Maija
Not sure if you read my post here about harem pants, so I'm linking it here.
Your profile says you are a voluntary wearer. I think you mentioned before that you had accepted the belt, but it wasn't that long ago that you were quite upset about the recent additions (bands, bra, connecting chains). Have you already fully embraced those as well? And do you feel that the thighbands, and their connection to your belt, are mostly beneficial for you, or do you feel that you'd be better off without them (even if you accept your fathers choice).
By the way, love your hair.