punishment for arousal

Angelina

Renita Or doesn't trust wearer.

no, i think this also happens with many volunteer wearers. chastity is always a task for wearers and key holders

Renita

Angelina i think this also happens with many volunteer wearers

But I feel insulted for mistrust although I was a volunteer wearer

Max9

Renita any keyholder is supposed to distrust a locked person when it comes to being locked up.

Angelina

Renita But I feel insulted for mistrust although I was a volunteer wearer

You should not, even though I can understand your feeling.

Renita

Max9 Maybe you are right, but it didn't happen before.

Angelina even though I can understand your feeling

I feel like it was she who put a chastity belt on me initially.

Max9

Renita I feel like it was she who put a chastity belt on me initially.

would that be something bad?

Renita Maybe you are right, but it didn't happen before.

Don't worry too much about that. It doesn't mean that she doesn't trust you anymore... I personally wouldn't trust myself when it comes to the security of the belt. We just need to be checked sometimes.

Angelina

Renita I feel like it was she who put a chastity belt on me initially.

yes, it is a difficult feeling, but you should never forget that it was your idea in the beginning and that you should at least be able to refer to it to your mother.

Vanessa Not in your case?

of course, although my father puts the belt on me himself. so safety mistakes would be his mistakes.

Vanessa

Angelina

Sometimes,yes.

Not in your case?

Renita

Angelina but you should never forget that it was your idea in the beginning and that you should at least be able to refer to it to your mother.

She has elaborated the idea too much.

LoonyMel

Do not take any offense. She checks every detail cause she wants to fit her role at the very best. Feel grateful!

Angelina

Renita She has elaborated the idea too much.

but she shouldn't. it was your idea and either she agrees to this idea under your conditions or she doesn't. of course you can give certain things in return because she holds the keys, but that should be clear beforehand.

Renita

Angelina she agrees to this idea under your conditions

She has agreed under her conditions.

youdontknowme

Renita She has agreed under her conditions.

If she makes her own conditions, that is a counter-proposal, not an agreement. At that point, it ought to be your choice to agree or disagree.

Angelina

Renita She has agreed under her conditions.

then you gave up too much control a long time ago

youdontknowme If she makes her own conditions, that is a counter-proposal, not an agreement.

right, an agreement can only be a middle way between both ideas and wishes

Renita

youdontknowme If she makes her own conditions, that is a counter-proposal, not an agreement

You can call it this way.

Angelina then you gave up too much control a long time ago

Probably, yes.

Angelina

Renita Probably, yes.

then you should do everything you can to get control back.

Dalila But sometimes I feel that wearing the belt when I am aroused is very difficult, which is like a punishment. I think everyone can agree.

I can agree, yes

Max9

well, i reject some of the methods of education described here and also the chastity belt as a method of education, but i think that clear rules are very important. i think children need education and they can also learn to become independent through this education. maybe they are dependent on their parents, but they are more independent towards other people. at least that is my feeling when i think about my education.

Dalila

Kaja Do you ever be punish for beeing arousal? For girls - for be wer with/without your belt, ...?

Yes and No. It is complex. I don't get punished as in caning or losing privilages which happens if I cause trouble. But sometimes I feel that wearing the belt when I am aroused is very difficult, which is like a punishment. I think everyone can agree.
The moment I put back on and the lock is shut is very hard.

Max9

The biggest problem many people here seem to have is the way they get educated.
Canning, corner time ... many seem to have very poor chances to learn to become independent when everything they do is being surveiled and checked by their parents. I mean, having the desire to lock up a horny teen till they became mature do probably not too uncommon among parents - even though only very few actually do it ... I can understand that... but they take it way further then that. At some point it is important to learn to make decisions one ones own.

Dalila

Max9 I think this is directed at me or my parents. So for your information A) I shouldn't have mentioned caning because that has not happened for a very lon time now. B) Have you seen families where there is no discipline? They are completely foolish and their children become a problem for everybody. C) I make choices for myself all the time.

If not then sorry for the rant

Max9

Dalila Actually I didn't soecidically adress you, it's just something I have noticed here. I grew up totally different. I hardly got ever punished and when going somewhere my parents had usually no idea where I was going with my friends... just had to be home anywhen in the evening and about lunch time.
Ok, therefore I met a pedophile once... still, that does happen to any sort of people...
And here, people seem like if they still had to ask for allowence to meet a friend at the age of 30... that's different from what I know.

Sara2001

Max9 Actually I didn't soecidically adress you, it's just something I have noticed here. I grew up totally different. I hardly got ever punished and when going somewhere my parents had usually no idea where I was going with my friends... just had to be home anywhen in the evening and about lunch time.

Yes, families are very different and what you describe is close to how my brother has been raised. But you are right. Females are not raised to become strong independent persons, but we became independent anyway. Independent from the question how I get punished, I have eyes and a brain and of course I know from school, TV and anything that our lifestyle is not the norm, but believe it or not, this lifestyle is very relaxing for me (not so much for my sister) and overall I really enjoy it.

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