Telling others about your belt

Sara2001

Laura I'm not sure there is a relationship between sex outside of marriage and the number of weddings. In Germany the lowest number of weddings (370.000) was in 2007. In 2017 it was 407.000 and as far as I know the number is still growing.

Laura

Sara2001 I can't argue with the statistics, I just see what's going on around me. I also suspect this growth in Germany comes from a different group.

Renita

Laura Very true, but it didn't help you much

Laura

Renita Touché. But how about you? Were you married to that guy you have taken your belt off for?

Renita

Laura No, but I know what you want to say. And no, I do not regret it

Sara2001

Laura I can't argue with the statistics, I just see what's going on around me. I also suspect this growth in Germany comes from a different group.

I think you mean the people who don't have their roots in Germany. I don't think this is the case. A few years ago we mostly had kids from Turkish or Arabic families but since a few years you can see Germans with kids everywhere. I don't think there is a relationship between chastity and marriage.

Megan

Laura They don't know I can't quit

That is 100% the path I take in explaining my clothing options...
Even with all of you I sort of downplay the situation.
This is definitely a situation I contributed to myself, especially in wondering and asking about CB at a very young age.

Laura

Sara2001 I don't think there is a relationship between chastity and marriage.

How do you know they were not chaste before marriage? There is no such stat I guess. Also it might be not a coincident, two major manufacturers are in Germany 🙂

Sara2001

Laura How big are these companies. Roughly 400.000 weddings a year. To have a significant influence, a good number of belts would be needed. Only for the German market. I don't think they sell ten thousands of belts to Germany every year.

From what I know from school (without asking directly), really nobody is wearing a belt. As someone who wears one I think I would recognise someone else wearing it, at least after some time and the same in the other direction, but nobody ever asked me something.

Laura

Sara2001 It was a joke. But what is not a joke is the number of visitors from Germany here.

Sara2001

Laura Yes that's really interesting. I didn't expect many Germans here. I expected more girls from very religious families from the us.

Laura

Sara2001 Yes that's really interesting. I didn't expect many Germans here.

They are lurking. Probably too shy to start writing

Sara2001

Laura If they are in a similar situation, I hope they start writing here. It would be great to hear others storys.

Dilly

I would love to tell a special friend of mine about my belt and my situation, but I don't know how to start such a talk. Any suggestions?

Sara2001

Dilly I would love to tell a special friend of mine about my belt and my situation, but I don't know how to start such a talk. Any suggestions?

I think you should do it in small pieces and after every piece you should check her or his reaction. If you feel that there is no understanding for your situation on the other side, you should think about continuing or changing to another topic. Maybe sex before marriage is a good point to start, or how to handle the situation when parents wants you to have no sex before marriage. But most probably I'm not the best source🙂

Why do you want to invite this special person?

I would be very interested in what you did and how it worked out.

Raziel

Dilly
Start by asking if they believe in marriage first before having sex?
Would they use protective devices or pills to prevent pregnancies?
Would they use a belt if they had a choice?
Would they be happy if their parents forced a belt?

Either way, you're going to lead the conversations to adult related topics. Tbh, I think it would be better to wait until you're 17 or 18 to start talking about adult related things. These sexual topics are something you should only ask your parents before you reach adulthood. Unless you have a close friend that have talked about puberty before, you might have to start there, but I don't know, it's really up to you to bring it up or not. Everyone might say yes to bring up the belt, but it'll be ultimately up to you to start the conversation. We have no control what you say in person, either, so do your best and do what you feel is right at the right time.

Laura

@Dilly I agree with @Raziel, better to not share it to others while you are not 18, especially in the US.

However if you still want to tell, just open your waist area.

Sara2001

Laura

Laura However if you still want to tell, just open your waist area.

With this strategy you pass the point of no return from the very beginning. I think you have to be really sure that you know how the other person will react.

Dilly

why not especially in the US, Laura?

Laura

Sara2001 I think you have to be really sure that you know how the other person will react.

I think @Dilly wants to show it to a person she knows well.

Dilly why not especially in the US, Laura?

Short version, if something is not usual, most of US people consider it suspicious. But, if an idiot see my belt and call police nothing would happen because I'm an adult and it's not illegal.

Sara2001

Laura Short version, if something is not usual, most of US people consider it suspicious. But, if an idiot see my belt and call police nothing would happen because I'm an adult and it's not illegal.

It's not a big difference here, at least until you are below 18. Many people would call the police or the family department of the city. Than there would be a very good chance that you would be devided from your family, no matter what you want. Maybe you can stay if you "beg" them and tell them it's you descision when you are over 16, but it would not be easy and if they don't believe you, your parents go to jail.

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