More questions for those who asked to be locked up

Michael

Jonas The times of maximum frustration are the times when you are weakest and the belt is doing the most work. This really is the time for the keyholder to be strong and for the belt to remain locked in place.

Exactly, but again that is only a reason to think about the keyholder and finally enjoy the situation as you are a willing wearer. Desperation instead of frustration would be something completely different. I am sure that I would be unlocked in that case.

Sara2001

I agreed to stay locked after marriage, so I think I can say I was kind of asked.

Michael Do you prefer to have some say in how long you stay belted until your next orgasm (having complete control, giving a min and max time etc.) or do you prefer your keyholder to be in complete control?

No. I prefer to not have a saying, because then he needs to be more responsible. If I would have a saying, he wouldn't have to think about my needs first, because he would know that I will use my saying if it goes to far.

Michael Are you living in a relationship according to your preferences and if not, what is different to your ideal scenario of being kept in chastity?

Yes

Michael Do you use any kind of safeword or do you trust your keyholder 100% to realize when the belt has to be removed?

No. For the same reason as 11.

Michael Have you ever had a case of emergency when your keyholder wasn't present and did you have access to an emergency key?

No, no, but I will have after marriage, but not without him knowing when I use this way and with very severe consequences if I use the way out of REAL emergency.

Michael Are there any reasons for unlocking like doctor visits, sports and so on?

Doctor. The chain between my tightbands is sometimes removed for things like having a walk.

Michael Have you ever cheated during such a situation?

Michael What have or would have been the consequences?

My boyfriend would not be my keyholder anymore for at least a year. Then we would maybe retry it again.

Michael Do you have any way of how you handle when and why rules my be changed?

He decides about changes, I can state my opinion and he rethinks his position afterwards, but he has the final saying.

Dalila

Michael My keyholder should make the experience at least once. I think that applies to all keyholders because then they could understand better what feelings a wearer has to endure.

I think this is a good idea too. Lucky for me, my mother had to wear one so this is why she is more understanding.

Michael The emergency key is locked inside a 4 digit keysafe. Trying all combination takes too much time but I can call her in a case of emergency which has not happened yet when she wasn't present.

I don't think a 4-digit lock is very safe. You can break into one in less than an hour. I once new a boy who would find the combination for used locks so they could be sold again and he could do it in minutes.

Michael

Dalila

If it takes 1 second for a single combination, testing all combinations will be 10000 seconds, which is about 2,8 hours.
However, I don't think that I can keep up this speed the whole time and whenever I turn a 9 into a 0 which mens at least one other digit changes as well, it takes more then a second. Therefore I would assume it to take 4 hours, so 2 hours in avarage to get the correct combination.
I am not sure if this is too easy because I would really need these 2 hours and the danger of getting caught is also there.
We could put some tape on the keysafe, so she would see it whenever I have secretly tried a combination. Then the only question that remains is if we wanted to prevent me from having a possibility to get the keys within about 2 hours and having to face the consequences.

Jonas

Michael And worth remembering that electronic key-safes will often only allow a couple of false entries before locking up with ever greater time delays.

Samantha

Michael

Michael Do you prefer to have some say in how long you stay belted until your next orgasm (having complete control, giving a min and max time etc.) or do you prefer your keyholder to be in complete control?

I prefer to not have any say in the matter

Michael Why do you prefer it the way you answered to 11?

I wear the belt to give up the control over my sexuality

Michael Are you living in a relationship according to your preferences and if not, what is different to your ideal scenario of being kept in chastity?

I'm almost there 🙂 Once my fiance receives the keys and takes control it will be ideal

Michael Do you use any kind of safeword or do you trust your keyholder 100% to realize when the belt has to be removed?

100% trust and conviction to suffer the consequences if it goes not the way I want

Michael Have you ever had a case of emergency when your keyholder wasn't present and did you have access to an emergency key?

Some accidents occurred but none of them were serious enough to have the belt taken off, I do not have an emergency key with me, my parents have an emergency one but under the deal that it is only for emergencies

Michael Are there any reasons for unlocking like doctor visits, sports and so on?

Doctor's visits, I've spent a lot of time searching for a doctor that would be understanding and willing to accomodate my situation and "procedures" that would keep me from taking advantage of the belt being unlocked

Michael Have you ever cheated during such a situation?

No, couldn't even try

Michael What have or would have been the consequences?

I don't really know, but I would surely have a lot of time without orgasms

Michael Do you have any way of how you handle when and why rules my be changed?

No, I didn't want to be there a way to handle it. But if it would really get out of hand, I would probably be forced to destroy the belt, which, as difficult as wearing it is, I don't want to do as I would never again have the sense of inevitability when it comes to wearing the belt

Michael What would you like to know from all the other willing wearers?

What are their plans and reasons for wearing the belts? Oh, by the way, are there any other couples where both partners wear chastity devices?

Michael

Samantha I prefer to not have any say in the matter

As I said before, I prefer it this way as well in order to avoid stupid decisions due to being horny.
However, even if I fear the consequences I would have to face after cheating, I think I would feel more
comfortable if there was less room for possible cheating because then I would not have to worry that
I might regret a decision.
It is easy to avoid that during cleaning breaks. However, sports and doctor visits seem to me impossible
to make fail proof...

Samantha Doctor's visits, I've spent a lot of time searching for a doctor that would be understanding and willing to accomodate my situation and "procedures" that would keep me from taking advantage of the belt being unlocked

...
Therefore I'd like to know how you have arraged that for doctor visits?!

May I also ask if you have any tricks or rules for the situations when you have to put the belt back on after
you were allowed to have some pleasure? That is also a situation where someone could simply say no and
"escape" being belted.

Samantha What are their plans and reasons for wearing the belts? Oh, by the way, are there any other couples where both partners wear chastity devices?

A good question but I don't know other couples but I have to admit that I would like do belt my keyholder
sometimes. However, I don't think getting a third person as a keyholder would be an option.

Michael

I am not sure whether this thread is the correct one to revitalize for what I am going to post but as I do not have "my own" thread, I this this one fits best.
I just wanted to give an update about my situation. Previously I talked about plans to get locked up again and what I wish for in that case but life has made its own plans and it has taken a long time until everything has become ordered in a way that I can be chaste again.
Here I am, pretty much locked up under the conditions I hoped for, maybe a bit more strict but I have to deal with it 24/7 now. Therefore I might be more active here again as well.

Angelina

Michael

may i ask who your current key holder is?

KarimM

Karim's stepdaughter here: Never let your keyholder be very strict.

Joh

KarimM This is depended on every personal situation and it goals.

Michael

KarimM
But I am ok with that.

Michael

Angelina
It is my wife. Yes a lot has happened... 🙂

Sin

My partner is between jobs / working from home for a little while. Normally when he is home I keep him locked up, but my Christmas presents arrived early (new shields!!) so I asked him if he could keep me under lock and key for a little while.

It's been a bit weird having a keyholder in the house as normally it's my turn when he works away (we play remotely). It's been nice when we have time alone together, intimacy is a challenge and I'm getting sick of the teasing.

I started off really confident, up to and all through Christmas I was vibing and felt really strong. I've wavered a bit in the last few days and today I've downright struggled but I'm determined to keep going. Mentally I'm feeling up to it. Physically I'm not really. Lots of soul searching and a lot of confusion about what's mental and what's physical.

New dome shields are a love / hate thing. Hubby likes the clear dome but I'm not a huge fan. I'd rather not see down there. Fun to tease him with though! Metal shield is much bigger than I'm used to. Not a fan of how either of them sit with tight clothing.

I had some time to myself today for the first time in ages. Let's just say I tested out the metal dome and it worked really well. I guess it did just what it says on the packet! Feeling a little bit defeated but kind of proud / happy at the same time.

It's only been a month so far and for the most part I've felt warm and fuzzy 90% of the time. Feel like crying now but I know it will pass.

Anyway. That's my rant. Ultimately happy but occasionally scratching at the walls. The usual I guess. It feels kind of new for me, I lke that the shields work better than expected, it feels a lot more serious / challenging.

Milord

Sin
Thank you for sharing, I loved to read your feelings

Sin

I thought I would add my responses to the original thread topic...

Michael Do you prefer to have some say in how long you stay belted until your next orgasm (having complete control, giving a min and max time etc.) or do you prefer your keyholder to be in complete control?

If orgasms are the only focus, I prefer the keyholder to be in control. In reality, work, health and fitness, parental responsibilities etc take precedence.

Michael Why do you prefer it the way you answered to 11?

Just real life things.

Michael Are you living in a relationship according to your preferences and if not, what is different to your ideal scenario of being kept in chastity?

I guess. Switching works for both of us. Having more time to indulge in things would be nice but just not possible atm.

Michael Do you use any kind of safeword or do you trust your keyholder 100% to realize when the belt has to be removed?

Not really, I think we have a solid understanding of where we're at.

Michael Have you ever had a case of emergency when your keyholder wasn't present and did you have access to an emergency key?

Yes. No.

Michael Are there any reasons for unlocking like doctor visits, sports and so on?

Yes.

Michael Have you ever cheated during such a situation?

No comment.

Michael What have or would have been the consequences?

Guilt and shame.

Michael Do you have any way of how you handle when and why rules my be changed?

No rules as such, just belted or not belted.
We have one main rule and that is double-or-nothing... if you bring it up or whinge about it, your time doubles. I implemented this to stop him whinging. Basically you have to accept that the keyholder will unlock you if they want.
Note that this doesn't prevent legitimate discussion, it just stops the pointless "I'm horny" whining.

What would you like to know from all the other willing wearers?

How much do physical urges affect you and how do you overcome it mentally?

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