My daughter wants her own belt!

C-B

MarleenTotok Nice progrss. But Angelina is right, own belt, training, rules...

youdontknowme

curious Wearing a chastity belt involves more than not having sex. There are practical issues that arise from it, and you absolutely need to know how much inconvenience you are willing to endure to make not having sex a little easier. I doubt anyone lives life only and exclusively according to their values, but in a balance of values, needs and desires. And for the latter two, the first-hand experience definitely helps.

MarleenTotok

so today we had a much longer and more intensive conversation about the chastity belt.

I also presented her with all the arguments from here! the way she speaks to us, she is very clear on how this is going to turn out.

she also thinks @Angelina suggestion is quite good, she thinks she could get along well with it.

in the early evening she was locked into the chastity-belt again! Today she can keep it on as long as she wants, even parts of the night if she wants.

Today she has the normal chain on the tight bands again. But she definitely wants to try the shorter options this weekend as well, which are not often used and more likely to be punishments..

tomorrow she can try things out if she want.

Ines

Renita 3 months might be too long.

Agree.

Laura But serious relationship/marriage is different.

I think similar. Maybe not so strict, but I think that in serious issues, (an unemployed boy, a boy with a criminal record, a drug user...) , parents have right of veto.

youdontknowme But if you ask me, a week or two should be plenty to determine whether she genuinely wants to stop or whether that was just her desires talking

Maybe a week is not enough, but I agree, 2-4 weeks, is enough. I think people here talk too lightly about the stress that a forced use of a belt puts on a family.
We voluntary users already have our stress episodes from time to time, imagine a forced use. It tears a family apart.
A month is more than enough.

youdontknowme If the belt is harming the wearer, it needs to come off immediately.

It is a basic rule. When I started, I had a problem with bands, and obviously, my health is the point number 1.

MarleenTotok Breaks for non-sexual things yes!

MarleenTotok i could not wear the belt and playing squash 😉

Well.. I always had breaks for sports, but my aunt and cousines have small cable belts, Chinese ones, with a small shield, and they have to use it for sports. I hope your husband does not read this. 🤭

Breaks for sexual pleasures, no!

Logical

MarleenTotok Someone here has already said something that in her family there are the same rules for all women in the belt, regardless of whether they are wive or daughters.

In my family is the rule, everyone has same rules.

Andrew

Ines Maybe a week is not enough, but I agree, 2-4 weeks, is enough. I think people here talk too lightly about the stress that a forced use of a belt puts on a family.
We voluntary users already have our stress episodes from time to time, imagine a forced use. It tears a family apart.
A month is more than enough.

Great words! 🙂

Jonas

Ines Maybe a week is not enough, but I agree, 2-4 weeks, is enough. I think people here talk too lightly about the stress that a forced use of a belt puts on a family.

Agree strongly that forced use is absolutely wrong, but I think a contract is more like a request from the wearer. In this light 2 weeks notice does not really seem like much of a personal commitment to chastity to me, nor does 4. Would you accept a notice period that doubles? Until the eventual goal of union with a loving partner is achieved ofc.

MarleenTotok

Angelina which brings me to the question of who actually pays for the belt?

Our daghter pays 1/3 and we give her 2/3 of the price. And if she is wearing the belt one year or more, we give her, her part too. Because we would find them good that she wears an belt, we give her an a big part of the money.

Ines Maybe a week is not enough, but I agree, 2-4 weeks, is enough.

would agree to them, therfore we discussed with her and now its the plan.

Ines but my aunt and cousines have small cable belts, Chinese ones, with a small shield, and they have to use it for sports.

oh good, can't imagine for me by doing sports.

Ines I hope your husband does not read this. 🤭

think its not really an problem, because the most of sports we do, ther is an belt, also an cable belt not possible.

Ines In my family is the rule, everyone has same rules.

this would be absolutely same here, my husband only accepts this! Kink using excluded! No kink using on our daughter.

our daughter wears the belt quite bravely today! she is in the belt sine 9PM! And she would wear them again! She also tried the bra an afternoon for 2 hours. The bra would ony used if I, or in her case her, plays with the boobs or nipples for pleasure. It would only used for punishment, not for permanent wearing.

She also has tryed the short chain for tight bands and also only an padlock between the rings.

She nows, the short chain and the padlock could be used also as punishment if she is cheating rules.

She now knows hoe effective could be this punishment. She told me also, thst she woulds shure avoid to wear them by not cheating the rules

Ines

MarleenTotok think its not really an problem, because the most of sports we do, ther is an belt, also an cable belt not possible.

What sports do you play?

Jonas Would you accept a notice period that doubles?

2 months with a girl hating firmly her belt can be very difficult. One month is enough to talk about the entire issue. The target is avoid "hot" releases and give time to negotiations if the girl wants change some points of the rules that I think will be enough most of times.

MarleenTotok Kink using excluded! No kink using on our daughter.

This was clear, do not worry, Otherwise you can not write here.

MarleenTotok this would be absolutely same here, my husband only accepts this!

In my experience with chastity belts, fathers, (and husbands, obviously), make the fairest rules.
In my house it was always like that, but at my aunt and uncle's house, when the rules were made by my Tia, it was a bit chaotic. I think it is because in the end women are affected and we are not objective.
Men make more objective rules and get more equality.
That if, with the rules of the fathers, those who are in charge of the belts of the daughters are the mothers.

MarleenTotok She also tried the bra an afternoon for 2 hours. The bra would ony used if I, or in her case her, plays with the boobs or nipples for pleasure. It would only used for punishment, not for permanent wearing.

I hate even to see it. I do not have one, but for me is terrible.

MarleenTotok She nows, the short chain and the padlock could be used also as punishment if she is cheating rules.

I asked you a question in the thigh bands thread.

Angelina

Saintprudence It's a big investment up front, but if everyone feels that serious about it, maybe it's worth the cost.

which brings me to the question of who actually pays for the belt? @MarleenTotok 🤔

curious because on day 364, if then you happen to have a 'weak' time where sexual urges are strong, you quit within one day and might later regret it.

yes, but that's exactly the point I mean by "think about it first".

curious What would you have done? Kept him in Involuntary chastity for the remaining 364 days?

my answer would be yes and he would also understand. but he would never have asked this because he follows exactly the same philosophy as i do, so think first then agree.

youdontknowme Also, in order to make a good decision by thinking about something, you need data to work with. Data she does not have at this point in time, and data she is probably not getting without moving forward. Data that she can only really get by experimenting.

of course there should be a test phase and also a training, i have also described that above in the "guide". i am concerned with the afterwards, when i know how it feels physically and psychologically, after that a decision should be made that is also adhered to, with all the consequences.

youdontknowme

MarleenTotok Our daghter pays 1/3 and we give her 2/3 of the price. And if she is wearing the belt one year or more, we give her, her part too. Because we would find them good that she wears an belt, we give her an a big part of the money.

Sounds like a decent method. A financial incentive for sticking with the plan, but not an artificially imposed one but one that results quite naturally from the arrangement.

Mithras

MarleenTotok this would be absolutely same here, my husband only accepts this! Kink using excluded! No kink using on our daughter

You wrote „same rules“ for you both. So no kinky use for you from now on as well?

C-B

MarleenTotok Nice, super progress. Our daughter started with training too and after 1-1/2 month was able to wear 24/7 and start with rules.

MarleenTotok

Ines What sports do you play?

Squash ; Dancing ; Running

Ines Men make more objective rules and get more equality.

Thats the point, my husband will not have differences too. Shure maybee he is not so strict on beginning with her but finally ist should be same.

Ines I hate even to see it.

I would not call hate them but if he has it in his hands i am not verry happy 😉

Mithras So no kinky use for you from now on as well?

It will shure uses for this too on me.

C-B Our daughter started with training too

How old is she? It was her wish, or it was proposed by you? And how is she accepting the new rueles?

Renita

Ines One month is enough to talk about the entire issue. The target is avoid "hot" releases

It should be based on number of dates.

Angelina

MarleenTotok Our daghter pays 1/3 and we give her 2/3 of the price. And if she is wearing the belt one year or more, we give her, her part too. Because we would find them good that she wears an belt, we give her an a big part of the money.

i think it's a fair deal, she could get it for free but she has to wear the belt for a while first

C-B and start with rules.

sorry if i forgot, but what are the rules for your daughter?

MarleenTotok If all go well, we hope we could make an weekend permanent wearing for her and then it would be diecided to by her own belt.

so if she survives 48 or 72 hours of permanenet in the belt well, her own will be bought for her?

Rafael

MarleenTotok Squash ; Dancing ; Running

In our home, girls use It for such sports. They do not play squash but they do play other racquet sports and run without a problem.
I do not know if you do it at an intensity that makes it impossible, and of course the decision of your rules is the sole competence of your husband and you, so do not think I'm trying to influence, and if you think I'm intrusive, please forgive me, and that moderation delete the post, but in my house the girls wear their cable belt without problem, with the prevention of good hygiene afterwards.

MarleenTotok he is not so strict on beginning with her but finally ist should be same

Training is very needed.

MarleenTotok I would not call hate them but if he has it in his hands i am not verry happy 😉

It sounds me familiar.

MarleenTotok

Rafael On squash day we alkso use the sauna directly after playing, This is also an part why an belt at this time is not an option.

Dancing we do in a dance club, not professionally, but angaged. There its also possible, that we change partners. So its possible that other one could touch the waistband of the belt, this also something who is not needed 😉

And gernerally we do most spots together, so there most no danger for unallowed touching.

Rafael

MarleenTotok So its possible that other one could touch the waistband of the belt, this also something who is not needed 😉

the waist cable is so tight that it is impossible to detect, it is really very discreet, even when wearing a swimsuit.

MarleenTotok

C-B excluding the age it sounds similar to my daughter.

And she wears now 24/7? or do you let her out sometimes? I do not mean cleaning or sport breaks. do you have now some fights with her, or its now harder? If she gets something refused, she accept them, or she goes in fight mode?

C-B

MarleenTotok Yes she wers 24/7 now. She accept it and she knows and accept that it is not always "simple".

MarleenTotok

Our daughter hat the belt on from yesterday evening to this morning, At morning she got an break for one hour. Then she was in the belt again up to the lunch on evening.
Now she is out again and i am back in the belt untip tomorrow morning.

Mithras

MarleenTotok Now she is out again and i am back in the belt untip tomorrow morning

„Belt sharing“ :-)

Laura

MarleenTotok The bra would ony used if I, or in her case her, plays with the boobs or nipples for pleasure. It would only used for punishment, not for permanent wearing.

Can she put herself without punishment?

MarleenTotok

Laura Can she put herself without punishment?

do you mean if she would use the bra, this would beallowed to her, also on times there are no punishment. Shure if she would wear them also without punishment, this would be no problem. But dont think she would do them at moment.

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