Belt fitting

Saintprudence

Jen I do have one question, and I apologize if it piles on the intensity, but it’s mostly just curiosity and a little guidance so we can best support you: when you say you want what Ines has, what does that mean to you? I know what I think when I hear it but it may not be what you’re thinking.

It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

Saintprudence

It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

Jen

Saintprudence tried to sleep but I've taken it off. My promise no more toys is well damn the want gets fierce but it's special like I'm proud of it now and waiting until my partner now seems really special for me but it's such a long time away... but not even fingers seems a bit much and well that's when i miss my toy most anyway so would it be better not at all... is it even more special or just dumb

Saintprudence

Jen It’s not dumb. Many young people waiting for marriage have abstained from even touch — and I don’t just mean in the chastity community, either. Many mainstream religious communities teach it as well, even if most of them don’t really follow it. There is a special honor in wanting to preserve yourself until the right person comes along.

It’s not right for everyone, but it’s not dumb. If it’s what you want, it is important. And I also respect your inner conflict, so I’d add that if you choose not to go the way of the belt, there’s nothing wrong with that either. What matters most is your own opinion of what is most fulfilling. You can change your mind at any time and that’s also okay!

Vanessa

Saintprudence It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

It could help @Jen,but the main difference is she doesn't trust her parents as @Ines trust @Tere.

Jen ried to sleep but I've taken it off.

First try at night,so?

Jen it's special like I'm proud of it now and waiting until my partner now seems really special for me

Understandable,as it would be willingly,if you do it

Saintprudence There is a special honor in wanting to preserve yourself until the right person comes along.

But most often,it is "only" no sex before marriage,not including masturbation,I think.

Saintprudence so I’d add that if you choose not to go the way of the belt, there’s nothing wrong with that either. What matters most is your own opinion of what is most fulfilling. You can change your mind at any time and that’s also okay!

I agree.

Renita It wouldn't be a chastity belt.

As long as it is on,it is one.

Renita They could unlock it, rather then give the keys.

It's not the purpose of the test I suggested.It should only look like locked,not being truly locked,to know if she can trust them before it is locked.If they want to unlock it themselves,they would notice it is not locked,so the test would be useless.

Rina

Better than at first,but not totally.

Saintprudence You’d have already had her lock herself up already if you had any say! 🙂

I think so,too!😉

Jen

Not very surprising,but not pleasant for you,sure!

Jen I've been avoiding her questions, haven't said nothing.

Do you think you could continue this way for a long time?

Jen And it's the can I question before do I.

I think if you answer the first one,you would able to find quickly which answer you would use for the second one.

Jen

If you can trust your parents as @Ines,you can do it like her,as it seems it is how you would like to wear it.

Saintprudence

Sure!

Angelina this should not happen. the parents should not interfere and best not talk about it at all. if @Jen has more in mind with the belt, she will approach her parents on her own.

But do you think they would react this way?

Angelina i admit that what you write fascinates me. i don't know anyone (maybe with the exception of @Ines) who deals with the topic of chastity in such a differentiated way. 🙂

I agree.

Renita

Foxies Surely it is so obvious that you would remove it, put it in a drawer (or the rubbish bin) and hold the belt by wrapping a thick strand of something like copper wire around the locking beg, or through the locking peg

It wouldn't be a chastity belt.

Vanessa If they don't give her the keys,she can't trust them

They could unlock it, rather then give the keys.

Rina

Renita They could unlock it, rather then give the keys.

I guess @Jen does not trust her parents as a keyholder? Even if I were her I won't lock it unless I have a key or someone I can absolutely trust as a keyholder.

Saintprudence

Renita It wouldn't be a chastity belt.

Perhaps, but our friend Jen isn’t yet ready for chastity. At the moment she’s conducting a series of tests to determine if it’s even wearable and if she can bear it. And using non-locking methods to secure the belt seems like a wise idea to avoid accidental clicking.

HHelen

Saintprudence And using non-locking methods to secure the belt seems like a wise idea to avoid accidental clicking.

I think @Renita knows it better.

Saintprudence

HHelen You’d have already had her lock herself up already if you had any say! 🙂 Not everyone takes as smoothly to chastity as you and (sort of) your daughter have.

Renita

HHelen I think @Renita knows it better.

But my belt is always locked.

Jen

😳😳 I left it out last night and Mum just came in🤦‍♀️

gwen

Jen 😳😳 I left it out last night and Mum just came in🤦‍♀️

You left out your belt and she saw it? What's the significance of that?

Saintprudence

gwen It indicates the belt had not just been examined, but has been worn, and perhaps escalates the existing conversation to a new level.

Jen

gwen I've been avoiding her questions, haven't said nothing. I know - being a bit stubborn - I'm holding all the power and gonna keep it😆
So yeah she asked more today - I stuck with just I'm deciding what I think of it.

Angelina

Saintprudence It indicates the belt had not just been examined, but has been worn, and perhaps escalates the existing conversation to a new level.

this should not happen. the parents should not interfere and best not talk about it at all. if @Jen has more in mind with the belt, she will approach her parents on her own.

Jen

i admit that what you write fascinates me. i don't know anyone (maybe with the exception of @Ines) who deals with the topic of chastity in such a differentiated way. 🙂

Saintprudence

Jen Good job sticking by your principles. Your dedication to hanging onto your power means you will be more confident and secure in yourself no matter what happens. And that if you decide to hand the key over to someone else, that it will be entirely on your terms.

You’ve given me a lot to ponder and evolve my views here. I think I need to revise what I said above about chastity belts not being effective replacements for willpower. If you have a personal determination to maintain self-control, the belt can be a useful tool to help. I know that when I was in college and in control of my own destiny, I tried very hard not to self-touch but I would fail because of what Catholics call “the near occasion of sin”: I’d be in my bed, I’d be alone, the opportunity was literally right there. Looking back, if I had privately placed myself in a chastity device before bed and unlocked in the morning, the simple act of having to go across the room to get the key from my desk would be enough to at least get me to reflect on whether I really wanted to do this.

Christine

Jen So yeah she asked more today

What did she ask?

Jen

Saintprudence If you have a personal determination to maintain self-control, the belt can be a useful tool to help.

Well the belt is doing the opposite😳 but also I haven't decided. It's a thing my thoughts go around and around on like staying virgin but really committing to that made me calmer. But committing to complete self control - I'll go crazy in my own head it's too hard. So the belt is part of it like part of even the deciding - can I really wear this thing for a good chunk of every day? And it's the can I question before do I.

Jen

Jen damn I think I just got what Ines means by protecting.

Saintprudence

Jen also, you are asking entirely the right questions. Determining if you can even bear to wear it long term should totally be the priority before any key is handed over to anyone, if ever.

Saintprudence

Jen indeed, that’s the dual value of a key holder: someone to augment your own willpower, and the fulfillment of receiving the level of care and attention required to remain safely chaste.

HHelen

Renita But my belt is always locked.

Now, but not before.

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