Become a belted wife

Vanessa

Christine

They only wanted it after the talk.

Christine

Vanessa They only wanted it after the talk.

Yes, but the talk was inspired by this forum.

Ines

It is a very logical story.
I do not have any doubt about it.
Currently I am thinking in a fact about animal kingdom.

Vanessa

Christine

I think he would have talked with the parents of his girlfriend,anyway,not very related to us...

Christine

Vanessa I think he would have talked with the parents of his girlfriend,anyway,not very related to us..

He might not have known about this opportunity and this conversation would not have taken place.

Caspara

Renita You were not supposed to involve her parents into things that must be between your and her only.

It's a tough question, we talked about it 3 times, I think. He didn't have any authority, so the only other option would have been to talk and do nothing. I have been unfaithful, even though I knew I wasn't supposed to. Not often, but sometimes I just had a strong urge to feel something down there. So he is probably right, that there would be a time in the future, where I wouldn't be able to resist again. So the belt is his idea of insurance during those times.

Angelina

Caspara So he is probably right, that there would be a time in the future, where I wouldn't be able to resist again.

but then your relationship is not completely perfect and then both of you should work on it. if i really love my partner i would not cheat on him, it would be completely out of the question.

Renita

Caspara So the belt is his idea of insurance during those times.

He could do it himself without having your parents involved. Just inform them without details.

Vanessa

Angelina

I agree.

Renita

Sure.

Angelina

Renita

he shouldn't do it at all ! obviously the two don't trust each other 100%. that's not a good precondition for the relationship between chastity belt wearer and key holder either.

Caspara

Renita He could do it himself without having your parents involved. Just inform them without details.

I am unsure if that would have worked. Without a good reason my father would have suspected we played some kind of fetish game. And we needed his cooperation, since I mostly still stay at my families home. And I do have only myself to blame. I am not supposed to keep things from my father. I have been spending more time at my future inlaws and they would have been way more strict on this. They have quite a few more rultes than my family. Better to learn it now than after the wedding 🙂

Renita

Angelina obviously the two don't trust each other 100%

100% trust might not be necessary.

Angelina

Renita

when i marry someone it is required

Renita

Angelina when i marry someone it is required

Their case might be different.

Angelina

Renita Their case might be different.

therefore i am not sure if this wedding is right

Renita

Caspara Without a good reason my father would have suspected we played some kind of fetish game.

The good reason was your virginity. And nothing wrong with fetish games.

Vanessa

Caspara

Even if your father suspected it was a game,if your fiancé have kept the keys,except one in emergency that you couldn't have used without him knowing it easily,it could have worked.

Do you know when your chastity belt would be delivered?

Caspara

Maybe it would have worked, I don't know. I am not going to question his decision on this.

Angelina therefore i am not sure if this wedding is right

🙁 I still love him very much and I know he cares deeply for me. So the last thing I want is not going through with the wedding.

Joh

Renita The good reason was your virginity

I agree with that. @Caspara This is a good reason for your father.

Angelina

Caspara 🙁 I still love him very much and I know he cares deeply for me. So the last thing I want is not going through with the wedding.

if you really love him you wouldn't need a belt to resist the temptation to cheat on him, i believe you love him but you don't love him exclusively and that would be a prerequisite for the wedding in my opinion.

Renita

Caspara I am not going to question his decision on this.

You are the only one who lost in this situation.

Sara2001

Caspara 🙁 I still love him very much and I know he cares deeply for me. So the last thing I want is not going through with the wedding

I think the most important question is, do you love him deeply enough to wear a belt for him for the rest of your life.. I think if it feels like you have to do it because otherwise it wouldn't work, you should absolutely not do it. If you feel, that you give him a big gift by wearing the belt and if you feel that you don't have to wear it because he doesn't trust you, it can work. I will wear my chastity belt, tightbands and a chastity bra for my upcoming husband after marriage,.too. But I only feel comfortable with this because I am 100% sure that I can trust him and that he trusts me and that anything he do to me is motivated out of love for me. Don't do it because otherwise he wouldn't trust you. A chastity belt can add something to a relationship, but it must never be a precondition for a relationship.

Max9

Angelina I agree. Well, it might also be some sort of nymphomania...

Caspara

Angelina if you really love him you wouldn't need a belt to resist the temptation to cheat on him, i believe you love him but you don't love him exclusively and that would be a prerequisite for the wedding in my opinion.

Oh, I think you misunderstood me. I honestly believe I will be able to resist temptation and I really want to. That's what I told him, but he would rather be sure. Especially since I have already decieved my father, whom I do love dearly. But people can be selfish in the short term, even if they are in love, don't you think? And it might not be that easy in the future. I have heard it from my future sister/mother in law and his family does not really believe in sexual release for women, even after marriage.

Laura Her father would prefer if her fiancé didn't have an access to that keys 😂

Exactly, Kaushal couldn't measure me, he can't put the belt on me, he cannot supervise me in the beginning and during showers and he will not have a key. So my father has to be involved from the beginning.

Vanessa Do you know when your chastity belt would be delivered?

I don't know, but it is still a few weeks I think.

Max9 I agree. Well, it might also be some sort of nymphomania...

Nooooooo.... I have been good for the most part. And I will be in the future.

Sara2001 I think the most important question is, do you love him deeply enough to wear a belt for him for the rest of your life..

I don't know. I am scared, I have never seen a belt before and they look really uncomfortable 🙁. But I really want to do it for him.

Sara2001 If you feel, that you give him a big gift by wearing the belt

It is something that is important to him and if I can offer that, than I will gladly do it. He is the best man I have ever met, I know he cares deeply about me and he has shown me so much of the world already. I love how much time he spends just talking to me about the world, about history, science, philosophy. I could listen to him for hours every day. I know it will be though sometimes, since he does have high expecatiations of me and I will be under his discipline. But I have been disciplined before, recently even at his place. And so has his sister and his mother. Do I sometimes wish I was in a more egalitarian relationship? I do, especially while getting disciplined. But then again, I normally don't mind following his decisions and I do enjoy being the woman in the relationship and submitting to his authority. He is an amazing leader and has always been very fair to me (strict but fair). I would prefer our relationship to any relationship with somebody else any day <3.

Angelina

Renita

that is true 🙁

Max9 Well, it might also be some sort of nymphomania...

that would be a different situation, but then therapy would be better than a belt. the belt would then be a transitional solution at best.

Sara2001 because otherwise it wouldn't work,

that is the crucial point and the difference between you and her you have described it very well 🙂

Caspara But people can be selfish in the short term, even if they are in love, don't you think?

if there are problems in the relationship, they should be discussed openly, but i think that selfishness does not have to go as far to cheating in a happy relationship/marriage.

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