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When I met with my bf, I was locked a few years already and of course, it was only a matter of time until he discovered I was caged. Fortunately, he accepted it at first and now he even likes it.
To be honest, I hated the cage when I was locked, and I still don't like it. However, he told me I'm nicer (subjective) and a lot more motivated (true!), so when I think about the cage, it's not about my parents and excessive masturbation anymore, but rather about my boyfriend and my own motivation.
I don't really think it's a submissive mindset, but more about focusing on the advantages of this seemingly bad thing, which makes it strange. Well, but I don't say that the submissive mindset might not come in the future.