Asking parents to be belted

Max9

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Michael

Vanessa
First of all thank's for all the ideas and help. I have taken a lot of time to think about the test period.
I can see that the token method has got its pros but the downside is that my gf could be in a mood where she wants to have sex but deny me an orgasm. Then she would have to either let me have one or would have to abstain from having sex.
Let's face it. It is my own wish to be locked into a chastity belt. It is my own wish that she ensures I cannot masturbate anymore and she will have to take a lot of responsibility. Therefore I think it's only fair that she gets complete control as it makes a lot of things easier.

You should know that we have a very good basis for communication. Therefore I do not see the danger of having to refrain from chastity after the test period because I could realize that this would be too hard for me. If so I think we could discuss things again and change rules. However, if we find out, that she wants to make it even more extrem and I cannot take it, that would be sad. On the other hand, if I don't accept to try chastity this way now, I miss the way I really want to live. Just because there could be a problem that we could solve with communication should not hinder me to try this I think.
By the way, even after a 2 months test period we could change a little bit and try another longer test period again until things have been adjusted to fit the way we want to incorporate chastity into our relationship continously.

Therefore, I have made my mind up. I am going to tell her that I want to start the test period.
Of course, I am a bit nervous but I don't see a point in postponing this decision any longer.

Vanessa

Michael

If you communicate well enough,and can adjust the rules and make another test period,I think it is a good way to do it.You both can be sure you like this lifestyle.

However,do you think your girlfriend would often like to forbid you to orgasm?It seems your relationship was pertty classical,so I'm a bit surprised she could act this way.

How long would be you first test period?

Angelina

Michael Therefore, I have made my mind up. I am going to tell her that I want to start the test period.

i wish you good luck, hopefully your girlfriend knows that she is taking on a very responsible task 🙂

Michael I said 2 months but that does not mean it will be exactly 2 months to the day. It means that we will discuss and evalute things when we feel like we should talk sometime during the 2nd half of January.

i think two months is a good period and as you say, it is important to analyse in between how far your training is

Michael

Vanessa However,do you think your girlfriend would often like to forbid you to orgasm?It seems your relationship was pertty classical,so I'm a bit surprised she could act this way.

As I said before we had used a chastity device for kinky reasons sometimes before I came up with the idea of integrating it into our relationship for other reasons as well. Therefore I would not describe our relationship as purely classical.
However, it is true that she did not seem to really enjoy denying me orgasms but during the time when I tried to bring up the topic of making chastity more normal she already showed that she likes the idea of having complete control over my sexuality. I was surprised as well how much she seems to like it.
I am not sure how far this might go now. It can be that I am allowed to have an orgasm a few times in a row and then that she will deny it for some weeks and so on. Of course, if she enjoys it very much, I would expect that my orgasms might be reduced to something like once in a months or two eventually on a regular basis with some possible longer periods of denial in between even.

Vanessa How long would be you first test period?

I said 2 months but that does not mean it will be exactly 2 months to the day. It means that we will discuss and evalute things when we feel like we should talk sometime during the 2nd half of January.

Vanessa

Michael

Let us know how it went!

Angelina

I agree.

Michael

I advise you to have the talks when not feeling too bad or frustrated.

Michael

It is a bit different.

Or course,unlike you,we haven't the choice(well,we have,but with some hard consequences with our families).But,when moving out,or getting married;(depending on each case),we would be free(except if wanting to still wear one,but it would be our choice);in your case,I doubt it would change much once you made an agreement about it with your girlfriend,even if you get married.

Michael

Angelina it is important to analyse in between how far your training is

What do you mean about my training? What aspects of training do you mean?

Angelina

Michael What do you mean about my training? What aspects of training do you mean?

i mean for example to have a long conversation every week about whether you are reaching your goals and how you are doing psychologically 🙂

Michael

Angelina i mean for example to have a long conversation every week about whether you are reaching your goals and how you are doing psychologically

That does make sense but I think we can do that whenever we feel like and don't need a schedule for ist.
The question is however how it should or could effect my situation.

My goal is to not masturbate. That is achieved as long as I am locked up.
I expect to fact some bad days when I want the belt to come off and when I doubt my dicision was correct.
You can call me mad but I hope she will show no mercy then and only sympathy if I am not complaining. Otherwise the future of continous wear might be too hard then if I am not prepared for that.

Angelina

Michael My goal is to not masturbate. That is achieved as long as I am locked up.
I expect to fact some bad days when I want the belt to come off and when I doubt my dicision was correct.

i think it will be difficult, but you must always remember that big goals are more important than small ones 🙂

Michael

Angelina i think it will be difficult, but you must always remember that big goals are more important than small ones

That's true. Sometimes I feel bad about the fact that it is me who wanted to be belted and now talkes about how hard things might become whereas others here are belted involuntarily and cannot expect to get any sexual pleasure soon.
Maybe that is also one reason why I don't want to negotiate about any rules to my advantage with my gf.
You and all the others here who did not ask to be belted are so strong, that's admirable.

Angelina

Michael You and all the others here who did not ask to be belted are so strong,

thank you, but this has less to do with strength than with the fact that we don't have the chance to change much of our situation. it is more a matter of accepting and in parts also of resigning

Michael

Vanessa Let us know how it went!

Unfortunately we had some private issues that I don't want to discuss here (nothing about our relationship) and I have got some health problems with my back why I stopped wearing the belt and why I have not. We came to the conclusion that we should use my ball trap device instead until I can wear the full belt again even if this device is not preferred.
Maybe this solution isn't so bad at all because I was not able to wear the full belt 24/7. I have managed to wear it for 24h before I needed a break but still some training would be necessary. In order to make our test period more realistic the ball trap device can help as I am able to wear it 24/7.

Two days ago wh eventuelly started our 2 months test period. I feel so happy to be locked again, relieved in a way that I don't have control over my sexuality again and don't have to worry about what negativ impact masturbation could have.

Vanessa I advise you to have the talks when not feeling too bad or frustrated.
That is a good idea and we have had our talks before only when the mood was not too bad.

The rules now are pretty simple. I am only unlocked at least once a week to have an errection and besides health issues, doctor visits, travels by plane (not really at the moment...), a supervised cleaning break or she wanting to have sex there is no way the device comes off. These breaks are to be kept as short as possible. When we have sex I am only allowed to have an orgasm if she has permitted it.

For our next conversation I have already thought about some aspects.
It is not clear what should happen if I accidently have an orgasm when we have sex.
I am although thinking about the idea that I am not allowed to ask for a removal of the device or to whine about my situation because I don't want to upset her and hope that our test period will be a success.

VanessaIt is a bit different.
Or course,unlike you,we haven't the choice(well,we have,but with some hard consequences with our families).But,when moving out,or getting married;(depending on each case),we would be free(except if wanting to still wear one,but it would be our choice);in your case,I doubt it would change much once you made an agreement about it with your girlfriend,even if you get married.

You are probably right but the prospect of using chastity to completely change our lifes to the better without an end in sight and a supporting gf/wife who might enforce this is what I am looking for whereas you might be looking to regain control over your sexuality at some point.

Sara2001

Angelina thank you, but this has less to do with strength than with the fact that we don't have the chance to change much of our situation. it is more a matter of accepting and in parts also of resigning

I felt much stronger after I accepted to stay belted after marriage. Because I was asked.

Vanessa

Angelina

Right.

Sara2001

Sure,your situation,and the fact you would still wear a chastity belt after marriage,is very different.It would be willingly wearing it,the meaning and feelings about it are different.

Angelina

Sara2001

i don't doubt it, but after the wedding you wear the belt voluntarily and as has been written here many times, this changes everything

Sara2001

Vanessa I have ups and downs. For the last week or so I absolutely hate my equipment. I often ask myself if it is worth. It's definitely something I only accept, not something I love, but even when I hate it, I can support the idea of doing something like this for your relationship and the one you love. It's okay to feel that you pay a VERY high price, as long as you feel that what you get in return it worth it.

Angelina

Sara2001 It's okay to feel that you pay a VERY high price, as long as you feel that what you get in return it worth it.

this is understandable and i hope that daniel appreciates what you pay for a high price and that he loves you unconditionally 🙂

Vanessa

Sara2001

I think it is very common to hate it.A reason for hating it more recently?

But,as long as you're more happy than unhappy due to wearing it after being married,I think it is not too bad.But take care to wonder if you would not be even more happy without it on.

Sara2001

Vanessa I think it is very common to hate it.A reason for hating it more recently?

No just regular ups and downs. Sometimes I see what others can easily do and it causes a down.. But then I see what I get im return and get an up. Actually there are maybe a few more downs 🙂

Vanessa But take care to wonder if you would not be even more happy without it on.

I think what I win with the chastity equipment is more then what I would win without the equipment. This doesn't mean that I will ever really like my chastity equipment 🙂

Angelina

Sara2001 Actually there are maybe a few more downs 🙂

so there are generally more ups than downs? i think thats the most important thing is that it generally works well

Sara2001 I think what I win with the chastity equipment is more then what I would win without the equipment.

well, although i still don't understand why you can't win these things without chastity equipment? your relationship system would also work well without it too

Vanessa

Sara2001 Sometimes I see what others can easily do and it causes a down..

Understandable.

Sara2001 I think what I win with the chastity equipment is more then what I would win without the equipment.

But to be sure,I still think there should be a short try in an equal right relationship.

Sara2001 I would say it's equal about my chastity equipment but there are definitely more ups regarding my whole relationship

So not too bad.

Michael some training would be necessary.

Sure.A good training take time.

Michael Two days ago wh eventuelly started our 2 months test period. I feel so happy to be locked again, relieved in a way that I don't have control over my sexuality again and don't have to worry about what negativ impact masturbation could have.

So it makes you mainly happy,presently?

Michael For our next conversation I have already thought about some aspects.

I think you're right to have several talks during the test period,as,as you've noticed,you can have more questions during it you haven't thought for the first talk.

Michael You are probably right but the prospect of using chastity to completely change our lifes to the better without an end in sight and a supporting gf/wife who might enforce this is what I am looking for whereas you might be looking to regain control over your sexuality at some point.

Right,our goals are different!😉

Sara2001

Angelina so there are generally more ups than downs? i think thats the most important thing is that it generally works well

I would say it's equal about my chastity equipment but there are definitely more ups regarding my whole relationship.

Angelina well, although i still don't understand why you can't win these things without chastity equipment? your relationship system would also work well without it too

It is a very central aspects of our lifestyle that he is in charge about my sexuality and that I give him as many wonderful orgasms as he like, without me expecting something in return and without me getting something in return, except seeing how happy and proud he is about me. It's a central aspect of our relationship that I should get my satisfaction only from his satisfaction, that I completely focus on his pleasure and that I don't try to be selfish during intercourse by making my pleasure of importance. If he wants me to feel sexual pleasure, he will give me whatever he sees fit and whenever he sees fit (after marriage, until then he doesn't have the keys).

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