Belt fitting

Max9

Angelina happy birthday . then you must now change your profile from 20 to 21

thanks. Oh, thanks for the reminder 🙂

ZeynepFox

Jen Have you thought about contacting Petra from My-Steel? The manufacturer can easily adjust your belt.

Jen

Sorry about yesterday I know it's hard to read. Thanks for your comments saying take a break I was thinking just lock it then done - no more thinking but yeah that's like just avoiding sorting out my thoughts. Yep left it off.

ZeynepFox I don't know Petra I've never spoken to them. Yeah I've had some suggestions to get it changed - I don't want to make a fuss. Well I think I got it ok anyway.

Angelina

Jen

you are doing great and no one is going to say anything bad, we will try to support you no matter what you decide. wearing a belt is extremely difficult, so you don't have to blame yourself. think about everything again calmly 🙂

Avery Nor do I, really, but some people's definitions of chastity include no sexual behavior of any kind,

that's how i see the term chastity too, but i agree with @Joh only saving up for mr. right i wouldn't call it chastity but abstinence. but i'm doing "definition puzzles" again 😂

Jen

I didn't hate it while wearing it. Just it's a massive mix of good and bad having it off I just need someone to hold me

James

Jen Aww Jen...that is totally normal...well this community is here for you - have a friend who can deliver that hug if you don't want to ask your Mom or Dad?

Joh

Avery I learned not to mention names though.

Full name of stranger.
It is common practice to refer to names of people in the forum to refer to their circumstances.

Max9 mine was yeasterday

Happy Birthday and I hope you have recovered fully.

Jen but don't know what you'd do

Only appropriate things and what has no long-term impact.

Jen it's nice not being bloody horny

🤣 👍️ Good you did it. Do it again when you feel you need it. Don't let it rule your life.

carg But to me it seems like you would have to go through this sooner or later, and now that you have experienced a bit of what you would be giving up / having to endure, probably for a number of years, you can make a more informed decision if that is worth it for you

I agree with you. Jen has now a more solid base to make a decision.

carg If you decide that it is not worth it, you could also decide that you are still saving yourself for mr. Right by not having casual sex, but that masturbation is OK

I see no strong relation between masturbation and saving yourself for Mr. right.

Jen I know it's mum and it's old school but I don't care - I don't care what she wants but it's like - like it was a thing but I've ruined it but it shouldn't matter like i remember it just never mattering

Sorry, this is too confuse for me.

Sin just wear it when you want or when you feel you need to. At least for now anyway. Put it away for a few weeks and come back to it when you want.. and you will!

Good advice.

Jen I didn't hate it while wearing it. Just it's a massive mix of good and bad having it off I just need someone to hold me

Do you mean you do not get the right support at your situation? Could your best friend help?

Avery

Joh I see no strong relation between masturbation and saving yourself for Mr. right.

Nor do I, really, but some people's definitions of chastity include no sexual behavior of any kind, no masturbation, no anal, no oral, no performing oral so I'm giving that a go. Not giving up masturbation would be a dodge for me (and for anyone, perhaps) because I have no one to have sex with. If I could masturbate it would not be chastity it would be normal behavior for me.

Max9

Joh Happy Birthday and I hope you have recovered fully.

thanks 🙂

Avery include no sexual behavior of any kind,

yeah, that's always depending on the definition. There are no clear definitions of chatity and purity so many people see it different. The good thing about belts is that everybody can also define how to practice it, depending on the individual aim.

Joh

Avery Not giving up masturbation would be a dodge for me (and for anyone, perhaps) because I have no one to have sex with. If I could masturbate it would not be chastity it would be normal behavior for me.

It depends on the point of view and how you define it. If you feel better about achieving your goal without masturbating, then do it.

Vanessa

Jen Um not any more...

You decide to have a break?

Do you manage to follow your goal,even without wearing the chastity belt?

Jen

It is normal to have different feelings now you've worn it several times(including the two weeks test)than before...

carg But to me it seems like you would have to go through this sooner or later, and now that you have experienced a bit of what you would be giving up / having to endure, probably for a number of years, you can make a more informed decision if that is worth it for you. Luckily there is no deadline, so you can take your time, accept that this is a tough choice, and that it is normal that such a situation has a strong effect on your emotions.

I agree.

Jonas I think it's the on again/off again belt use that makes it difficult.

I think so,too.

carg But once you have truly made up your mind about what you want, most of the guilt will disappear.

I agree.

She would need time to think calmly about her feelings with the chastity belt,and make a decision about how she would wear it,or not.

Angelina it's important that you are 100% behind it, otherwise it won't work and will lead to disappointment

Right.

Avery I have no one to have sex with

It could mean no one night stand,no sex except in a very serious relationship(or until engaged,until married),too...

Angelina i wouldn't call it chastity but abstinence

We discussed often about chastity belt and abstinence belt!😉

Angelina every voluntary wearer determines his/her own goal

I agree.

Avery In Germany she says one goes to class and then goes home and that's about it.

It is a bit like this in France too.

Far from how university works in the USA.

Avery

Joh If you feel better about achieving your goal without masturbating, then do it.

I've read quite a few times by meditation people that no sex of any kind leads to a clear headedness, increased energy, such things. The nofap people say the same thing. I have found being horny all the time can be a distraction but perhaps with time this changes, I don't know.

Avery

Angelina that's how i see the term chastity too, but i agree with @Joh only saving up for mr. right i wouldn't call it chastity but abstinence.

It seems rather intellectually dishonest to just say no vaginal intercourse but to do other things. This is one of my problems with the intact hymen test.

Joh

Avery I have found being horny all the time can be a distraction but perhaps with time this changes,

If you want to know it if it true, test it.
Maybe it is a lie.
Maybe it applies only to particular people.
Maybe it is general true.
When you found out let us know, please.

Sin

Avery I've read quite a few times by meditation people that no sex of any kind leads to a clear headedness, increased energy, such things. The nofap people say the same thing. I have found being horny all the time can be a distraction.

Doesn't work for me either. :-(

Joh

Avery It seems rather intellectually dishonest to just say no vaginal intercourse but to do other things.

Why is it?
You save the special moment of vaginal intercourse for Mr. right. This is a big gift.

If someone came up with the idea to do only boring things because you save it for Mr. right to have all fun the first time only with him would you do it?

Avery

Joh If you want to know it if it true, test it.
Maybe it is a lie.
Maybe it applies only to particular people.
Maybe it is general true.
When you found out let us know, please.

Well I'm four months in and still horny. Of course the mystics live on mountain tops and never see any girls. I see hunky guys every day so maybe that's the difference, out of sight out of mind.

Avery

Joh Why is it?
You save the special moment of vaginal intercourse for Mr. right. This is a big gift.

I rather think if one has a lot of experience with others, like getting and receiving oral and taking it in the bum, that simply holding one's vagina in reserve is just a kind of a technicality.

Joh If someone came up with the idea to do only boring things because you save it for Mr. right to have all fun the first time only with him would you do it?

Well I had the chance to do it when younger and didn't. Now I am trying to do it but having found him don't plan to wait for the wedding day.

Angelina

Max9 The good thing about belts is that everybody can also define how to practice it, depending on the individual aim.

ndeed, and that is the only thing that matters. every voluntary wearer determines his/her own goal, what he/she calls it doesn't matter at all, but since I have been using these terms for a long time, I prefer to stick to chastity and abstinence.

Avery

Max9 yeah, that's always depending on the definition. There are no clear definitions of chatity and purity so many people see it different.

My real quibble with different definitions is that I want to include a chance at a do-over. For example in the hymen test once it's gone it's gone. Lose it when you are 15 and the game is over, no allowance made for immaturity or naïveté. I used somewhere before the example of Jesus and the adulteress. He reproached the men who would judge her and simply told her go thy way and sin no more. So there is a chance for redemption. Well, maybe I changed the subject there.

Joh

Avery Of course the mystics live on mountain tops and never see any girls. I see hunky guys every day so maybe that's the difference, out of sight out of mind.

I presume it is also dependent on the age. When you get older it decrease.
The mystics on the mountain top are older than you, normally. 🤣

Avery I rather think if one has a lot of experience with others, like getting and receiving oral and taking it in the bum, that simply holding one's vagina in reserve is just a kind of a technicality.

One can also see it this way. Fair enough.

Avery but having found him don't plan to wait for the wedding day.

You fond Mr. right already. Congratulation.

Jen

Avery I rather think if one has a lot of experience with others, like getting and receiving oral and taking it in the bum, that simply holding one's vagina in reserve is just a kind of a technicality.

That's a lot different to masturbation though isn't it - but yeah you could say a penis instead of dildo is just a technicality so the labels are stupid.

Avery My real quibble with different definitions is that I want to include a chance at a do-over.

You said 4 months yeah you've got your do over - you can feel it can't you. You just have to keep it now. I'm thinking like this too.

Jen

Avery I rather think if one has a lot of experience with others, like getting and receiving oral and taking it in the bum, that simply holding one's vagina in reserve is just a kind of a technicality.

That's a lot different to masturbation though isn't it - but yeah you could say a penis instead of dildo is just a technicality so the labels are stupid.

Avery My real quibble with different definitions is that I want to include a chance at a do-over.

You said 4 months yeah you've got your do over - you can feel it can't you. You just have to keep it now. I'm thinking like this too.

Joh

Avery For example in the hymen test once it's gone it's gone. Lose it when you are 15 and the game is over, no allowance made for immaturity or naïveté. I used somewhere before the example of Jesus and the adulteress. He reproached the men who would judge her and simply told her go thy way and sin no more. So there is a chance for redemption. Well, maybe I changed the subject there.

This is what Jesus stand for. You can make an error but if you see it was one and do it not again why should it be a problem. We are human and not robots or unfailing gods.

Angelina

Avery My real quibble with different definitions is that I want to include a chance at a do-over. For example in the hymen test once it's gone it's gone.

we once introduced the term second virgin for such people, if i remember correctly.

Vanessa We discussed often about chastity belt and abstinence belt!😉

yes, but in the meantime i think we have made it too easy for ourselves. i now believe that there are more than just these two forms 😉

Vanessa Far from how university works in the USA.

in the usa, studying is something completely different than in most european countries, yes

Jen I'm wearing the belt but not taking it seriously for now. Feels weird - didn't take long - kinda just focusing on the wearing side, not the chastity side. And yeah it's for the driving too - hoping to get lots of hours while mum and dad are off for Christmas.

with your driving licence you have a goal, that's good. everything else you can think about afterwards. 🙂

Avery

Joh I presume it is also dependent on the age. When you get older it decrease.

Right. Plus they never look healthy, too thin and undernourished. If you don't take care of your body I would think your interest might be less.

Avery

Joh ou fond Mr. right already. Congratulation.

Sorry, poor verb construction. I meant when I have found him in the future. No luck so far.

Avery

Joh This is what Jesus stand for. You can make an error but if you see it was one and do it not again why should it be a problem. We are human and not robots or unfailing gods.

Well said.

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