What is the appeal of chastity for you, transwomen?
I am in a T4T relationship and originally came to this forum looking for horror stories to show my girlfriend about the reality of chastity as opposed to the fantasy.
I asked her and her reasons for wanting to try it are this: she wants to be submissive to me, she has become somewhat desensitized to porn, and she thinks it might help alleviate genital dysphoria.
I have been dominant in our sex life so far, spanking her and experimenting with light bondage as play, never punishment. I feel a little guilty for that, like I'm setting back the cause of feminism and enforcing traditional gender roles. We both enjoy ourselves though, and this relationship has brought me more pleasure and happiness than I have ever had.
That's our sex life though, we are equals elsewhere and I feel that introducing a cage or belt for her may skew our relationship. When I was younger, especially around the time I first got Testosterone, I was a misogynist trying to separate myself from women by diminishing them. I have worked on that and am trying to be better, my girlfriend has helped immeasurably. Taking her key, even in a fetish context, might make our relationship unequal. Chastity would be there even when we're not playing. What if she wants out? I would probably release her on the spot, but that defeats the point of chastity and might not be what she really wants. Do I keep her locked? That would violate her consent in my opinion, and I'm not sure I want unchecked power over her outside of a situation where she can safeword at any time.
Wanting to be controlled, submissive and feminine is strange to me as I have fought to be seen as an adult, a professional and a male. On the other hand, I kind of get where she is coming from. We both had/have religious families (Mormon for me, Catholic for her) and while I have tried to break from the church and it's teachings, she gets some gender euphoria from filling the role her upbringing taught her belonged to a woman. Genital dysphoria is a bitch, believe me, I know.
Having a partner control your orgasms sounds hot and kinky, but reading after reading this forum and a few other- chastity- related ones, the reality of it seems very different from the porn version.
My first instinct is to rage against one person controlling the life of another. I look on with horror at the stories of involuntary beltings and people put in chastity by their parents. I know that many women (and some men) on this site do not need or want to be rescued, but I still have a desire to cut locks, break chains and scream "This is not normal! Fight! Leave! Run! Do whatever it takes to be free!"
Sorry for the long post, just me throwing my thoughts into the void that is the internet. I am curious about other trans folks take on chastity. This is more about fetish chastity than lifestyle chastity, but all answers are welcome if you are willing to share.
