Become a belted wife

Sara2001

Angelina Isn't it his job to stop when he sees it's getting too difficult for you?

Yes, but it's part of my job, too.

Angelina

Sara2001 Yes, but it's part of my job, too.

I don't think that's good, he has the dominant role so he should also do that job.

Sara2001 I think this is something normal in a family,

i support you on this point. it should be normal in families to talk about this. in other families we also talk about relationships or how children are brought up etc. in your families (daniel and yours) the topics are a bit different, but the principle remains the same 🙂

Joh Most of the time only couples talk about if but not with siblings, parents, or other relatives.
If you do it in your family I have no problem with it. Nevertheless it is not usual.

we talk about it in a forum with people we don't know personally, why shouldn't we talk about it with our family?

Joh

Sara2001

Sara2001 This is not a topic that is discussed at the dinner table

I remember that you told us it was during dinner in Daniel's parents house. Her husband told her it will be reduce from 12 times to 6 times per year.

Sara2001

Joh I remember that you told us it was during dinner

This is a family event and not in public.

Joh

Sara2001 This is a family event and not in public.

Thank you. Everything is sad.

Megan

@Sara2001 😅 I don't want to belabor things and respond to your responses but I want you and Daniel to get emotional support and appreciation for the female orgasm as well as male dominance.

Are there sex therapists who you can tell your submissive and you wear a chastity belt and all that and she won't favor you like a fake relationship counselor but they will help you communicate?

Sara2001

Megan Are there sex therapists who you can tell your submissive and you wear a chastity belt and all that and she won't favor you like a fake relationship counselor but they will help you communicate?

Sorry, I don't get the meaning of this sentence if I translate it. What is your suggestion? Should we go to a therapist? What is fake? Where do you see a communication problem?

Sara2001

Joh Thank you. Everything is sad.

I think you have the wrong idea about it. It wasn't something like "Hey everybody, I just want to announce to everyone that...", but our mans talked about new rules and progresses and how things worked for them. But not with the sense of showing the others who is the most extreme or most cruel one, but to exchange information. I think this is something normal in a family, it just feels uncomfortable for you, because you are not used to our lifestyle.

Joh

Sara2001 I think you have the wrong idea about it. I

Sorry, you drew the wrong conclusion from my comments.
My comment referred to your answer:

Sara2001 This is not a topic that is discussed at the dinner table or in front of foreigners.

You confirmed it was happen in this way at the dinner table.
From the little information we got we couldn't know what topic is usual at your dinner table. For my relationship our sex praxis is not a topic if someone else is at the table. It is strict private.

Sara2001 I think this is something normal in a family,

From my knowledge sex praxis is not a normal topic in a family. I never heard anything from my parents or from other that they talk about it in their family. Most of the time only couples talk about if but not with siblings, parents, or other relatives.
If you do it in your family I have no problem with it. Nevertheless it is not usual.

Megan

Sara2001 Sorry, I don't get the meaning of this sentence if I translate it. What is your suggestion? Should we go to a therapist? What is fake? Where do you see a communication problem?

You don't need a therapist. You are not mentally ill.

We tend to be the average of the people around us. Or you tend to go in the direction of others.
He is young man, you are a young couple and if you went on vacation with another chaste couple that had more orgasms, the culture would be more about unlocking your wife.

Jen

Sin I was just concerned about you saying "Stop" and then getting punished for it. No means no. There doesn't have to be a reason or a justification for this, ever. That's all.

I think it's "Stop before I orgasm" not "Stop I don't want to do this"

Joh but not with siblings, parents, or other relatives.

I've talked with cousins about some of their fun, I assume siblings would be similar. In front of parents is weird.

Christine

Megan No way we wanted him to wear my keys around his neck that's just weird.

Why? My mom does it this way.

Angelina

Christine Why? My mom does it this way.

I wouldn't want my father to do it, but in a relationship I find it romantic

Megan

Christine Why? My mom does it this way.

Angelina I wouldn't want my father to do it, but in a relationship I find it romantic

Angelina does your partner wear the keys around her neck?

I don't know. I tried it but it's tiny keys on a chain around his shoulders it's just a different look for him...
Maybe I should try it again???
There was just something about the idea that made the wallet super cool to me. I like the idea that it's in the wallet near him. I don't know

Vanessa

Sara2001

Not always easy,he should understand you can fail,especially at the start,when not used to control it better.

Would he always stop if you feel you can't control it longer,and ask to stop?

Megan Chastity to make someone unhappy isn't chastity it's something else to me.

I talk about two partners orgasming at the same time,not about chastity.

Sara2001 I don't fight my belt normally

You manage to not fight it?

Sara2001 to have one orgasm

Not allowed to have multiples ones?

Sara2001 I should stay horny even after an orgasm. Therefore it's very likely, that I normally have to to "edgings" directly after my orgasm.

Very hard!

Angelina we talk about it in a forum with people we don't know personally, why shouldn't we talk about it with our family?

Because it is anonymous,on this forum.

Joh

Angelina i support you on this point. it should be normal in families to talk about this. in other families we also talk about relationships or how children are brought up etc. in your families (daniel and yours) the topics are a bit different, but the principle remains the same

I agree it should be normal to talk about how children are brought up. But not to talk at the dinner table with the whole family around what sex praxis you use or have in mind.

Angelina we talk about it in a forum with people we don't know personally,

It is well know at social media we tell more freely because we are anonymous.
Do you tell your father what kind of sex praxis do you like and Camryn prefers?

Sara2001 I will always only be allowed to have one orgasm. He doesn't want me to get "enough" orgasms, but I should stay horny even after an orgasm. Therefore it's very likely, that I normally have to to "edgings" directly after my orgasm.

I see why he want it in your relationship. It makes sense.

Sara2001 No, just one.

He could vary it. Many orgasms in a row are a challenge.

Jen I've talked with cousins about some of their fun, I assume siblings would be similar. In front of parents is weird.

If you are close with your cousins it is the same as with you best friend. I have never been so close to my siblings to talk about it with them.
And I agree. With my parents would totally weird, because we was never so close.

Megan There was just something about the idea that made the wallet super cool to me. I like the idea that it's in the wallet near him. I don't know

If you have the feeling this is the right place than it is the right solution for you.

Foxies It essentially chains her to me too

Nice how you see and feel it.

Foxies

Angelina
Well it kind of is for us 😂

Angelina

Foxies Well it kind of is for us 😂

does your partner wear the keys around her neck?

Vanessa Because it is anonymous,on this forum.

that's what i mean, we talk to people we don't know personally, but can't talk to our family that we have known very well since birth? seems illogical to me

Sara2001 I feel that the family is a private space, we need to have an exchange in these aspects of our relationships, it's the only way to learn from eachother.

I agree with you 🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa Not always easy,he should understand you can fail,especially at the start,when not used to control it better.

Yes, especially in the beginning we both have to learn how my body reacts. I think, because of this we will talk a lot. Of course it stays most important that I don't have an orgasm without his permission. I think during our learning phase my punishment for failing will be a bit lighter, but still severe enough to trying hard to prevent it in the future.

Vanessa Would he always stop if you feel you can't control it longer,and ask to stop?

In the beginning, definitely. Most probably later, too. Telling him that he needs to stop before this is really the case, would earn me a punishment, too. After a while both of us will know how I react in which situation or mind state. It's a learning process.

Vanessa You manage to not fight it?

My belt has to be a normal part of my life. I don't want to fight all my life.

Vanessa Not allowed to have multiples ones?

No, just one.

Vanessa Very hard!

I will see, if it's to hard, he will change it, but this is our goal.

Vanessa Because it is anonymous,on this forum.

I feel that the family is a private space, we need to have an exchange in these aspects of our relationships, it's the only way to learn from eachother.

Sin

Sara2001 Vanessa Would he always stop if you feel you can't control it longer,and ask to stop?

In the beginning, definitely. Most probably later, too. Telling him that he needs to stop before this is really the case, would earn me a punishment.

Red flag! Stop means stop.

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think, because of this we will talk a lo

I hope it would let you manage it better.

Sara2001 I think during our learning phase my punishment for failing will be a bit lighter, but still severe enough to trying hard to prevent it in the future.

Too strict,in my opinion,you would need time to not fail...

Sara2001 Telling him that he needs to stop before this is really the case, would earn me a punishment, too.

It should be allowed to ask him to stop a bit sooner at first,even if reducing as you manage it better.

Sara2001 My belt has to be a normal part of my life. I don't want to fight all my life.

You're strong,I would not be able to stop fighting it.

Sara2001 No, just one.

Too bad!🙁

Never allowed to experience it,or do you think he could allow it sometimes?

Sara2001 I will see, if it's to hard, he will change it, but this is our goal.

Good he consider to change it if needed.

Sin I'm definitely not saying that! I was just concerned about you saying "Stop" and then getting punished for it. No means no. There doesn't have to be a reason or a justification for this, ever. That's all.

It's not a "no",it's a "stop" to avoid getting an orgasm if not allowed.It is more like a "wait" for him.

Jen I've talked with cousins about some of their fun, I assume siblings would be similar. In front of parents is weird.

I agree.

Angelina that's what i mean, we talk to people we don't know personally, but can't talk to our family that we have known very well since birth? seems illogical to me

Because we would probably never met other users of the board,and not recognize each other,even if walking in the same street.

Sara2001

But not allowed too soon,right?

Joh Do you tell your father what kind of sex praxis do you like and Camryn prefers?

Bad example,as she doesn't tell it here either!😉

Joh He could vary it. Many orgasms in a row are a challenge.

Yes.But stop before it becomes painful.

Sara2001

Sin Red flag! Stop means stop.

Your point of view, not mine. I think if done correctly, this can lead to something really enjoyable for both of us. I am fine if you think this is nothing for you, I don't want to convince you, but why do you think it can't be good for me?

Sin

Sara2001 I think if done correctly, this can lead to something really enjoyable for both of us.

I agree with you. :-)

Sara2001 why do you think it can't be good for me?

I'm definitely not saying that! I was just concerned about you saying "Stop" and then getting punished for it. No means no. There doesn't have to be a reason or a justification for this, ever. That's all.

Sara2001

Sin I'm definitely not saying that! I was just concerned about you saying "Stop" and then getting punished for it. No means no. There doesn't have to be a reason or a justification for this, ever. That's all.

No, you misunderstood. I get a punishment if I cum without permission and to prevent this, I can say "Stop". I am not punished if I ask for stopping the stimulation to prevent an orgasm, it's the opposite, he will be very proud if I do it in cases of "emergency".

Foxies

Angelina

Angelina does your partner wear the keys around her neck?

As a matter of fact she does. I love to see (and feel) them and she will tease me with them periodically, which is fun too. Since they are on a pretty gold chain I often tell her than the steel around my most important bits is just as strong as the chain around her neck. It essentially chains her to me too - smiles.

Angelina

Megan There was just something about the idea that made the wallet super cool to me. I like the idea that it's in the wallet near him. I don't know

your idea is not bad either and in the end it is important that you are satisfied with it. 🙂

Christine

Megan I tried it but it's tiny keys on a chain around his shoulders it's just a different look for him...
Maybe I should try it again???

Try a lace.

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