Thighbands

Sara2001

Foxies Do other wearers find the same and if so, how do you cope? Are there things you can do to minimize the urge to stretch your legs far apart?

I stretch my body by standing on my toes, it helps a bit, but doesn't really minimize the urges. I haven't found anything to get rid of them, but you can kind of get accustomed to them.

Foxies But the padlock effectively prevents me from doing almost all normal activities including housework and going outside the house is impossible.

I haven't the same experience, except walking is much more difficult and of course stairs are an issue. I agree with you, that house work is much easier with the chain in place, luckily this is almost always the case for me. Normally I have to wear the padlock from dinner to the next morning. I agree with you, that it doesn't add much security, but my father thinks it does.

Foxies

Sara2001 I stretch my body by standing on my toes, it helps a bit

I too have tried stretching including even forcing hard against the chain that induces a little pain in my thighs. I think the pain takes my mind off the urge temporarily and gives a very brief relief but it is hardly something that is pleasant to do very often 😅 . Hopefully the "accustoming" won't take too much longer - grins. 🤣

Ines

Foxies While it is true that they do provide more protection (which is nice), I still wish I could shake this feeling that I periodically I must open my thighs.

Well, yes, it is a nice feeling BUT not for everytime, I mean there are a lot of situations where the extra protection is not needed, if the girl is not mad, she would not try to touch herself going to have a walk with friends. And more, I agree that bands give more safety to the belt, however a chain 5-6 cm provides all the safety a padlock, with a normal belt is redundant.
I, for my FS Belt, that has a bit smaller shield, have a block piece for the thigh bands that is much more restrictive than a padlock, and frankly I do not like use it at all, I hate it, in fact.
IIt is true that I have my legs pretty strong and, maybe, a padlock can be broken.
About open thighs, yes, it is true, and you will catch yourself trying to force the bands systematically, every time you sit.
Frankly, I will talk about all this with your partner. 24/7 bands is not a good idea.

Foxies

Ines 24/7 bands is not a good idea

Are you saying bands should only be used to provide the extra protection required to guard against those times when one gets a temptation to try and gain a little stimulation for pleasure and to relieve some sexual tension? Such times are indeed more common for me since I retired and I never can predict when they may happen. Certainly 5 - 6 cm of chain prevents this (and actually adds to the delight of frustration - smiles) and I find that even a walk down our garden changes the way I feel and respond.

The padlock at night is of course unnecessary in this regard however the reason for her to impose it and for me to accept it is different from that described above. To understand the reason however may be difficult for most willing wearers here, who wear at the requests/demands of parents etc. There is a complexity to it that arises simply because I am in a very committed and loving relationship of many years duration. And it goes beyond 24/7 thigh bands and even my chastity belt. I will try to explain it if you ask, but I fear it might not make much sense to the younger girls here.

Perhaps a new thread on: "Why a willingness to wear a chastity belt" might be made - but I am new and do not know how to do this. I would be very interested to see the opinions of others here on that topic.

Angelina

Amira but more protected, it is not all bad 🙂

really ? I just feel more restrictive 😂

Foxies

i have to disappoint you, the need to spread your legs never disappears, because the thighbands are always present. it gets better with time but not much. i only wore a padlock for a short time myself and other users here. i could go out with it, but the experiences are very different here and yes , they are very restrictiv

Ines have a block piece for the thigh bands that is much more restrictive than a padlock, and frankly I do not like use it at all, I hate it, in fact.

did you ever use this system again after your "test night"? 😂

Mary

Foxies Yes, I wear thigh bands. Originally, it was because my husband wanted me to do so. Now, I must confess, I find that I like them precisely because they are so restrictive.

Your partner is sensible in agreeing to remove the connecting chain when you go hiking. There are some other times when a chain does not make sense. However, with those exceptions, wearing thigh bands with the connecting chain is can be made to work.

I have found that a thin leather skirt, worn as a slip, under my outer skirt or dress is sometimes helpful.

Foxies

Mary I find that I like them precisely because they are so restrictive.

In some sense I can relate to this. It helps I am retired so there is nothing I do that they can really interfere with. But there is a strangely comforting feeling that they are there, protecting me and keeping my partner close to me. Its a bit difficult to explain though I will admit they can be a bit aggravating at times. I do seem to become less anxious about them and I love your idea of a thin leather slip.

Tobbe I advise you to avoid hiking with thigh bands now in the beginning.

Thank you for your kind thought and advice. My partner read this and has told me she will keep a very close eye on me on our Sunday hike and will remove the thigh bands at the first sign of any abrasions.

Tobbe

Foxies As for hiking, she will remove the connecting chain between the bands (but not the bands themselves) when we go hiking.

If you are new using thigh bands, you may get blisters on your thighs. Therefore, I advise you to avoid hiking with thigh bands now in the beginning.

Mary

Foxies My feelings of being restricted, confined, and loved were more intense when we went out to public events. In a strange way, it was even more intense when I went out by myself to work or having lunch with friends. Now that we do so much less due to Covid, it's different - more of a totally private matter, but the feeling of being protected remains.

Depending on the length of the connecting chain, they can be anything from maddening, to aggravating, to forgettable. I have never been able to accept the maddening length, but I have varied feeling about other lengths, depending on my mood. My husband is usually sensitive to that and chooses wisely. That's one of the many thing I so love about him.

Foxies

Mary Depending on the length of the connecting chain, they can be anything from maddening, to aggravating, to forgettable.

In many respects, despite my inexperience with the thigh bands, it seems like we are on the same page. It is still early days and the connecting chain has been adjusted (with more than a little experimentation - smiles) so that I can negotiate the stairs safely. However, similar to your husband, my partner is sensitive to my moods and has specifically said that she does not want me to become unhappy (which would defeat the real purpose). For this reason she is staying very close to me, partly to make sure I don't fall and break something 😅 and has said she is willing to adjust the chain to match conditions so that I remain safe and protected. While I do not want the chain to be constantly aggravating, I don't really want it to become forgettable either. And yes, I like the look of them too! lol

It sounds like your husband has very similar concerns for you - smiles

Ines

Angelina did you ever use this system again after your "test night"? 😂

Call me masochistic: some short " Experiments", and no... I hate it.

Foxies

Angelina i could go out with it

While I shouldn't laugh - I do have to smile at the thought of trying to go out with my padlock in place 😅 . Just to get down the stairs is a major challenge that involves sitting on each stair one at a time, bending both knees at the same time and bumping down each stair on my bum. Hardly very elegant or ladylike! 😅 Once at the outside door my stride would be so short that it would take me half an hour to walk down the garden and back. However did you manage to go out at all and do anything?

Mary

Foxies Yes, I certainly don't want them to be forgettable. The constant awareness of their presence is a continuing source of satisfaction.

Incidentally, once you have found a suitable length - one you can live with for several days - there is an alternative to using locks. I found that locks were bulky and hence less than ideal. My husband uses gauge jump rings instead when he plans to secure the connecting chains for an extended period of time. A jump ring made from very heavy gauge wire can only be opened with a special tool - one that he has and I do not.

Angelina

Ines

understandable, it sounded very brutal 😂

Foxies ust to get down the stairs is a major challeng

stairs are in my opinion a bigger challenge than going normal outside

Foxies However did you manage to go out at all and do anything?

well, i only had the padlock version for a short time, but how did i manage it? well, i just did it, i planned more time but i just did it, life has to go on even with thighs tied together 😉

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think that's his responsibility. As a leader, his wishes must priority 2 for himself.

Right.And it fits your rules about thinking about you before about him.

Sara2001 If I try to change a decision, I will be punished for this.

Not easy to not even try,I guess.

Sara2001 Why? I see no impact on everything because of it. But I normally sleep with Daniel in the same bed, I think this is something most wearers can't have.

In my case,it is totally forbidden to sleep naked.I don't like it,but I understand how it is related to chastity(being naked can be considered to be almost the opposite of chastity...).

Ines Is it not true, that in the period in which you wear now the bands is when we try to find with more cravings a bit of stimulation?

In my case,even if I don't wear thigh bands the evening or at night,usually(except if I'm punished),yes.

Angelina Understandably, nobody would 😉

Willingly wearers may.😉

Angelina in bed nobody sees us 😉

But,if caught,I would be punished.

Amira yes, I feel a lot like that.)

It's the case for many of us.

Foxies a padlock is place between the "D" rings

It's the same for me,but I don't wear these permanently,happily.

Ines

Voluntary try,so?

Sara2001

Angelina stairs are in my opinion a bigger challenge than going normal outside

Yes, I have to agree. I go out with the padlock in place, too. You are very slow and stairs are definitely your biggest enemy, but it is possible to handle as long as you have enough time and people don't care about it.

Vanessa Not easy to not even try,I guess.

I have to wait until our next maintenance session to explain how I feel, as long as I stay calm, everything is fine. Yes, this is often difficult. It helps that I am allowed to ask as often as necessary to understand his motivations.

Tobbe

The "hobble skirt" that was briefly popular around 1910-1911 and narrow enough hem to significantly impede the wearer's stride. To prevent splitting their skirts, some women wore "leg cuffs" or tied their legs together at the knee. Someone who is now starting to think thighs bands?

Foxies

Mary I found that locks were bulky and hence less than ideal.

Locks are a little bulky and something lighter and less clunky would be desirable. I do not know what jump rings are but my partner is very inventive and is likely to com up with something, once she has determined the best length of my connecting chain. Was there any method behind your husband selecting the length of your connecting chain or was it a case of experimenting?

Ines

Vanessa Voluntary try,so?

Call me masochistic. Yes, voluntary, but when you do not have the key, the term "voluntary" is a bit adulterated.
Voluntary closing.... Demanding opening, I think 😆

Angelina

Vanessa but I understand how it is related to chastity(being naked can be considered to be almost the opposite of chastity...).

but you are not naked while wearing the belt 😉

Vanessa Willingly wearers may.😉

yes, but not always 😉

Vanessa But,if caught,I would be punished.

what I think is wrong, but you already know that

Sara2001

so 4 years ago? a very long time 🙁

Foxies

interesting story, although I still think that something is different with you, because the padlock is very restrictive, but it was not as difficult for me as it was for you

Mary

Foxies We started with a chain length to approximate my stride in a pencil skirt. Then some experimentation because walking with my thighs chained together is not all like walking in a skirt. Some trial and error as my husband would say.

Chris1

Sara2001 When was your last orgasm? I read that you don't get any breaks.

Vanessa

Sara2001 people don't care about it.

No one have asked you why you walked slowly?

Sara2001 I have to wait until our next maintenance session to explain how I feel, as long as I stay calm, everything is fine. Yes, this is often difficult. It helps that I am allowed to ask as often as necessary to understand his motivations.

It may be hard to have to wait to the next maintenance session if you want to talk about your feelings soon after the precedent one...

I think it is very important to let you ask questions to understand well why there is a rule(or a punishment,I guess you can ask about the reasons why you get punished,when it happens).

Ines

Good that you haven't to wear it if you don't ask,at least!😉

Foxies I had read Angelina's and Vanessa's comments that they wore their padlocks outside and were able to function, albeit slowly.

In my case,not tried it outside(for now).

Angelina but you are not naked while wearing the belt 😉

For my parents,chastity devices don't count as clothes.

Angelina yes, but not always 😉

Right.

Angelina so 4 years ago? a very long time 🙁

I think 4 years or more would be the case for both of us,too.I had to wear it permanently since a bit more than 3 years and half,presently...🙁

Angelina it was not as difficult for me as it was for you

Maybe as you were more trained to wear it?

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