Rate of restriction

Kaja

Hi everyone,

I think that everybody who reads this forum know that Im for 10000 % sexual freedom 😀. For me the belt is only I toy (but I really like idea that somebody force me to wearing one - for example at bording school, summer cam, some relatives, ...) and I dont have one. So I will never lock my child in one (mayght be if he/she will really want it, its the same like buying little wibe for girl and I think that it is OK).

However I never understant the really restrictive parenst with child wearing it for 24/7 or using other things like bras, tightbands, ... . For me it is like carpet raid.

I see solution in "special operations". For example: going to party? - CB, going to sleepower? - CB, Do you have suspicion that you chil masturbate? - open door at day, supervesion while shower, cb at night. But never wearing it to school etc.

Do you know how I mean it? Thanks.

What is your meaning about it?

Jen

Kaja I have to admite that Im suprised that I found this almost only 24/7 weares.

😄 I'm a 10/7 to 16/7...

Kaja For me the belt is only I toy (but I really like idea that somebody force me to wearing one - for example at bording school, summer cam, some relatives, ...) and I dont have one.

Nah try it!
It's a toy - not a toy - it's up to you. Was a toy for me but not now - actually hasn't been a toy for 6 months!!😇

youdontknowme

Kaja I see solution in "special operations". For example: going to party? - CB, going to sleepower? - CB, Do you have suspicion that you chil masturbate? - open door at day, supervesion while shower, cb at night. But never wearing it to school etc.

I could see arguments made for allowing more social outings on conditions of belt wear, if you would disallow them were the belt not an option on the table. But those "would I hypothetically" things are hard to assess honestly.

As for suspicion of masturbation, no... just no. An involuntary belting for something that carries no risk of disease or pregnancy is only ever justified if the masturbation is so excessive, it severely impacts other areas of life. And at that point, to school might be the most important time to require the belt.

Megan

Kaja Do you know how I mean it? Thanks.

What is your meaning about it?

It's just nice. Super used to the things.

Angelina

Kaja What is your meaning about it?

that i don't really understand the question, sorry 😂

Kaja I have to admite that Im suprised that I found this almost only 24/7 weares.

well, let me put it this way, if i wore the belt 23/7, i would use the last hour for sex and masturbation, then the belt would be useless

youdontknowme And at that point, to school might be the most important time to require the belt.

also an interesting thesis, which if i thought like you in the post i would even agree with

Sara2001

I agree with you, I see it 100% exactly like this 🙂

Kaja

I have to admite that Im suprised that I found this almost only 24/7 weares.

Renita

Kaja I found this almost only 24/7 weares

I didn't plan to wear 24/7, but have to.

Saintprudence

Jen I'm a 10/7 to 16/7...

For now! 😆

Sin

From my experience 24/7 wear is definitely not the norm amongst the chastity community... and neither is family involvement. This place certainly takes the cake for that! Make of that what you will. I think the line between "fetish" and "serious use" is a lot more blurry than people on here like to make out.

I'm a lot older than most other women on here so I'm not exactly the target audience for "Unwed Chastity", but I enjoy the power play that comes with a belt. In the past I mostly submitted to a friend who lives overseas, and had loads of fun playing over the internet. These days I just dominate my man with it occassionally. I have no interest in wearing metal underwear whilst on my period ever again!

Kaja

youdontknowme Im fot TOTALLY SEUALY FREEDOM. You can find other my poste there.

I just want to demonstrate the disproportions and excessiveness of wearing cb 24/7 or tightbends etc if they are "more apropriate" (but for me also principaly wrong) possibilityes.

It is the same like olds laws - stealing = cut your hands. Yes, it is functional but totally idiotic.

Joh

I see and understand you view. I am as well can not understand why parents see it as their right to force her children to wear a CB. This is not acceptable.
If a child has interest in wearing a CB it something different. Because it has a big influence on it development it has be handle with care but why not let it try out.
As a solution for special occasions. Difficult. It could be a solution if both freely agree to it. But I prefer to teach them responsibility and you should trust you children.

Sara2001

I can understand why my father force me to wear the belt 24/7 with tightbands, even when I don't agree with him that this was necessary or okay in any way.

I know that it is a kind of abuse but I deep inside I personally don't feel abused.

I understand my father's intention why he wants me to wear both 24/7, again I don't agree with his opinion but I understand it. He wants to ensure that I not only not have sex before marriage but that I don't play with me there, too. Even if I couldn't reach an orgasm by playing it would still feel wrong for him, so he decided that tightbands are necessary, too.

I personally think that growing up in a family with strict discipline and chastity devices for the females and a clear patriarchy didn't last any "damages" for me and didn't prevent me from becoming an open minded person, but this of course doesn't make it okay. But I can and could accept my situation in the past and would say that overall I had a very good childhood and good teenage years. But I would never ever do the same to my kids.

toad

Sara 2001 while i do respect your chosen lifestyle i do have a question. Do you think that if you had grown up without your equiptment and strict parental supervision you would have chosen a submissive lifestyle. I'm an older submissive male and grew up in a patriarchal family and i see my submission to women as a sign of rebellion against male rule. Childhood is everything and it influences our whole life (even our sexuality.) I see ongoing chastity to be just a grooming tool to foster submission, and further the patriarchy. As i value your opinion i'd be interested in your thoughts, thank you.

Sara2001

toad That's difficult to say because I was grown up in the way I was grown up. From my perspective it feels like I know enough about equal rights relationships to be able to compare them with my lifestyle. Most of my friends have equal rights relationships and we talk a lot.
I think one of the few benefits from having to do long and regular corner times is that I have more then enough time to think about anything and any aspect of life. I have thought a lot about this question in the past, but I think it's impossible to answer, I have surely not met my soon husband. It's likely that I have at least at first I have looked for an equal rights relationship and maybe I would never have questioned if this is the right lifestyle for me. All I can say for sure is that I have the feeling that I really know what way I have chosen, that I know it will include a lot of rules and limitations for me in any area of life as well as severe consequences when I don't act appreciate. That I am happy with my decision and that I truly love my boyfriend and I can't wait to be married to him and he gets all the control my father still have. We both talked a lot about what we do when one of us discovers that we don't want this lifestyle anymore and we agreed that our relationship is more important for us then our lifestyle. We will only continue this lifestyle when both of us are happy with it. This gives me a very good feeling. As I said, in the corner I have a lot of time for reflection.

toad

Thank you Sara, very insightful. I doubt that you'll have to worry about abandoning your power dynamic, our sexuality runs deep. We like what we like, plus we get to choose. However, one thing to consider is the progressivness in this lifestyle. Due to love and lust you'll quite possibly find yourself much deeper into the lifestyle than you ever thought possible; even with the great communication that you enjoy. The control you seek does remove a level of responsibility from you but that is not the goal. The goal is the ability to know and meet the needs of your partner, which should be the goal of all relationships. I've been in both vanilla and femdom relationships with chastity. Other than sex the big difference is the enhanced communication and the fact that she gives me the information that is needed to be pleasing to her, which is my goal. In my expierience the equal relationships just go back and forth with not much forward progress. Even with equal relationships i always tell people there will be no meaningful forward progress untill the power dynamic is favorably resolved. In all relationships someone usually leads and someone follows (both roles are equally important for success) I commend you for knowing what you want and having the courage to pursue it. Best wishes.

Mr-TM

Kaja I see solution in "special operations". For example: going to party? - CB, going to sleepower? - CB, Do you have suspicion that you chil masturbate? - open door at day, supervesion while shower, cb at night. But never wearing it to school etc.

This would then be the pure idea of protection in particularly vulnerable situations.
But that would then make the "normal situations" "special".
In other words, if you protect your teenager with a cb in particularly dangerous situations, the teenager will find a way in normal everyday life to do what you want to prevent with the cb. Kids are very creative when it comes to doing forbidden things.
That's why I understand 24/7 for teenagers.

Rafael

Mr-TM

Here I speak from the experience of my house, and it is clear that you are right.
Wives and from a certain age daughters have to wear the belt on a 24/7 basis.
I am talking obviously about not very young, but from the age at which they can already be required to behave as responsible women.
In our house, girls have always been educated about the inconvenience of sex before marriage, and about the pernicious habit of masturbation, and based on that, when later, first my daughter and then my wife had their belt, this good manners helped them accept their belt.
I thought that using it mainly in moderate risk situations would be enough. They had quite a few breaks in "low risk" situations. Education is fine for them to accept the belt, but it is not enough to avoid weaknesses when the belt is not there.
As reported, I caught them trying to cheat with their belt, and I already realized it.
Since then they use the belt permanently and bands or even blockpiece as soon as the slightest doubt may arise.

Avery You raised a lot of points so I'm slightly embarrassed about picking on just one. I'm a hard no on supervised showers, especially if the supervisor is a man. Pervert city.

A man only should supervise his wife.

Kaja

Mr-TM If he didnt want to be pure and chaste HE HAS NOT to WEAR CB. And id she wants be pure (and wants to wear one) - he just need help during hard times (sleeping, sleepower, go out with bf/gf).

And if he occasionally fails? Nobody is perfect.

Purity and chastity - and wearing cb have not ever capture rest of your live (sports - PE at school, swimming at public pools, cycling ..., school and other activities - school trips, camps) and that parents who use metal bras or thighbands have go to prison for 150%.

Avery

Kaja supervision while shower

You raised a lot of points so I'm slightly embarrassed about picking on just one. I'm a hard no on supervised showers, especially if the supervisor is a man. Pervert city.

Avery

Rafael A man only should supervise his wife.

Well said.

Rafael the inconvenience of sex before marriage

'Specially if you have roommates.

Sin

Rafael A man only should supervise his wife.

And vice versa... No point letting a man sow their precious seeds down the plug hole.

All these men coming across all high and mighty when in 99% of cases it's boys who can't keep their urges under control.

C-B

Rafael fully agree, simillar by us