Become a belted wife

GoodyProctor

Jen wow um PW seemed quite against it in her posts maybe don't get your hopes up.

You sure called that one.

Vanessa

Sara2001 A safe word is needed for BDSM play and for people who don't know eachother

I would add for the start of such relationship,until we're sure it works well,as intended.

Sara2001 We can talk about everything and we talk about everything and if I tell him that spankings feel wrong for me, he will listen and he will change things. But he has the final saying, except of the two points I talked about. But he knows this, too. So he will of course do something. Having a lot of power comes with a lot of responsibility.

So,if you agree,you can change greatly,or cancel some parts of it,with keeping the man-led relationship?

Sara2001 I like the maintenance session, but honestly I wouldn't need my behind spanked every week in combination with corner time.

What do you like in it,so?

Angelina which makes me happy for your brother, but as I have often said, I find it very unfair.

Similar feeling about it for me...

Angelina an extreme strain on the relationship

Especially as the start,when they both learn how to manage it.

Ines I am not hypocrite and I have to recognize that a resolute man is very sexy for me.

It can be,but I like to have my saying,generally.And I can fight for my point of view,if I think I'm right!😉

Saintprudence There’s no logical reason a belted woman’s twin brother should be free, except for some concept of male superiority.

I don't think my parents think males are superior,but they think the rules should be different.Especially,in my case;about sexuality and curfew.Probably based on the rules they had;it seems these differences are not uncommon.

gwen I love sharing knowledge.

And it is good!🙂

Jen Isn't that just people though? Other than physical strength, the rest is just different personalities?

At least,it makes sense.

Jen But that's just dating not relationships.

Dating can easily lead to relationship!😉

Saintprudence to accept the belt for one weekend a month.

Very reasonable.

Saintprudence by. I think it would be good for her to understand the denial I endure

I agree it could be good for you.

Saintprudence She’s worn my old one before

For how long?

Ines different brains.

Are you sure?

Ines And for example my sister had same environment and think different and it has to be respected.

Your unbelted sister don't think the same than you about men deciding?Do you think it is somehow related?

Ines the belt is an item for them

A possibility,not a general rule!😉

Sara2001 I always felt cared and protected

Even if belted and disciplined by your parents?I thought it would more easily apply with your boyfriend.Especially as you were a reluctant wearer.

Ines then I want (and I demand) to have voice and vote.

And is it the case?

GoodyProctor

Vanessa Saintprudence to accept the belt for one weekend a month.

Very reasonable.

Saintprudence She’s worn my old one before

For how long?

About six hours. You and I define "reasonable" very differently!

Vanessa Saintprudence by. I think it would be good for her to understand the denial I endure

I agree it could be good for you.

I understand it well enough. She needs to be belted, I belt her and make sure we follow through. I'm a very good keyholder, in my opinion. No need to add a belt on me to the equation.

GoodyProctor

Vanessa I don't think my parents think males are superior,but they think the rules should be different.Especially,in my case;about sexuality and curfew.Probably based on the rules they had;it seems these differences are not uncommon.

Your parents would get along great with mine.

Sara2001

Vanessa would add for the start of such relationship,until we're sure it works well,as intended

Yes, for the start it is important.

Vanessa So,if you agree,you can change greatly,or cancel some parts of it,with keeping the man-led relationship?

He must decide, but he must decide in a way that fits me.

Vanessa What do you like in it,so?

The scheduled event to openly talk about anything and the feeling that I know he cares for me and the feeling that he is really into this lifestyle, even if this knowledge is paid with a sore behind.

Vanessa Even if belted and disciplined by your parents?I thought it would more easily apply with your boyfriend.Especially as you were a reluctant wearer.

It's much stronger when it's done by Daniel, but I never felt abused by father, even if I don't like it.

Ines

Vanessa It can be,but I like to have my saying,generally.And I can fight for my point of view,if I think I'm right!😉

It is obvious! I can be lazy, not a total idiot! 😂

Vanessa

GoodyProctor About six hours.

Not so long,but enough to find if it hurts.

GoodyProctor You and I define "reasonable" very differently!

I'm in permanent chastity since several years,so a week-end is very reasonable,even in your situation!

GoodyProctor I'm a very good keyholder

It seems so,based on the post you and your wife made.But you can't know exactly what she feels if not wearing one,at least for one or two days.

GoodyProctor

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GoodyProctor

Vanessa I'm in permanent chastity since several years,so a week-end is very reasonable,even in your situation!

See, I find enforced permanent chastity to be very UNreasonable! You should be allowed free choice here. The word on this forum that bugs me most is "reluctant" wearers. Willing wearers, I'm fine with; do what makes you happy. Unwilling wearers? Honestly I think most of those are exaggerating or just making it up. Reluctant wearers gives me the idea of someone who thinks the belt is a bad idea but has been sort of pushed into one and just accepts it to keep the peace. That FREAKS ME OUT. The evolution seems pretty constant. Pru started the belt for the fun of it, and eventually reached a point where she wants to be belted for the rest of her life. She's a big fan of that phrase. I don't want to be belted for the rest of my life. I don't really want to be belted at all. A little bit might be fine but by definition you're giving up some of the power.

Vanessa It seems so,based on the post you and your wife made.But you can't know exactly what she feels if not wearing one,at least for one or two days.

This does make me think hard.

Angelina

Sara2001 He must decide, but he must decide in a way that fits me.

Have these situations already occurred and if so, did he make decisions that suited you, so that you were more satisfied afterwards?

Sara2001 but I never felt abused by father, even if I don't like it.

i agree with you that's exactly how i feel too

Vanessa

Sara2001 He must decide, but he must decide in a way that fits me.

Interesting,I thought it was all the rules or not at all,not adapted.

Sara2001 if this knowledge is paid with a sore behind.

You don't think you would have such knowledge without the spanking and cornertime parts?Even with a longer talking instead?

Ines

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GoodyProctor ou should be allowed free choice here.

I agree!

GoodyProctor Reluctant wearers gives me the idea of someone who thinks the belt is a bad idea but has been sort of pushed into one and just accepts it to keep the peace.

It is a bit this.Accepting it because the consequences would be too bad in my opinion.But I prefer "reluctant werare" than "forced wearer",as,technically,I can tell my parents to give me my keys and take it off,if I'm ready to accept the consequences.

GoodyProctor hat FREAKS ME OUT.

You should not.The circumstances aren't the same,and,as it is a choice,or even a gift to her,to put in on a few days,it could be decided before,and very clearly,that it would only be worn this week-end,no more and not done again.

GoodyProctor This does make me think hard.

Good;I think it is better to know her feelings with it on,which can't be done after wearing it 6 hours.A week-end could be enough(especially if you "use your freedom" more often than two or three times a week).

Sara2001

Did it happen that you make a change which seemed a good idea,but was not good when used,and cancel it one week after?

Sara2001

Angelina Have these situations already occurred and if so, did he make decisions that suited you, so that you were more satisfied afterwards?

We adjust small things on a regular basis. After our weekly talk he often decide to change small things. So a big intervention was never necessary.

Joh

GoodyProctor
I totally agree with you.

Angelina

GoodyProctor Reluctant wearers gives me the idea of someone who thinks the belt is a bad idea but has been sort of pushed into one and just accepts it to keep the peace

this describes my situation very well 😉

Sara2001 We adjust small things on a regular basis. After our weekly talk he often decide to change small things.

if the changes are not to your satisfaction, can you bring it up again next time or do you have to wait a few weeks/months before you can ask about it again?

Sara2001

Angelina if the changes are not to your satisfaction, can you bring it up again next time or do you have to wait a few weeks/months before you can ask about it again?

I can bring up anything I want as often as I want during our weekly talks. It wouldn't make sense to wait month or weeks. Hiding things is not useful. Of course he prefers when I only do it when I have new things to say, but even if not it is appreciated.

Angelina

Sara2001

that sounds understandable, i thought he wanted you to give the changes a bit more time, but good that you can talk openly 🙂

Sara2001

Angelina that sounds understandable, i thought he wanted you to give the changes a bit more time, but good that you can talk openly

Talking about something and changing something immediately because of it are two different things. Often he just explain to me why something is like it is and the idea behind. Then we talk about our position to this idea and almost always I then understand that anything makes sense.

Vanessa Interesting,I thought it was all the rules or not at all,not adapted.

I don't understand what you mean.

Vanessa You don't think you would have such knowledge without the spanking and cornertime parts?Even with a longer talking instead?

Honestly, I think it would be very different. I don't know, it's very unlikely that we will try it. The current system is definitely working and not to bad.

Vanessa Did it happen that you make a change which seemed a good idea,but was not good when used,and cancel it one week after?

If he sees that something was a bad idea, he may change it the same day. He is very responsible. I have accepted that sometimes he thinks it's still a good idea but I don't so, then I talk to him again until I understand his idea or until he changed something. I don't miss the power to demand a change immediately. It gives me the security that he knows he has to be careful, because I will never "fight" against it. I just talk about it in a calm, constructive and respectful way during our weekly maintenance, but I accept that he has the final saying in everything.

GoodyProctor

Vanessa Good;I think it is better to know her feelings with it on,which can't be done after wearing it 6 hours.A week-end could be enough(especially if you "use your freedom" more often than two or three times a week).

"Use my freedom" two or three times a week, sure, that's a good number, giggles.

Angelina

Vanessa It is a bit this.Accepting it because the consequences would be too bad in my opinion.But I prefer "reluctant werare" than "forced wearer",as,technically,I can tell my parents to give me my keys and take it off,if I'm ready to accept the consequences.

i prefer the term involuntary wearer

Sara2001 Then we talk about our position to this idea and almost always I then understand that anything makes sense.

the question is whether it makes sense for him or whether you can also see the sense and the positive benefit for yourself?

Vanessa

GoodyProctor

To know the effect of the belt,it should be on a day you want to "use your freedom"! 😉

GoodyProctor

Vanessa To know the effect of the belt,it should be on a day you want to "use your freedom"! 😉

Good news: that's almost any day!

Vanessa

Sara2001 Talking about something and changing something immediately because of it are two different things. Often he just explain to me why something is like it is and the idea behind. Then we talk about our position to this idea and almost always I then understand that anything makes sense.

When thinking about a new rule,do you talk about it,and then wait one or two weeks before starting to use it,to be sure you can think enough about it?

Sara2001 I don't understand what you mean.

I guessed you should use every rules or cancel it totally,not being able to discard some of the rules,but still keeping a man-led relationship.

Sara2001 it's very unlikely that we will try it

So you would never know if it would be different.Trying it a few weeks would do no bad...

Sara2001 If he sees that something was a bad idea, he may change it the same day. He is very responsible. I have accepted that sometimes he thinks it's still a good idea but I don't so, then I talk to him again until I understand his idea or until he changed something. I don't miss the power to demand a change immediately.

Good point.

You must wait until the weekly maintenance to ask for a change,but in his case?Can he decide to change a rule if he has some doubts about it during the week,or does he wait until the weekly maintenance for it?

GoodyProctor

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Angelina i prefer the term involuntary wearer

Similar;but why?

Sara2001

Angelina the question is whether it makes sense for him or whether you can also see the sense and the positive benefit for yourself?

I can see why it makes sense for our relationship or me.

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