Asking parents to be belted

Sara2001

Angelina hmm, yes ok i agree with you, probably i think too complicated, but i think that one system is not enough to be happy for several decades

Yes, but this just one aspect of our life anyway.

Angelina

Vanessa But to be sure,I still think there should be a short try in an equal right relationship.

good idea, maybe test for one or two months and then decide 😉

Sara2001 Yes, but this just one aspect of our life anyway.

that's not really what I meant

you both will get older and depending on how old you are you have different ideas of what is good for your marriage.
for example, at the beginning of my relationship i played role-playing games with camryn to test whether our ideas of life are similar even in old age

Sara2001

Angelina you both will get older and depending on how old you are you have different ideas of what is good for your marriage.

Yes, maybe we change fundam aspects over time, but for me it feels like this aspect is so very important for our relationship, that maybe the rules will massively change over the decades, but the basis that he is in charge and I have to follow will stay in place.

Michael

Vanessa So it makes you mainly happy,presently?

Absolutely. Of course there is some minor discomfort, errection attemps don't feel always nice but this is nothing compared to all the positive effects it has on me.
When I did not wear my belt because of the problems mentioned before I missed being kept chaste. Now I am relieved again that I cannot waste energy on masturbation, I feel cared and protected and I am absolutely not afraid of the fact that I cannot decide anymore when I will have an orgasm. It's more like the opposite is true. I am happy that my gf can enjoy all the befenits from my sacrifice but even then for me it doesn't feel like a sacrifice.
Even if I may have to wait months at a time for my next orgasm it does not scare me because I know that it will be well worth then waiting for it.
What bothers me is still that this is new for her as well and that she might give in to my begging for a release if it happens at some point. It is one thing having discussed that and having expressed that I wish her to never give in and another to be in this situation. Probably I can only feel better about that when the situation will have occured and I will know then that she can be strict in order to support me in my weak moments.
Maybe I see everything a bit too positive due to it being new and excited but at least I like to enjoy it as long as I can 🙂.

Fatherof3

Michael If you made the commitment to be chaste in fer favor. Why ask to be let out?

Vanessa

Michael What bothers me is still that this is new for her as well and that she might give in to my begging for a release if it happens at some point.

You would need time to be sure she manages it easily or if it is hard for her.

Michael Maybe I see everything a bit too positive due to it being new and excited but at least I like to enjoy it as long as I can 🙂.

The test period would be useful to know if these feelings last or not.

Angelina

But if she's unhappy,the rules would be stopped/changed or she would break-up with him if he doesn't accept to adapt to make her happy.

Michael

Fatherof3 If you made the commitment to be chaste in fer favor. Why ask to be let out?

I don't want to be let out but I might think so when I will have been denied for a long time. I expect that my mind can switch between wanting to be let out (or believing it) and wanting to continue. Why shouldn't I expect to crave for an orgasm at some point?
I don't think that this might become a permanent state of mind. Therefore I need to trust my gf that she can be strict and guide me through these times when I seem to have changed my mind.
If I would had experienced that already I think I could be more relaxed and would not have to worry about it.

Fatherof3

Michael As time goes on. you two will find the happy medium and get comfortable in what you are doing. Things will work out. Its and emotional rolller coaster at first. but it keels out and becomes something more.
Yes its ok to want to orgasm. But not to the point to where its every other day or so. Or to where you are bothering her. I did that once. I didn't orgasm for 2 months as a lesson. Now i just let things happen. She lets me out when she wants it.

Angelina

Sara2001

hmm, I don't know if I like that

of course you can be satisfied with this lifestyle for decades, but I find your actions a little bit without alternative, I think several strategies would be better

Angelina

Vanessa But if she's unhappy,the rules would be stopped/changed or she would break-up with him if he doesn't accept to adapt to make her happy.

yes now current, but i have often said that it makes a difference if we are new with someone or married for decades

Vanessa

Angelina

I agree,it could be harder if they're married for a long time when she would ask to change the rules.But I think she would keep her decision,and leave if he would not adapt the rules to make her happy again.

Angelina

Vanessa I agree,it could be harder if they're married for a long time

that's what i mean. we don't separate from our partners overnight when we've been married for 30 years and maybe even have children, even if the rules don't make us happy it can be a difficult decision.

Vanessa

Angelina

It would probably need more thinking and maybe some tries to manage it,but I think if she's unhappy,she could still quit the relationship.Especially as it is easier,and more accepted,nowadays.

Angelina

Vanessa

I don't know, the "pain threshold" just gets higher and higher every year.

Vanessa

Angelina

It seems she,logically,consider her happiness is the main part of it,so I don't worry too much for her...

Angelina

Vanessa

i hope it stays that way, but i can't say i don't have concerns

Hanka

Hi.
Did it somebody? How...?

Laura

Hanka Did it somebody?

You still haven't? 😂

Michael

I have not given any updates during the last 2 months or so. Therefore I think it is time to tell what has happened.
First of all we did our test period but it did not last the full two months as planned. I'll go into the reasons for that later in this post. This might sound like the test period wasn't good but that is not the case. It was a wonderful experience and we could enjoy it both.
During the whole time I was in a mindset to never expect an orgasm which helped a lot. Therefore I was never reluctant to be locked up again, I even appricieted it. It just felt good to be protected to not feel any stress about to ejaculate as soon as possible again and just to enjoy pleasing her sexually. She liked it a lot that I was always ready and focussing on her needs only. It happened more than once that she got more than one orgasms while I got none.
Nevertheless she allowed me to get an orgasm about once a week and it felt really good but if she would have made me to wait much longer I would not have complained. That would have been totally fine.
Once she even said the could like the idee to not let me cum at all if it was possible but I don't believe that she would really consider that.
For a couple of weeks now I have not been chaste and I have to admit that I really miss it. If she offered to keep me chaste again under the condition that I would not get an orgasms the first few months, I would immediately agree.
However, the reason why we stopped is that we talked about our future plans and to get childern which is something that we both want. She is afraid that chastity belts or ball trap devices could damage my testicles or reduce the quality of my sperm. The reason is that a ball trap device pulls the testicles away from the body and that there is always a bit of pressure while a belt keeps the balls closer to the body. If the temperature of the testicles get above 36 °C the quality of sperm is already influenced and while wearing the belt I got the feeling that my balls were a bit warmer as usual.
However, we don't have any clear evidence that a ball trap device does cause some damage but we don't want to take any risks. That's why we temporarily have deciced to postpone keeping me chaste.
If someone has clear evidence that a ball trap device cannout cause any damage in this way I would appriciete to get more information because then I could at least wear such a device.

Angelina

Michael

thanks for the detailed update 🙂

I don't know if the device is harmful for the procreation of children, that's for the men in the forum to answer.

I wish you continued good luck with the topic of chastity and also with the topic of children. 🙂

Max9

Michael me cum at all if it was possible

Well, I think it's better if you do cum from time to time ... doesn't need to be very often though .. even more imporant is that you have a full erection every few weeks / every month at least- that really is important.

I have worn a chastity cage for five years now (ok, I had many breaks) but that didn't harm my testicles - still, I decided to go for a belt.

If you want to make children - maybe just have an ejaculation the day before you want to make them to make sure your semen is all fresh and young and by that of high quality.

Fatherof3

Michael owever, we don't have any clear evidence that a ball trap device does cause some damage but we don't want to take any risks. That's why we temporarily have deciced to postpone keeping me chaste.
If someone has clear evidence that a ball trap device cannout cause any damage in this way I would appriciete to get more information because then I could at least wear such a device.

I don't know what kind of evidence you would seek.
I've been using a device since forever it seems. Regardless of however long. We have still had two children. On first tries even.

I haven't seen much change in production, other than having more.

As always though. Results may very.

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