Should only females get belted?

Angelina

besides, it would be a problem to distinguish the really interested persons from the fetishists, from this also a distrust against every person can follow 🙁

Vanessa

Angelina

I think,if they discuss a lot together,it would be noticed before a meeting.

Angelina

Vanessa

that's right, even though maybe a help would be if the person we are dating knows about our belts, i wouldn't date every person after a few chats 😉

Vanessa

Angelina

Good reaction,we must take care about who we meet,even from a dating website.

I guess it can ease a bit the start of the relationship if the man/woman we date know about our belt at the start,yes.Explaining it after we started to date a few times is never easy...

Angelina

Vanessa

well with me it was a very high risk, i had talked to camryn via webcam before. but at that time the rule was that i was not allowed to have dates until i was 18

it was my father's condition that i show camryn my equipment so camryn knows what she's getting into when we date

my father said if she is really interested in a relationship with you she will accept (luckily he was right 🙂 )

Vanessa

Angelina

Yes,your case was very complex,due to the fact you were not supposed to date at this time;good your father accepted to change the rule.

It makes sense you should show it to her before starting to date;no need to change the rule if she doesn't want dating someone wearing chastity devices.

It is a classical argument from parents;if someone truely love us(or,at least,want to date us),he/she would accept our chastity devices;if not,it is he/she only wanted sex(I don't think it is always true,but it can easily be the case too).

Angelina

Vanessa Yes,your case was very complex,due to the fact you were not supposed to date at this time;good your father accepted to change the rule.

he only accepted it because he likes camryn very much and sees potential for marriage. in the unlikely case that camryn and i separate before my 18th birthday the rule comes into force again 🙁

Vanessa It is a classical argument from parents;if someone truely love us(or,at least,want to date us),he/she would accept our chastity devices;if not,it is he/she only wanted sex(I don't think it is always true,but it can easily be the case too).

it was the right decision for us, so i was able to focus on the relationship without fear from the beginning 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina he only accepted it because he likes camryn very much and sees potential for marriage. in the unlikely case that camryn and i separate before my 18th birthday the rule comes into force again 🙁

I hope it won't happen,but he would use this rule again even if only for a few months?

Angelina it was the right decision for us, so i was able to focus on the relationship without fear from the beginning 🙂

I can understand it;if it is clear from the start that you won't be able to have sex until marriage,and that you have to wear a chastity belt to prevent it,it is easier to start the relationship more calmly,without trying to guess how he/she would react when you decide to tell him/her about your chastity devices.Not a bad idea to ask you to explain it to Camryn before being allowed to date together.Even if it was still not an easy talk!

Angelina

Vanessa I hope it won't happen,but he would use this rule again even if only for a few months?

definitely yes, he only removed the rule because he likes camryn very much and sees great hopes in the relationship

Vanessa .Even if it was still not an easy talk!

no it was a very difficult conversation and it could have ended with camryn not being interested in me anymore (but the risk was the same with you, so you know what I mean)

luckily it turned out well 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina definitely yes, he only removed the rule because he likes camryn very much and sees great hopes in the relationship

Not sure it would be useful for a few months;anyway,let's hope your relationship lasts long and so,what he would do if not would not matter!😉

Angelina no it was a very difficult conversation and it could have ended with camryn not being interested in me anymore (but the risk was the same with you, so you know what I mean)

luckily it turned out well 🙂

Yes,there is always a risk that it would mean the end of the relationship(and it happened once for me...🙁 Very hard!).Good it went well for you two!🙂

Angelina

Vanessa Not sure it would be useful for a few months;anyway,let's hope your relationship lasts long and so,what he would do if not would not matter!😉

my father will do it nevertheless unfortunately 🙁 but I hope this will not be necessary 😉

Vanessa and it happened once for me...🙁 Very hard!).

that must have been very bad for you, but look at it positively. maybe you wouldn't know emilie today otherwise 😉

Vanessa

Angelina I hope this will not be necessary 😉

Let's hope so,yes!🙂

Angelina that must have been very bad for you, but look at it positively. maybe you wouldn't know emilie today otherwise 😉

Possible.And I think our relationship would have not lasted long,anyway,if he decided to dump me due to this,he was not truely in love(but I was,so,yes,it was very hard for me).

Angelina

Vanessa ,if he decided to dump me due to this,he was not truely in love

that's true, even if the belt is a burden on the relationship, it is not a reason for separation when we are really in love 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina

I totally agree,even if it can be hard to manage,and accept.Even more when knowing it would take years before we would get the keys...

Angelina

Vanessa

of course, but you can also look at it positively. only someone who really loves you is willing to wait several years with you 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina

I agree it could be a good test and can be considered as a proof of love.

But I still think the bad parts are too important...

Angelina

Vanessa I agree it could be a good test and can be considered as a proof of love.

that's true and that's very good to know 🙂

Vanessa But I still think the bad parts are too important...

of course, I agree with you 100%, but we can't change it, so I try to look at the positive side

Vanessa

Angelina that's true and that's very good to know 🙂

I agree,it is reassuring and comforting when he/she knows it and want to stay in the relationship with us,and we can be sure he/she truely loves us,especially if he/she knows it means we won't be able to have sex until marriage.

Angelina of course, I agree with you 100%, but we can't change it, so I try to look at the positive side

Good way to think about it,but I've troubles to do it often...

Angelina

Vanessa I agree,it is reassuring and comforting when he/she knows it and want to stay in the relationship with us,and we can be sure he/she truely loves us,especially if he/she knows it means we won't be able to have sex until marriage.

exactly, that's why i already had a lot of conversations with camryn in the beginning about a marriage

i have said from the beginning that the relationship has to lead to a marriage so that we can be completely happy in the long run

Vanessa but I've troubles to do it often...

me too 🙁 but I still try to motivate others 😉

Vanessa

Angelina exactly, that's why i already had a lot of conversations with camryn in the beginning about a marriage

i have said from the beginning that the relationship has to lead to a marriage so that we can be completely happy in the long run

You're right.Even if it can frighten our partner to tell him/her our new relationship should lead to a marriage(especially nowadays),it should be clear at the start,and to be clear too that,no matter how much we want to be more intimate,it would not be possible until married.

Angelina me too 🙁 but I still try to motivate others 😉

If it can help people,it is good to try to motivate them to consider the positive parts of it,sure.

Angelina

Vanessa You're right.Even if it can frighten our partner to tell him/her our new relationship should lead to a marriage(especially nowadays),it should be clear at the start,and to be clear too that,no matter how much we want to be more intimate,it would not be possible until married.

exactly, that's why i had to try out a lot in the beginning, if the relationship will last for a long time, fortunately camryn and i are very compatible and look forward to a long future together

Vanessa If it can help people,it is good to try to motivate them to consider the positive parts of it,sure.

I don't know how you see it, but when I motivate others, I feel better myself 🙂

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