Belt fitting

Renita

Vanessa ou can start to do a sports anytime.

A sport, requiring the belt off? It would look suspicious.

Vanessa

Lana I do sometimes

Logical!

Lana So I eventually stopped fighting.

Even if My-Steel are not too bad,I still fight it a lot!

Jen I got lots of time not wearing it for other things😂

🤣

Jen I can't do it school nights don't sleep enough.

Do you think you would never have to wear it every night?

Renita A sport, requiring the belt off? It would look suspicious.

Many sports would be hard with it on.

Angelina then it is a similar situation we are in

Yes,but it is not good.

Angelina then @Jen has to make a decision that i hope she doesn't have to make.

I hope too.

Jen So I can do all day tomorrow no breaks instead which yeah there's issues I haven't done. I've had it on lots in the day but taking it off when needed... I dunno been avoiding it

Not a bad option,even if not easy.

Jen I'd have to try and make it work then.

It should be comfortable,even if it means sending it back to adjust it.

Jen I might just dump it once I've got my license

Ah?

I thought you wanted to wear it until married(or,at least,be in a serious relationship);have you changed your mind?

Lana Do not compromise comfort.

I agree.

Jen so good to have it off now though it's so comfy to just lie down😄

😉

Ines

Good advices.

Angelina @Jen you can talk to your parents about it. tell them that the belt doesn't fit 100% and that it gets uncomfortable when worn for a longer time, then you can make a deal, they order a new belt and you give something back (not too much), or they don't order a new belt and you stop wearing it.

Could be a good idea,yes.

Angelina

Vanessa But is should not be used as a leverage to make her wear her belt permanently,like "wear it permanently or you would not get the exams".

i totally agree with you, but then it is a similar situation we are in. my father paid for my driving licence and my own car, i don't think he would have done it if i refused the belt, you are also financially supported. it is not good, but we both know that something like this can happen and then @Jen has to make a decision that i hope she doesn't have to make.

Ines but, nobody is aware.

that's true, but you need a few tries in public until you are sure that no one notices it. 😉

Jen

Ines but, nobody is aware.

I kept telling myself!

Jen

I've got an option - I did last night but told mum it's not good - not again tonight sleeping is crap
and not before school so 2 nights is a bit slow - hoping for a lesson each week
So I can do all day tomorrow no breaks instead which yeah there's issues I haven't done. I've had it on lots in the day but taking it off when needed... I dunno been avoiding it

carg

Jen
What mostly keeps you awake at night? Is there physical discomfort and is it hard to find a comfortable position, or just the idea of being locked and the constant awareness it is there, or the idea of not being able to touch yourself there? Perhaps 3 or 4 nights is still too few to judge if you can get used to it? It seems wise to not do 2 nights in a row, or before a school day for now, although with one night a week it might also take quite long to get used to it.
If you are still willing to go through with it, you will have to get used to wearing it during the day as well, and do the bathroom visits wearing it, so I guess tomorrow would be as good a day as any to give that a try - postponing it doesn't seem to be useful. Perhaps when you are more used to wearing it during the day, the nights get easier too??

Raziel

Jen
This is something you should be talking to your family about, because if they don't have solutions for your discomfort, then they shouldn't be making deals at the cost of your sleep. A few discomforting positions is bearable, but not when you have to endure them for something like a driving lesson. This is really not fair for you, and you should talk to them about finding solutions together. If your parents does not come up with any real solutions, then they shouldn't be making deals at all. The whole trade off is starting to take a toll on you, its like you are punishing yourself, but I'm not liking what we're hearing here. It sounds like you are suffering, and I'm worried it'll get worse.

Jen

carg Is there physical discomfort and is it hard to find a comfortable position

yes this. I can get comfy for a bit but gets sore on my hips and inside leg and I'll turn and sleep again but if I can't sleep and start thinking about it then it's all over🤯

Raziel thanks I thought it would get easier. I'll be ok today not going anywhere👍. Yeah the lessons I thought I'd have more control - well I do really, but kind of on a timeline too at least the covid is controlled again - no lockdown🙂. The belt i don't know, seems like more people have waist model. Maybe it would be better with the crotch shortened and it sits lower or that might make it worse nah won't ask them to spend any money on it feels like I'd have to try and make it work then. I might just dump it once I've got my license I should have got a job earlier no one wants to hire an 18 year old school kid have to pay me too much

carg

Jen
There will be people here much more knowledgeable about this, but what I can think of against the discomfort is to go over the fit of the belt with your parents, and see if improvements can be made by some more bending here and there. And if you sleep on your side putting a pillow between your legs seems to help, I have read here several times, so perhaps you are already doing that.

Jen I'll be ok today not going anywhere

Are you saying you decided to wear the belt the whole day today then?

I agree that there has to be found a solution for you to make it comfortable, or you should stop altogether. I don't think getting a different belt is a good idea - no guarantee that it will be any better, and your parents will try even harder to make you wear it, because of the extra investment.
Stopping after getting your license might not be that easy: your parents will have gotten closer to their goal by then, and will put a lot of effort in keeping you belted. Like, what good is a drivers license if you can't afford a car?

Jen I'm not thinking I have to stay pure for my guy it's more for myself I want to explore with my partner and know its only ever him

It is good you're not doing it for anyone else, because you can not be sure your partner will appreciate your gift enough that it would be worth the effort. I know when I had sex for the first time (over 30 years ago), my girlfriend told me she was still a virgin, and my response was just 'for me it is the first time too' - never heard of a hymen at that time, or that for many women it is a major step 😮 I was so green at that time that I needed a moment to figure out which opening was which; that will probably hardly happen anymore, now it is so easy to find everything you want to know on the internet. Putting on a condom was a struggle too. Just some examples on how awkward a first time can be. And from what I have heard, for many women the first few times are not that enjoyable.
I'm a pretty analytical guy, so romantic ideas like keeping yourself pure for Mr. Right do not feel as important to me as practical disadvantages. But in the end you should of course choose the values that feel right for you. I just worry that, with limited experience in relationships (not sure - perhaps you already had lots of boyfriends), that chances of Mr. Right turning out to be not that right for you after all might be bigger. The numbers show that determining if a partner is right for you is hard for many people, considering how many get a divorce or stay in an unhappy marriage for whatever reason, even though almost all will have been convinced he/she was right when they said 'yes'.

Jen

carg Are you saying you decided to wear the belt the whole day today then?

Yes glad it's nearly done 😌
Most annoying I can't get dry - the toilet is a bit messy but whatever quick shower rinse is fine, just can't dry off

carg Like, what good is a drivers license if you can't afford a car?

Still got it though it's done then and l have a proper license not the stupid proof of age card

carg

Jen Yes glad it's nearly done

Well done! It sounds like it might not have been quite as bad as you feared? I think some people use a hair dryer to blow the area dry after cleaning. If the area stays wet too long it could lead to skin problems.
Would you say that wearing it a whole day is not as hard as a night? Weekends might be easier though than school days! You stayed inside all day today?

Jen Still got it though it's done then

Do you know what would have happened with the drivers license if you hadn't shown renewed interest in the belt? Would they have expected you to earn the money yourself? Or might they have paid for it anyway, and are now bribing you with something you would have gotten anyway?

Ines

Jen Yes glad it's nearly done 😌

Congrats!

Most annoying I can't get dry - the toilet is a bit messy but whatever quick shower rinse is fine, just can't dry off.
I had same issue, but shaving is a must, and you can use the same time than before in dry yourself. The fact, is that without belt you need only seconds, but with belt you need a couple of minutes.
In general, you will be used to it, but time is not the same.
The fact of "peeing" (Sorry) is different too. You must control the flow, you can not just relax and "let it go".
I am a bit obsessed with cleanness, and I take my time in toilet.

Jen

carg I went on a little walk - not really going out - yeah pretty much home all day. Yes day easier than night. I've practised! Like just wearing not locked but this was longer and locked - so good to have it off now though it's so comfy to just lie down😄
The license - I've had the permit for ages but they didn't want me driving too early so i don't know

Angelina

Lana See for yourself, most women who wear for long term have waist style belt here in this forum.

Lana en don't be weak and compromise easily, if your parents wants you to wear 24/7, demand them to get you a comfortable, well measured belt. Do not compromise comfort. Serious damage can be done to your bones and your posture in the long run if you use a bad chastity belt. If they don't buy a new one, just don't agree to wear a chastity belt. Simple.

i can only agree with you 100%, no deal in the world is worth a girl wearing a belt that doesn't fit. for long term use a waiststyle belt is more comfortable, i have no experience with hipstyle but what i read from @Jen mirrors my fears about a hipstyle belt 1 to 1. and no matter what, comfort should not be a problem and certainly comfort should not be to blame for @Jen not sleeping

carg I think some people use a hair dryer to blow the area dry after cleaning

yes, when i shower with the belt i always use a hair dryer afterwards and yes it is important to make sure that everything is dry, i didn't pay attention to that at the beginning and got slight skin problems

Jen

Ines The fact of "peeing" (Sorry) is different too. You must control the flow, you can not just relax and "let it go".

Yes! I read that😁 it's a good tip, but I waited too long was chaos. Was better the next time

Ines

@Megan said it some days ago, and probably she was totally right.

Angelina comfort should not be a problem and certainly comfort should not be to blame for @Jen not sleeping.

Any belt is more important than a good resting. In my case, the block piece, great idea but impractical.

Joh

Jen
If I can't figure out the reason for a problem I start to check everything from beginning. At your case I would do the measurements. At the forum is the link to the video and you can find the instructions at the website of the manufacturer. I would ask your parents for the sent data and compare it. If your dimensions are different you could discuss it with your parents. It makes no sense to get use of the belt when it not fit.
An option is to ask the manufacturer if it possible to correct your belt. I suppose it could cost less than a new one

Angelina

Joh An option is to ask the manufacturer if it possible to correct your belt.

that's a good idea. but if that doesn't work: @Jen you can talk to your parents about it. tell them that the belt doesn't fit 100% and that it gets uncomfortable when worn for a longer time, then you can make a deal, they order a new belt and you give something back (not too much), or they don't order a new belt and you stop wearing it.

Jen

Joh yeah I could but I don't think it's the size anyway. It made more sense once I bent and bent and bent🤔 so it matches my hips - it's wedged against my hip bones and shield/cable but tight both so can't move up or down. I think this is it - I found other people have written the waist anchors there so not as tight on the bones. Wearing a long time at day is getting easier - doesn't really stop any of my moving. So I think it is wrong type not wrong size but thinking of waist is boring - have to stick to boring tops.

Ines do you sleep in your hip one?
Does any girls? I think Catherine did but sounds like hers was looser.

Vanessa I thought you wanted to wear it until married(or,at least,be in a serious relationship);have you changed your mind?

Yep it's annoying, well I didn't or haven't made up my mind really but with the belt like it is I'm like why? Like what's the point well the idea is there but with the belt being difficult you know it's a bit much

Angelina

Ines In my case, the block piece, great idea but impractical.

Yes, i remember your experience report 😂

Vanessa Yes,but it is not good.

Not good, of course, but unfortunately not completely unrealistic either.

Renita

Vanessa Many sports would be hard with it on.

Then we should do one that allows it on.

carg

Jen Wearing a long time at day is getting easier

That almost sounds like you have worn it again after Sunday? That would mean on a school day - are you following lessons from home, or do you go to school? That would be a big step!

You might have had your third driving lesson by now; do you already know the 'price' of the fourth? 2 nights or days again? Are you still prepared to do an occasional night, or will you stick to days until there is a solution for the discomfort?
I had been thinking about an idea to get more used to wearing it at night: you could first wear it without it being locked, so that you could take it off when it got too bad, or sleep wouldn't come anymore. That might not count as a full night then, but perhaps you could build it up until you did manage a full night without the current 'torture', like you trained for the days.
But if you write that the problems are not getting better, and the belt might be pressing against bone in a bad way, that would probably not work, and might even lead to bone damage, so forget that idea in that case.

Ines

Jen do you sleep in your hip one?
Does any girls? I think Catherine did but sounds like hers was looser.

Yes. Over my back. Sleep over a side is impossible.

gwen

Jen do you sleep in your hip one?
Does any girls? I think Catherine did but sounds like hers was looser.

I sleep in mine. To be honest, sleeping was never a challenge for me.

I can sleep both on my side and on my back. Given that others struggle with this, I suspect that I wear my belt more like a waist belt. My waist band rests 2 cm above my hip bone. This allows it to be tight enough that when I side-sleep on a firm mattress, there is little pressure on the side of my belt.

Joh

Jen So I think it is wrong type not wrong size but thinking of waist is boring - have to stick to boring tops.

It sounds like it is the wrong type of belt. You have to decide if you want to go this way which includes boring tops or if it not worse to do. If you want to continue you should talk with your parents for changing the belt or otherwise to end it for good.

Jen

carg That would mean on a school day

Not gonna happen na ah not wearing it to school no Sunday was the long day

carg you could first wear it without it being locked, so that you could take it off when it got too bad, or sleep wouldn't come anymore

I did that yes

Ines Yes. Over my back. Sleep over a side is impossible.

Oh yeah I remember you saying I thought you were talking about waist. Yeah side isn't getting better. I'll have to get them to help see why it presses my hips. Without the belt I prefer back maybe the shape is still wrong.

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