punishment for arousal

Sara2001

Max9 Actually I didn't soecidically adress you, it's just something I have noticed here. I grew up totally different. I hardly got ever punished and when going somewhere my parents had usually no idea where I was going with my friends... just had to be home anywhen in the evening and about lunch time.

Yes, families are very different and what you describe is close to how my brother has been raised. But you are right. Females are not raised to become strong independent persons, but we became independent anyway. Independent from the question how I get punished, I have eyes and a brain and of course I know from school, TV and anything that our lifestyle is not the norm, but believe it or not, this lifestyle is very relaxing for me (not so much for my sister) and overall I really enjoy it.

Angelina

Renita Probably, yes.

then you should do everything you can to get control back.

Dalila But sometimes I feel that wearing the belt when I am aroused is very difficult, which is like a punishment. I think everyone can agree.

I can agree, yes

Max9

well, i reject some of the methods of education described here and also the chastity belt as a method of education, but i think that clear rules are very important. i think children need education and they can also learn to become independent through this education. maybe they are dependent on their parents, but they are more independent towards other people. at least that is my feeling when i think about my education.

Renita

Angelina then you should do everything you can to get control back

Not sure, how.

Megan

Renita Not sure, how.

It's not only normal to get some checking but also people should be scared of chafing or ingrown hairs.
Even if people don't run or walk much like if you only work in an office.

I don't want to relive divorces but do you ever talk to your mother about marriage again???

Angelina

Renita Not sure, how.

very simple, tell your mother how you want it. or try to find another key holder who is willing to manage the whole thing according to your rules.

Laura

Renita Not sure, how.

If I understand right, she lets you take a shower alone and ask you to put on the belt back after.
So, she trusts you enough. What kind of control do you want back? Ability to wear an unlocked belt?

Renita

Megan I don't want to relive divorces but do you ever talk to your mother about marriage again???

I don't understand what you are asking.

Angelina tell your mother how you want it

I did it few times.

Angelina

Renita I did it few times.

then again with emphasis and with the threat that you will also look for another key holder if she does not play by your rules.

Renita

Angelina you will also look for another key holder if she does not play by your rules.

Not sure she should agree.

Laura Ability to wear an unlocked belt?

Pretty much, yes.

Jen Why not?

Because she doesn't trust me.

Jen

Laura Ability to wear an unlocked belt?

Why not?

Megan

Laura If I understand right, she lets you take a shower alone and ask you to put on the belt back after.

Renita I know when I should lock up my belt.

This isn't being punished this seems like a good system for a divorced woman.
There isn't any advantage going out to a bar or to work with a fake belt

Jonas

An unlocked chastity belt is surely just a belt.

youdontknowme

Jonas A "belt" does not have a crotch band. I think "chastity-as-a-suggestion belt" might be appropriate.

Angelina

Jonas An unlocked chastity belt is surely just a belt.

only a belt is something you use for trousers. an unlocked chastity belt is just a useless toy. 😂

Renita Not sure she should agree.

she should and even if I repeat myself, you two should make a contract, otherwise everyone does what they want and everything gets mixed up.

Jonas

youdontknowme Jonas A "belt" does not have a crotch band. I think "chastity-as-a-suggestion belt" might be appropriate.

😆 🤣 😂 That's the most politically correct description I've ever read!

How about "lockable-safety-and-chastity-harness?" 😀

Jonas

Renita Because she doesn't trust me.

Would you trust you?

Renita

Jonas Would you trust you?

I know when I should lock up my belt.

Rina

Angelina she should and even if I repeat myself, you two should make a contract, otherwise everyone does what they want and everything gets mixed up.

I agree that, @Renita . In future, when I ask my partner to become a keyholder of my belt, I would definitely do what @Angelina says, so I would know when I would be allowed to be unlocked (I don't want to rush, but ultimately 24/7 wearing except for cleaning / emergency / essential purpose like passing through metal detector is what I would want), how checks will be done, and how emergency keys will be stored (My parents / her parents aren't options as if I live with my partner in future, it is likely to be in far distance with either, so I'm thinking about having tamper evident envelope that will make me have to explain the reason why I have used emergency key afterwards.) so I can expect what to happen. For keyholder, it would be better as keyholder should be responsible when it comes to holding keys of the chastity belt, and may propose rules that would clarify how keys will be held.

Sara2001

Rina so I'm thinking about having tamper evident envelope that will make me have to explain the reason why I have used emergency key afterwards.) so I can expect what to happen

I think this is a very good system. After marri we will implement a similar system. The only difference is that the envelope will just contain the pin code to a save and the save is sending him a message in the moment where I open it. If I use the key without a real emergency, I will be in trouble.

Jonas

Renita Always? You'd never be tempted to cheat?

If you were keyholder, wouldn't you be just as strict about it as your mother?

Laura

Renita I know when I should lock up my belt.

And you also know when you shouldn't

Renita

Jonas You'd never be tempted to cheat?

I preferred to keep the belt locked.

Jonas If you were keyholder, wouldn't you be just as strict about it as your mother?

Of course. But from the beginning.

Megan This isn't being punished

I consider it as a punishment.

Megan There isn't any advantage going out to a bar or to work with a fake belt

But go home.

Laura

Megan this seems like a good system for a divorced woman

Or for a woman living separately

Megan There isn't any advantage going out to a bar or to work with a fake belt

Or on a date 😂

Christine

Megan for a divorced woman

How so?

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