your feeling first time(s) you worn a chastity belt

Joh

Elsa If I don't pay enough attention when taking a shower, she warns me again. But then she also says that I should be more careful now and make an effort. That's what I meant by try harder.

What does this mean?
Do you use showering on purpose to get s nice Feeling or it is only your mothers Imagination?

Angelina

Elsa I really need to think about not doing that.

actually not, because it is exactly because of these reflexes you are wearing the belt. you should just not let your mother give you the impression that you have serious intentions to cheat. 😉

Sasha

i study for distraction for my studies or cook and bake, that helps me a lot, also spending time with friends helps

Sasha

Angelina Having distractions that are enjoyable and beneficial to us is a really great thing

Elsa

Angelina actually not, because it is exactly because of these reflexes you are wearing the belt. you should just not let your mother give you the impression that you have serious intentions to cheat. 😉

That's right 😉 I think that she probably sees it that way, otherwise there would have been consequences.

Renita And when does she put it back? In my case it's most important part.

after both the belt is dry and so am I. Although I also apply cream before.

It's been two weeks today.

Renita

Elsa The procedure is as follows: the belt is unlocked. First I clean the belt. I'll give this to my mum. Then while I'm showering she checks the belt. Before that, however, she once again warns me to be careful when showering.

And when does she put it back? In my case it's most important part.

Angelina

Sasha

at least this will reduce frustration 😉

Angelina

Elsa That's right 😉 I think that she probably sees it that way, otherwise there would have been consequences.

I hope she sees it that way, anything else would not be good because she would not understand how you feel. PS: Congratulations on two weeks

Linuz

I have just started to wear a chastity cage in order to avoid masturbation. I find it very difficult the first night. I cannot sleep and the cage is on my mind all the time.

It is a good idea in order to avoid masturbation and that part is not difficult, however I hope I will have better nights later on.

Have you experienced any difficulties by sleeping at night

pestulens

Linuz hi, since I am the first to respond I should start by saying that the admins ask everyone to make a post In the introduction thread laying out their info.
It seems like sleep troubles are a pretty common issue when starting out, though most wairers seem to adjust after a little while.

Kaja

Linuz Wow. You start with cage and instantly at night?

My bf used one only for hours at begining and he lengthen the time.

Philip

Linuz Hi Linuz after a bit of time you will just get used to sleeping in your cage. Once you are used to sleeping in it you will hardly notice it.

Angelina

Linuz Have you experienced any difficulties by sleeping at night

sleeping problems are completely normal, especially in the first period, the body must first get used to sleeping with such a device, it gets better with time, but problems can occur again and again.

Linuz

pestulens
Thank i do that. I am happy to hear I am not the only one with difficulty in sleeping

Linuz

Kaja
Hi Kaja

I have also trained, but it is some time back. But if the cage is comfortable you can wear it at night it is not a big thing i believe.

It is more getting used to wear it at work etc

Does your bf wear it 24/7 now

Linuz

Hi Philip

Thx for info good to know

Markus

Linuz
Hi,
the first weeks a not so good at nights, later it will be better.

EngineeringEmily

strictfather fear that I made a really bad choice. In the beginning I wore it for a few hours at a time. I remember begging daddy to tare up the contract I signed and let me out. That’s when it really hit me when he refused. That sence of complete helplessness. There was nothing I could do to get it off. I felt so helpless and sad. But looking forward to getting out. After 2 weeks I was in it 24/7. No break to look forward too. That when I was depressed a bit. All those feeling got stronger. I called my boy friend and broke up with him. Soon after I was extremely arosed and I couldn’t satisfy myself. So supper sexually frustrated. But then I got passed depression and learned how to pleasure myself with breast. It’s not nearly as good but keeps me from being unbelievably aroused and frustrated. The discomfort began to go away. I still hate pooping in the belt. Always messy even with bidet baby wipes and shower after. I get the birth controls shot so I only get my period 4 times a year. So that was somthing I learned 3 months later. The unbelievable sence of being violated never goes away for me. The huge feeling of helplessness. I hate that someone else controls my body. I still feel depressed somtimes. I also sometime get some arrosed that I’m crying because I can’t help myself enough.

Susan

EngineeringEmily Hello Emily, so happy to have someone like you here! We are the same age and I too just finished my first year of college. I have been wearing the belt for a year now. I wear the belt because of my Aunt, who is staunchly opposed to any kind of premarital sex and thinks masturbation is unnecessary and unladylike. Like you I started out a few hours at a time, more each day until it eventually became 24/7. I does become easier to deal with over time.

I do have a boyfriend, I started wearing the belt prior to dating. He knows about it and understands it and frankly is just as frustrated about me wearing it it as I am. The sexual urges are worse when we are together, but I still have them at other times too.

I don't feel helpless or depressed and I am sorry that you do. I know it's hard, it is for me sometimes too. It sounds like you have financial conditions attached to wearing your belt. I don't have anything like that and my aunt will love me regardless. But she has made it clear that she prefers that I wear a belt full time. She has told me "I am an adult and sometimes adults needs to make decisions that aren't always easy". I wear it to make her happy.

We do have a plan in place should I ask for it to be removed, which I have not. There are many good people on here to get advice from, including me.

Angelina

EngineeringEmily

I am so sorry that you felt this way and still feel this way. I wouldn't have broken up with your boyfriend though. If he really loves you and knows your situation (also that you are doing it for financial reasons) he would certainly have understood. I hope you have a lot of success in your studies and later in your job, so that at some point you can say that it was worth it

Susan I think it was @Angelina that originally suggested it.

no, that wasn't me. i don't think much of cooling off periods, when you make such an important decision, you should think about it before you say it

EngineeringEmily

Susan there is no way I would ware a belt to make someone happy. That’s crazy in my opinion (sorry, just how I feel). You might feel less helpless because their is an out for you if you want it. I would think most led would be happy with blow jobs even if we can’t have sex. I just was feeling like crap and to embarrassed to tell x boy friend about it so breaking up was easier. My sister is not in one yet and she will be offers the same deal as me when she is ready for college. I don’t think it has gotten easier since I got it. But before the belt o was a very sexual person. So there os so much frustration I can’t deal with.

MissBlossom

Susan
It's great to hear more from you. Thank you for sharing.

Susan We do have a plan in place should I ask for it to be removed, which I have not.

Is it okay for you to share this plan?

Susan

EngineeringEmily I understand how you feel. The relationship I have with my aunt is very important to me, and she feels it is best that I wear a belt, so I do. I realize it's not for everybody. There are times when it is very frustrating, especially when my BF and I are together and are fooling around, but I have accepted it and learned to live with it.

I think my aunt was like your parents at the beginning, that putting me in a belt at all costs was the goal. She joined the forum months before I did and was much more willing to slow things down until I understood why it was important to her I wear the belt and to accept it. Don't get me wrong, I would prefer not to have to wear it, but I don't have the same bitter feelings you do. I guess I am lucky.

Susan

MissBlossom Thank you, a took a little break, good to be back.

AJ (Aunt Jenna) and I have worked out an agreement between the two of us should I want the belt off. She modeled it after reading about the idea from another post a few months back. I think it was @Angelina that originally suggested it.

Essentially I have to formally ask to have the belt removed, this would involve me signing a piece of paper that she keeps in her safe, the same one as the key is kept. At that point a 2 week "cooling off" period begins. She thinks this will prevent me from making "rash and hasty decisions that I may regret later". If at the end of the 2 weeks I still want it off she will give me the keys and that's it, I am free to take it off. AJ has made it clear that she will do whatever she can over those 2 weeks to convince me that taking it off is the wrong decision. If I still decide I want it off she will hand me the keys to remove it. She said once I take it off she won't ever ask me to wear it again and she is done with her obligation to protect me.

She takes this seriously, which at first kind of freaked me out, but now I understand it a little better.

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