got three orgasms. Of course she wanted me to be locked up immediately afterwards to ensure that I do not cum. Then she said the next times we will have sex we would repeat this procedure.
Now I am not afraid anymore she might reject the idea to keep me chast for a certain amount of time in order to benefit in multiple ways from me having no orgasms. I have no idea when I will have my next orgasm and this time I am sure that I cannot easily talk myself out of wearing the belt. What has happened so far I way more than I had hoped for in the beginning and I hope I can endure it. I got pretty frustrated already and when I told her so she said it was not her problem.
When we did chastity play before (less serious) I have never experieced a situation where I really wanted to be unbelted. Now I am a bit afraid that it might happen sometime and how she would react then.

Rick

Michael Now I am a bit afraid that it might happen sometime and how she would react then.

As the old saying goes, "Be careful what you wish for".

I sincerely hope she will be willing to negotiate occasional orgasms for you. On the other hand, I think it will be good for you if she does restrict you from any orgasm for at least a few weeks. I predict you will be "crawling the walls" at that point. Some men find that in the long run, they prefer that pattern, although they resent it at the time.

Vanessa

Michael

It seems it is a good step in the right direction,as she seems to be ok to use it more like you wanted.

However,if she wants to make you get no orgasms at first,as a sort of training,it is ok.But you should take care it would not be the case that often after the test period(and maybe even not the case during the test period).You should take care it was clearly defined in the rules.No masturbation and,sometimes,no orgasm during sex seems to be what was planned,it should stay this way.Maybe a bit different,as you've to negotiate it,but not that much,in my opinion(especially as it seems you don't like this idea).

Michael

Rick I sincerely hope she will be willing to negotiate occasional orgasms for you. On the other hand, I think it will be good for you if she does restrict you from any orgasm for at least a few weeks.

Of course we will negotiate that but her behaviour indicates that she won't agree on guaranteed orgasms for me every x days or more likely weeks.

Just to make sure I would like to add why I am a bit afraid about her reaction when I really want to be let out.
I am surprised about how convinced she seems to keep me belted now. This might not be her true state of mind in the long run which is why she might give in when I want to be let out. We are aware that my masturbation should be reduced to 0 and therefore I want to be kept in my belt. That's why I hope she would be strivt if I want out. However, I am not sure how long it will take to recover my mental strengths then and if she can support me.

Michael

Vanessa You should take care it was clearly defined in the rules.No masturbation and,sometimes,no orgasm during sex seems to be what was planned,it should stay this way.

Now I know there won't be much to negotiate...
If I was allowed an orgasm every x days or weeks this would mean that I would be allowed to masturbate then or that we would be bound to have sex by then with an orgasm for me. The first should be prevented be the belt and the latter is something she doesn't like as it might not fit her mood then. Then we could argue or start endless discussions about rule changes and so on.
Therefore it is clear that she is willing to lock me up and not let me masturbate again if it is only her decision when I am allowed to have an orgasm during sex. If I complain too much etc. this could lead to her being too annoyed to continue keyholding then. However, it is clear that she definitely wants me to have an orgasm from time to time but without any predefined pattern. She is willing to test this for some time in order to see if we both can live like that.
I can follow her reasons. She does me a favour of locking me up and keeping me from masturbating. Thereby she takes a lot of responsability and doesn't want to be bothered by anything. Therefore what she wants to gain in return is full control to shut down any problems before they might arise. If I cannot accept that it would mean that everything could happen that she doesn't want to happen. So it's either this way or no way and if it's this way it only stays this way if I am able to really accept these circumstances.
Now I have got as much time as I need to decide if I am ready for this. I've got the keys back until my decision.
This is for sure more than I have hoped for and I feel like I just have to accept because otherwise my masturbation would not be good for us. I hope it won't be too hard for me then and of course I am still a bit afraid but on the other hand it is just a test period (we would decide on the duration when I would be willing to hand over the keys again) and not the end of the world. I think I need some days of thinking to be sure then.

Vanessa

Michael

And why not get a "token" every two weeks,for example,which you could use to get an orgasm when your girlfriend is in the mood to have sex?It would make you be sure to get an orgasm on a regular basis,but only when your girlfriend is in the mood to have sex too.

I advise you to take enough time to think well about this,and during your test period,take care to try to guess if you would manage it this way,during several years.Especially as,if you accept it after the test period,then some months/years later,you would change your mind,she would not be willing to try it again(and probably be disappointed).

Anyway,you wanted your girlfriend to be serious about your chastity belt and keyholding,and it seems she is very serious now!

Michael

Vanessa
First of all thank's for all the ideas and help. I have taken a lot of time to think about the test period.
I can see that the token method has got its pros but the downside is that my gf could be in a mood where she wants to have sex but deny me an orgasm. Then she would have to either let me have one or would have to abstain from having sex.
Let's face it. It is my own wish to be locked into a chastity belt. It is my own wish that she ensures I cannot masturbate anymore and she will have to take a lot of responsibility. Therefore I think it's only fair that she gets complete control as it makes a lot of things easier.

You should know that we have a very good basis for communication. Therefore I do not see the danger of having to refrain from chastity after the test period because I could realize that this would be too hard for me. If so I think we could discuss things again and change rules. However, if we find out, that she wants to make it even more extrem and I cannot take it, that would be sad. On the other hand, if I don't accept to try chastity this way now, I miss the way I really want to live. Just because there could be a problem that we could solve with communication should not hinder me to try this I think.
By the way, even after a 2 months test period we could change a little bit and try another longer test period again until things have been adjusted to fit the way we want to incorporate chastity into our relationship continously.

Therefore, I have made my mind up. I am going to tell her that I want to start the test period.
Of course, I am a bit nervous but I don't see a point in postponing this decision any longer.

Max9

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Vanessa

Michael

If you communicate well enough,and can adjust the rules and make another test period,I think it is a good way to do it.You both can be sure you like this lifestyle.

However,do you think your girlfriend would often like to forbid you to orgasm?It seems your relationship was pertty classical,so I'm a bit surprised she could act this way.

How long would be you first test period?

Angelina

Michael Therefore, I have made my mind up. I am going to tell her that I want to start the test period.

i wish you good luck, hopefully your girlfriend knows that she is taking on a very responsible task 🙂

Michael I said 2 months but that does not mean it will be exactly 2 months to the day. It means that we will discuss and evalute things when we feel like we should talk sometime during the 2nd half of January.

i think two months is a good period and as you say, it is important to analyse in between how far your training is

Michael

Vanessa However,do you think your girlfriend would often like to forbid you to orgasm?It seems your relationship was pertty classical,so I'm a bit surprised she could act this way.

As I said before we had used a chastity device for kinky reasons sometimes before I came up with the idea of integrating it into our relationship for other reasons as well. Therefore I would not describe our relationship as purely classical.
However, it is true that she did not seem to really enjoy denying me orgasms but during the time when I tried to bring up the topic of making chastity more normal she already showed that she likes the idea of having complete control over my sexuality. I was surprised as well how much she seems to like it.
I am not sure how far this might go now. It can be that I am allowed to have an orgasm a few times in a row and then that she will deny it for some weeks and so on. Of course, if she enjoys it very much, I would expect that my orgasms might be reduced to something like once in a months or two eventually on a regular basis with some possible longer periods of denial in between even.

Vanessa How long would be you first test period?

I said 2 months but that does not mean it will be exactly 2 months to the day. It means that we will discuss and evalute things when we feel like we should talk sometime during the 2nd half of January.

Vanessa

Michael

Let us know how it went!

Angelina

I agree.

Michael

I advise you to have the talks when not feeling too bad or frustrated.

Michael

It is a bit different.

Or course,unlike you,we haven't the choice(well,we have,but with some hard consequences with our families).But,when moving out,or getting married;(depending on each case),we would be free(except if wanting to still wear one,but it would be our choice);in your case,I doubt it would change much once you made an agreement about it with your girlfriend,even if you get married.

Michael

Angelina it is important to analyse in between how far your training is

What do you mean about my training? What aspects of training do you mean?

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