Jen
As long as discussions remain friendly and respectful I think the forum is really useful. I echo what I think @Ines would say at this point which is that people who are being abused should go to their local authorities. Consensual chastity does need a discussion forum though, a safe place, precisely because the issues aren't simple and clear cut. They're a terrific mess of sex, power and dominion. They're at once frustrating and peaceful, exciting and depressing, limiting and fulfilling. Is it a fetish? Is it a religious pursuit? Is it moral? Who the hell knows? That's why it's good to stay and talk.