Telling others about your belt

Joh

Angelina probably, although i still think that if he really loved her, he would be able to cope with it. she remains the same person with or without chastity devices, and she should keep telling herself that, because only through self-confidence can she prevent the devices from intimidating her character.

I see it different. Puberty is a time when a lot happens to you physically and emotionally. On the one hand, he sees what your sister is going through and knows that it goes far beyond the limits of what is allowed. He can't help, he can't talk to his parents or anyone else to find help for himself.
Men have different behaviour patterns than women and so it may be that the situation has overwhelmed him.
You know my position on the subject and I am in the situation that I neither know for sure if the story is true nor where you live. So my situation is easier, despite all this I do not think about it much to not get really angry.

Angelina

Sara2001 I agree to this. Maybe it's better to find it out sooner then later.

and i would like to stress again very importantly that maybe you should help your sister to become more self-confident, you are very self-confident despite your limitations, give your sister some of that 😉

Vanessa I hope it would not impact how she would manage future relationships...And she would not do like @catherine98,who doesn't dare to date a man she likes,due to her chastity devices...

that is my fear 🙁 that is why she should urgently become more self-confident

Vanessa I'm not so sure.Except if he had lied directly to her while explaining his reasons to break-up with her;I can understand how he thought and felt.If she was not limited at first,or the rules have adapted more,he may not have felt pity for her,and that could have changed the situation.

as said pure speculation

Sara2001 and the chastity bra

did she not get the chastity bra until after christmas 2019 ????

Sara2001 He sent her home alone in the past.

I agree with your father, that is not right at all.

Joh You know my position on the subject

yes, i know them 😉 but i am more interested in what makes a happy relationship in general and a chastity belt should not be an obstacle 🙂

Joh

Sara2001 Her boyfriend wasn't very sensitive for this. He sent her home alone in the past.

This was bad. He should have accompanied her home.
This gives a different view on him.

Vanessa

Sara2001 No, she started with the tightbands and the chastity bra because she masturbated in school.and had to switch school because of this.

Ok,I thought the thigh bands was due to this,and the chastity bra due to her relationship.

Sara2001 At least this week it looks like he will do it.

Good.

Sara2001 Exactly.

So we agree about it!😉

Sara2001 I have the feeling that this changed over time. I have in mind that you don't fight to hard against the belt, because you don't want to loose/destroy/damage the relationship to your parents.

Damaging strongly my relationship with Emilie is a "red line" for me.If they try to do it,I would choose to break my relationship with my parents.And they know it.

Sara2001 My boyfriend has a few more freedoms, because my father can trust him that he make sure that I will not feel sexual pleasure, be out alone at night and things like that, while her Ex didn't care about these things or even wanted the opposite. That's why Daniel let to more freedom for me.

I agree about things concerning your safety,like not being out alone at night;however,for the other parts,it seems your father wants mainly someone sharing his point of view,which would be the case more often in a man led relationship.So,it is unlikely he acts differently with the next boyfriend of your sister.

Sara2001 Yes,.my father is stricter, but I think he didn't fight against this relationship. She had her chastity equipment, her tasks in the household and her curfew, yes they where not allowed to sleep in the same bed and she was not allowed to sleep at his place, but for example she was allowed to fulfill his sexual needs, they could meet whenever they wanted and so on.

I'm surprised he accepts she fulfills the sexual needs of her boyfriend;in my case,it considered as having sex and so,severely punished.But,why he doesn't want them to share her bed,if it is allowed and she wears her chastity devices at night?

Your father seems to not fight it,yes,but doesn't do anything to make it easier either...Otherwise,he would have allowed her a bit more freedom.

Sara2001 It can be hard to find someone, but I don't see what rules my father could give up.

@Angelina and me have given some examples in the precedent posts.

Sara2001 My father has nothing against this, but he things she should have the knowledge to do these things.

But she does her part of the household chores since several years,right?So she probably have enough knowledge about it.

Sara2001 Her boyfriend wasn't very sensitive for this. He sent her home alone in the past. That's why my father decided that she has to be at home at night. I think with a new boyfriend she would get her next chance.

On this point I agree her boyfriend has acted very badly,and your father decision was understandable.I mainly agree with him.

Sara2001 This happened from time to time but not lately. He wasn't very supportive and obviously didn't like to sleep in another room.

It is very unpleasant,yes,but better than nothing.

Sara2001 Me, too. I hope she will start to search for the next relationship, soon.

Let's hope it,yes.But I doubt the end would be better.She may have a long talk with your feather,hoping he understand that more freedom would be necessary for her in this case;but i doubt he would accept.

Joh

I agree.

Angelina that is my fear 🙁 that is why she should urgently become more self-confident

It seems she was.Not sure if this experience haven't damaged it,however...

Angelina as said pure speculation

Yes,but possible too.

Angelina did she not get the chastity bra until after christmas 2019 ????

It is what I thought,too.

Angelina I agree with your father, that is not right at all.

I agree too.

Sara2001 I help her wherever I can. I think accepting limitations like I do is much easier when you have clear positions and you know what you want.

Probably,yes.But not easy to accept,however.

Sara2001

Angelina and i would like to stress again very importantly that maybe you should help your sister to become more self-confident, you are very self-confident despite your limitations, give your sister some of that

I help her wherever I can. I think accepting limitations like I do is much easier when you have clear positions and you know what you want.

Angelina that is my fear 🙁 that is why she should urgently become more self-confident

Why do you think she is not? She fights a lot, even risking and getting punished for this.

Angelina did she not get the chastity bra until after christmas 2019 ????

Yes, but this was at the beginning of the relationship. At least since my father knows about this relationship, it was always there. They only had a very short time in the beginning where they hide the relationship and they didn't had many chances to do things,.my sister is also not the kind of person who allows a man to play with her body at the very first meeting.

Angelina

Sara2001 I think accepting limitations like I do is much easier when you have clear positions and you know what you want.

I think so too and it would certainly help your sister. 🙂

Sara2001 Why do you think she is not?

I don't know exactly, she was very open in her first relationship and I'm worried that this experience will make her much more reserved.

Sara2001

thanks for the reminder, that's how i remembered it, i was just confused because i understood she got the bra after masturbating at school

Angelina

Vanessa Ok,I thought the thigh bands was due to this,and the chastity bra due to her relationship.

I was thinking the same thing

Sara2001

Vanessa your father wants mainly someone sharing his point of view,which would be the case more often in a man led relationship.So,it is unlikely he acts differently with the next boyfriend of your sister.

I disagree with that. Of course he is happy, when a possible next boyfriend shares some views, but I don't think it's necessary for him.

He just doesn't accept when he doesn't take care of her safety, when he tries to work around her chastity equipment or when he doesn't respect that she has rules she needs to follow, like her curfew.

Vanessa I'm surprised he accepts she fulfills the sexual needs of her boyfriend;in my case,it considered as having sex and so,severely punished.But,why he doesn't want them to share her bed,if it is allowed and she wears her chastity devices at night?

For my father it's not a problem when a man gets what makes him happy before marriage and he supports when women learn to give pleasure to man.

He hasn't shown, that he accepts the limitations she has, he doesn't want him to try to work around her equipment all night.

Vanessa Otherwise,he would have allowed her a bit more freedom.

I think it was related to her boyfriend and not to man in general.

Vanessa Let's hope it,yes.But I doubt the end would be better.She may have a long talk with your feather,hoping he understand that more freedom would be necessary for her in this case;but i doubt he would accept.

My father will give her more freedom when he has the feeling, that they don't work around his goals. A later curfew, some control over hand money, sleeping in the same bed in her or his place, but nothing related to her equipment and only under the condition, that he doesn't fight her equipment.

Angelina

Sara2001 He just doesn't accept when he doesn't take care of her safety, when he tries to work around her chastity equipment or when he doesn't respect that she has rules she needs to follow, like her curfew.

I admit that is understandable, at least when I think about it if I were the mother of a daughter.

Sara2001 He hasn't shown, that he accepts the limitations she has,

It is very important, otherwise the relationship with a girl who wears chastity devices cannot work.

Sara2001 and only under the condition, that he doesn't fight her equipment.

I have to disagree, that is (almost) not possible, unless it is like your boyfriend who supports it. 😂

Vanessa

Sara2001 I disagree with that. Of course he is happy, when a possible next boyfriend shares some views, but I don't think it's necessary for him.

He just doesn't accept when he doesn't take care of her safety, when he tries to work around her chastity equipment or when he doesn't respect that she has rules she needs to follow, like her curfew.

I agree about safety,and mainly about respecting her rules.But I don't think it is possible that he doesn't fight her devices.

Sara2001 I think it was related to her boyfriend and not to man in general.

As an exterior member of your family,I consider it differently;but I guess you know better,as a member of your family.Anyway,your sister would know if she can trust him about supporting her choice of relationship depending how he act with her next boyfriend.

Sara2001 My father will give her more freedom when he has the feeling, that they don't work around his goals. A later curfew, some control over hand money, sleeping in the same bed in her or his place, but nothing related to her equipment and only under the condition, that he doesn't fight her equipment.

A boyfriend she has would always fight,it is natural.If it is a requirement,she would never have more freedom,until she leaves,if she decides so.

And,even if he can't be trusted about taking care of her safety,it should not affect more hand money or sharing a bed in your house.

Angelina It is very important, otherwise the relationship with a girl who wears chastity devices cannot work.

Right.

Angelina I have to disagree, that is (almost) not possible, unless it is like your boyfriend who supports it. 😂

Totally agree.

Sara2001 for example with tools.

About it,i agree.

I'm allowed to fight my chastity devices,but if I try to break it with tools,I would be severely punished.And it could be dangerous.

Sara2001 I think a boyfriend should be able to keep anything like it is and don't try to get around it, as long as the couple can go other ways for his release and we know that this is the case.

Very rarely.

Foxies During the day they are connected by a chain which allows me an almost normal stride

How long is your chain?

Sara2001 if I could get rid of one of them, it would most probably be the bra, too.

Any chance of it?

Angelina i agree with you, but i think in every relationship there is a moment or two when the partner tries to get around the equipment, i would even say it happens automatically and without bad intentions.

Sure.

Angelina i would disagree, of course the bra is not comfortable (on the contrary) but if i had to choose i would always prefer the bra because although it is very restrictive when we are aroused, it doesn't weigh down our everyday life that much.

Me too.Even,if I hate the chastity bra(and it is true it is very hard emotionally),thigh bands would restrict me too much in everyday life.

Joh

Don't hesitate to do it!🙂

But instead of "prefer" I would say "hate the less"!😉

Sara2001

Angelina I have to disagree, that is (almost) not possible, unless it is like your boyfriend who supports it.

I think there is a big range from not loving it, to fighting against it, for example with tools.

I think a boyfriend should be able to keep anything like it is and don't try to get around it, as long as the couple can go other ways for his release and we know that this is the case.

This doesn't mean that he has to be a fan of her equipment by any means.

Joh

Sara2001 I think there is a big range from not loving it, to fighting against it, for example with tools.

I agree.

Sara2001 This doesn't mean that he has to be a fan of her equipment by any means.

It is the chastity belt and bra it could work but the thighs band is just bullying. It is out of proportion from the restriction and emotional burden to the benefit.

Angelina

Sara2001 I think a boyfriend should be able to keep anything like it is and don't try to get around it, as long as the couple can go other ways for his release and we know that this is the case.

i agree with you, but i think in every relationship there is a moment or two when the partner tries to get around the equipment, i would even say it happens automatically and without bad intentions.

Ines Frankly, is far worst than bands.

i would disagree, of course the bra is not comfortable (on the contrary) but if i had to choose i would always prefer the bra because although it is very restrictive when we are aroused, it doesn't weigh down our everyday life that much.

Ines

Joh It is the chastity belt and bra it could work but the thighs band is just bullying. It is out of proportion from the restriction and emotional burden to the benefit.

Fortunately I do not have to wear a bra, because it is a full madness.
Fortunately I wear bands in the time gaps that I need wear them and not 24/7 that is very harsh.
However, if the Devil makes to choose one of them, sincerely I choose bands.
Can you imagine how much important is the breast for us? It is a huge part of our identity. A big percentage of the time used for clothes choosing is about cleavage, how fit the dress or shirt in our breast...
Frankly, is far worst than bands.
However, use bands 24/7 is not only a nonsense but also dangerous and it will not help to maintain nice legs.

Foxies

Ines However, use bands 24/7 is not only a nonsens

I usually find myself in agreement with Ines - smiles. However, on the topic of thigh bands, I have to differ slightly. I do wear them almost 24/7 and for the most part I am happy to do so. During the day they are connected by a chain which allows me an almost normal stride, though I admit a sprint would be impossible 🤣 . If we hike or do vigorous exercise, the chain will be removed for the sake of safety. At night my partner applies a padlock in addition to the connecting chain (basically she just leaves the chain which the padlock makes redundant anyway). This is a notable thing and shortens my stride considerably, making stairs difficult. She does love the way it makes me walk though 🤣. The padlock is removed first thing in the morning.

The only time my thigh bands are removed are when my CB is also removed such as each night in the shower for cleansing, when she examines me and when we play.

I love the security thigh bands provide and also the fact that my sexual frustrations are decreased. Periodically I do have the urge to stretch and open my thighs and my partner will unlock the connecting chain when she sees it is bothering. This allows me to stretch out for a few minutes. This of course keeps her involved with me and my care, which is something I crave.

So thigh bands can be worn fairly continuously without despair, and given the choice I would choose them every day over a metal chastity bra which I have rarely worn. I find that very hot and uncomfortable and have no doubt would find sleep very difficult. In that I agree 100% with Ines.

Joh

Foxies
I agree with you but your situation is totally different to the situation of Saras sister. She wears it without consents and is looking for an equal relation. She is also in the difficult time of puberty when her body and psyche go through strong changes. This makes the situation much worse and is an additional burden on top of that. Then she has to be careful if and when she tells a friend about it. As Sara wrote, her relationship with her family is very important to her. She will always have to remember that if she makes a mistake, the police and the youth welfare office could be at the door one day and her father will go to jail.
From my point of view the chastity belt is a sufficient protection. Everything else is over the top. But this is only my opinion and from the side line. I don't know the whole situation and we got only little information was Saras sister thinks and feel.

Sara2001

Foxies for the most part I am happy to do so. During the day they are connected by a chain which allows me an almost normal stride, though I admit a sprint would be impossible 🤣 . If we hike or do vigorous exercise, the chain will be removed for the sake of safety. At night my partner applies a padlock in addition to the connecting chain (basically she just leaves the chain which the padlock makes redundant anyway). This is a notable thing and shortens my stride considerably, making stairs difficult. She does love the way it makes me walk though 🤣. The padlock is removed first thing in the morning.

That's very, very similar to my situation, except that the hiking situation will only happen after marriage. I don't think it has any impact on the shape of my legs.

Foxies Periodically I do have the urge to stretch and open my thighs and my partner will unlock the connecting chain when she sees it is bothering. This allows me to stretch out for a few minutes.

This possibility would be great, I can only do this during my weekly shower without the belt.

Foxies So thigh bands can be worn fairly continuously without despair, and given the choice I would choose them every day over a metal chastity bra which I have rarely worn. I find that very hot and uncomfortable and have no doubt would find sleep very difficult.

I am definitely not a fan of the chastity bra and if I could get rid of one of them, it would most probably be the bra, too.

Jen

Foxies

I've been wanting to reply to this but not really knowing what to say. I think really I just want to say thankyou for saying what is common sense. This forum is a weird introduction. Most web searches for "chastity belt" are porn or fantasy. This place tries to have real discussion and make some things seem normal.
Statements like this I would not believe elsewhere but your posts are very genuine and so I believe you.

Foxies However, on the topic of thigh bands, I have to differ slightly. I do wear them almost 24/7 and for the most part I am happy to do so.

But yes a very different situation and you do so well at writing what is wrong with forcing on others and what is not normal.

I've been thinking about what punishment I will get for refusing and for going back on an agreement. I can't imagine any actual forcing to wear that is just not them. I hadn't even considered education until I read "shelter, sustenance, and education" if they didn't pay I'd move to a public school for my last year. That would be the worst they could do without breaking the law but that is impossible. They support me and invest in my future they would not ruin it. Really I will be grounded so no phone no pocket money and no going out. I have not gotten myself a job so this has a big impact on me.

Joh

Angelina i would disagree, of course the bra is not comfortable (on the contrary) but if i had to choose i would always prefer the bra

Now we should create a poll to see what most of you prefer.

Angelina

Joh Now we should create a poll to see what most of you prefer.

fortunately only a few wear the "full equipment" so i don't know if it's worth it 😉

Vanessa A boyfriend she has would always fight,it is natural.If it is a requirement,she would never have more freedom,until she leaves,if she decides so.

I agree 100% with this

Vanessa I'm allowed to fight my chastity devices,but if I try to break it with tools,I would be severely punished.And it could be dangerous.

that's exactly how it is with me, light fights are ok, but if i try it seriously with tools i would be punished severely 🙁

Sara2001 I think a boyfriend will always want to fight against it (if he is not like Daniel 🙂 ). But I think it is a big difference to want to do something and to do something.

I'm sorry, then your father would have to issue a general ban on touching your sister's body and no relationship can work like that.

Foxies

Vanessa How long is your chain?

This is Foxies partner since she is asleep. "D" ring to "D" ring is about 6 cm. The padlock reduces it to about 2 cm

Sara2001

Vanessa Anyway,your sister would know if she can trust him about supporting her choice of relationship depending how he act with her next boyfriend.

Definitely. I hope she doesn't have to wait for to long.

Vanessa A boyfriend she has would always fight,it is natural.If it is a requirement,she would never have more freedom,until she leaves,if she decides so.

I think a boyfriend will always want to fight against it (if he is not like Daniel 🙂 ). But I think it is a big difference to want to do something and to do something.

Vanessa And,even if he can't be trusted about taking care of her safety,it should not affect more hand money or sharing a bed in your house

My father has a different view on this. Normally money is something that the females almost never get in touch with. For example my mother only goes grocery shopping on her own very rarely and then she has a detailed list and need to present the recite. Spending a bed together is even more difficult, at night and in the dark it's the perfect time to work around our equipment. Before he allows this, he has to trust him.

Vanessa I'm allowed to fight my chastity devices,but if I try to break it with tools,I would be severely punished.And it could be dangerous.

Yes, when I talk about fight, I mean some kind of force or tool to get around it to give her pleasure in the belt, not just saying how much he hate it.

Vanessa Any chance of it?

Not in the foreseeable future 🙂 🙁

Angelina

Vanessa But instead of "prefer" I would say "hate the less"!😉

that's more like it yes 😉

Vanessa

Foxies

Short chain,but a classical length,I think.

Sara2001 But I think it is a big difference to want to do something and to do something.

What sorts of fights would be tolerated or not?Using tools isn't,it seems(understandable),but what else?

Sara2001 Before he allows this, he has to trust him.

So,for him,it would be a big prove of trust to allow it?

Sara2001 Not in the foreseeable future 🙂 🙁

Better than not at all!😉

Angelina that's exactly how it is with me, light fights are ok, but if i try it seriously with tools i would be punished severely 🙁

It seems common.

Angelina I'm sorry, then your father would have to issue a general ban on touching your sister's body and no relationship can work like that.

I agree.

Sara2001 Is she allowed to play with your chastity bra and touch you on your belt at your private parts?

My parents would not like it too.But don't care about it a much as your father,however.

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