I am not sure if you are answering my post, but anyway I think your approach is wrong.
I hope my live partner, loves me, and protected me, I will not love him if he is cruel with me.
Well maybe, someday, I will be more playful than him, and if he decides do not release me, I have to accept, and of course I would feel a bit frustrated, but is his power do it. And probably it will be worst for him, I will have more strength the next time🤗!
Another much more different think is that you man neglect about his wife, making him unhappy. Most of us have not any problem giving ourselves to our beloved being, but he has to be tender and solicitous with us.
I agree with give the key of my pleasure to my partner, and I like the idea, even if it suppose to be a bit frustrated sometimes, but I can not surrender to a man who does not care about me, and he does not try make me happy.
I am not sure, if I can explain me well enough, @strictfather , for me give control of my feminity is, as said Epicure "to accept present bad, if it will carry you pleasure in the future". Water tastes better if you are a little thirsty..... :😅 But I am not a camel 🐫! :😂