Chastity contract

youdontknowme

WriterAlexis Definitely feel like this (as far as I reckon mis-)interpretation of Ines's post sounds like the sort of world that people like Andrew Tate would thrive in

Angelina

Milord In this post you refer to “consequences” should she refuse to stick with agreement,

no, i don't mean this consequence, i mean the consequence if she makes such a deal. the consequence of a chastity contract is that she gets a chastity belt and as a consequence has no more sexual freedom, that's what i mean

curious Why should it be a virtue for a woman but not for a man? Equal rules should be applied. Is strict belting and no orgasm before marriage is the way for women, the same should be applied for men.

curious AFAIK it is for the most part Ines who has that skewed view about female virtue only and men should somehow live by different standards.

Yes, I think that's a big difference between me and Ines, for example. I think it doesn't matter how old or what gender a person is, of course there are differences in dynamics, but a belt remains a belt regardless of who wears it, it does the same thing, namely prevent sex and orgasms

Milord

Angelina no, i don't mean this consequence, i mean the consequence if she makes such a deal. the consequence of a chastity contract is that she gets a chastity belt and as a consequence has no more sexual freedom, that's what i mean

Sorry for misunderstanding, now it's clear

MissBlossom

Those of you who try to resolve @Ines's points into an overall vision for society are missing the point.

Male and female reproductive strategies conflict with each other, so the things that make a man and a woman attractive conflict with each other. There's no way for everyone to win. It's not fair, it's just true.

I married my husband before he realized how attractive he would later become. When he got to his mid 30's he was shocked at the attention he received from women. Lucky for me I was sufficiently sweet and attentive by then that he stuck with a good thing, but from a certain perspective I won and he lost. If he'd stayed single he really could have lived it up a few years later. (I like to think I made it worth it for him, though! lol)

I advise women to marry young because it is a good strategy for THEM, not because it is best for everyone or "fair" or something like that.

Ines

MissBlossom There's no way for everyone to win. It's not fair, it's just true.

As the Nature is.

IHATETHISFORUM

It's fucked up that a parent make her daughter sign a contract that says she is obliged to wear a chastity belt. Please escape

Ines

IHATETHISFORUM

The user does not wear more a chastity belt.

But the way, who are you? Make a introduction on the introduction thread, however, reading your name, I guess you do not want a constructive dialogue.

Angelina

IHATETHISFORUM It's fucked up that a parent make her daughter sign a contract that says she is obliged to wear a chastity belt. Please escape

to reassure you, i no longer wear a belt, but with your usernames you disqualify yourself from any constructive discussion

Max9

IHATETHISFORUM @Milord, is that you?

WriterAlexis

Angelina

I rather like the name. Direct, to the point. Always appreciate a straight shooter.

Angelina

WriterAlexis

sorry but someone who has in his username that he hates this forum should not be in the forum 😉

Avery

I am pleased to announce that I now have a chastity contract. It's not written down but was agreed to verbally by me and my boyfriend. Sort of. I was enthusiastic in my agreement, he was kind of like, what? What are you talking about?

Some background. I have had a belt for 3 1/2 years. I began wearing after I was assaulted and wore it outside the house about every day and many nights. For the first year or so my only thought was physical protection. For the next year and 1/2 or so I also wore it to prevent sexual activity. But I always said that when I found a serious, and I mean serious, boyfriend I would resume sexual activity, and I did both (find a boyfriend and resume sexual activity) last fall.

Now the school year is over and my boyfriend is heading to Cape Cod (about 100km South of Boston, MA, USA) to play baseball with my brothers. I'm heading to Bar Harbor, ME, USA (about 400km North of Boston) to write. I plan to swear off any sexual activity with others and restrict sex with myself to that which is driven by fantasizing about my boyfriend. I don't really expect any problems, but I thought I would feel better if I started wearing the belt full-time, like many folks in relationships here do. With certainty I think I'll gain a better appreciation of what people here experience.

I have certain exceptions to the full-time bit. First, I have a part-time job at which I cannot wear a belt. Also, I plan to spend as much time as possible at the beach and simply won't wear it there. Also, I have to run, probably twice a day, and can't manage it then. Finally, I plan to spend as much time as I can at the beach with my breasts bare. This is a bit of a reach in the US but possible at the national park near Bar Harbor if you don't stretch it. Federal land is easier than local beaches. And I'm not sure too many men involved in chastity contracts would want that.

So I've started giving it a try. This is my third week here, less time for the NCAA track meet last weekend. I've found it annoying and I'm actually cheating. Taking it off daily and not wearing it so tight that I couldn't stick my hand in there if I wanted to. Wearing it full-time would be something to try.

Joh

Avery Nice to hear from you again and congratulation to you relationship.

It is interesting to read why you have now a chastity contract and what your goal is. But I do not see exactly where you want to go with it.
I understand the different exception not wearing it but I can't follow why you wear it loose. I think if no exception apply you should wear it well fitted.

Sin

Avery Hooray! Another normal person with realistic expectations!!

Avery

Avery I am pleased to announce that I now have a chastity contract. It's not written down but was agreed to verbally by me and my boyfriend. Sort of. I was enthusiastic in my agreement, he was kind of like, what? What are you talking about?

If I may reply to my own post, my Father has joined my boyfriend with a huh, what? response to my wearing the belt. He knows me well enough to know I'm not going to cheat (with another person) so he can't figure out why bother.

Avery Finally, I plan to spend as much time as I can at the beach with my breasts bare. This is a bit of a reach in the US but possible at the national park near Bar Harbor if you don't stretch it.

I reported maybe a year ago my father and I were at odds as to how much coverage I needed at the beach for my bottom. We compromised by my modeling stuff for him before wearing it. Oddly enough he has said nothing about bare breasts. Now I'm the one that's confused.

luhuixin

Avery why cant you wear during your job?

Sasha

Joh I’m guessing she’s not entirely used to the commitment of wearing it as the contract says she should just yet, so wearing it loosely leaves “options”.
Of course I’m just speculating and I’m sure she will answer herself when she’s ready

Avery

Joh It is interesting to read why you have now a chastity contract and what your goal is. But I do not see exactly where you want to go with it.
I understand the different exception not wearing it but I can't follow why you wear it loose. I think if no exception apply you should wear it well fitted.

Think of it like wearing a wedding ring. A wedding ring does not prevent you from doing anything. It's a symbol. An announcement that you are in a serious relationship.

Part of the reason I want to do it is just to show my partner I take the relationship seriously, that I'm willing to undergo the inconvenience to show some fidelity. Also, I'd really like to understand better what people who wear belts experience. Also, I'd like to see if using the belt adds something to the relationship.

I wear it loose because the belt is more symbolic than anything. I am not going to have sex with someone else and I don't need a belt to prevent that. I have not sworn off masturbation so I don't need it for that. I will only masturbate with my partner in mind. I can control that without a belt. I simply won't do it otherwise.

Joh

Sasha
Yes, it could be but the best will be If she answers.

Because no-one is like anyone else and what is right for one person may feel wrong for another and not bring what you hope for.

Avery

Sasha I’m guessing she’s not entirely used to the commitment of wearing it as the contract says she should just yet, so wearing it loosely leaves “options”.
Of course I’m just speculating and I’m sure she will answer herself when she’s ready

Maybe I should remind that I have my own key. Wearing the belt tight proves nothing. If I wanted to cheat I'd just take the belt off and do it. And if I want to masturbate thinking of my partner I just go ahead and do it. We do not consider masturbation cheating. Some folks do and I respect that.

Milord

Sin after trying myself I have the same exact idea than you.

Milord

Hi all, I take the title from @Sin post

Sin Avery Hooray! Another normal person with realistic expectations!!

Now, it's been a couple of months since my wife has been wearing a chastity belt, and I've realized a lot of things that reading others experiences I have been unable to understand before.
Here are mine, and of course ready to discuss
1) 24 is not 24. The simple idea of having a girl closed in a belt for 24 hours is silly. Time for cleaning, getting out for various reasons, pinching, chafing, sports, other unplanned reasons (going to beauty salon, traveling are just examples), and just plain discomfort (when for example, having to stay several hours sit at the desk) makes the idea of continuous wearing impossible and for long time utterly dangerous
2) Pinching and chafing. It happens. Even after 2 months sometimes the belt is not comfortable. Body change shape, this is a truth that cannot be denied. When it happens, open, use aloe cream or other soothing cream, and wait before putting it
3) Panic attack. It happened just once, but when it happens, you just have to open.
4) Just not wanting. Ok, this is tricky. There are times when she's very distressed. When it happens, the belt is removed.
5) Out when she wants: it's pretty easy to understand, living daily with the belt, that you can't keep someone unwilling in a belt. NO WAY. IMPOSSIBLE. Maybe I will do a post on this, but if she wants to get out, she will get out. True for my wife, true for everyone wearing it. Unless maybe you live in a remote country, you will not be able to get the Internet or the forum.

Sasha

Avery wear it loose because the belt is more symbolic than anything.

Thank you for the explanation, and that’s a very good reason to wear it like you’ve described.
Sorry for the incorrect speculation

Joh

Avery Thank you for the Detail explanation. Now I understand what you will achieve.

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