My daughter wants her own belt!

MarleenTotok

So, an belt for our daughter is ordered! We had all together an serios talk about them and then the belt was ordered too! It could arrive next week. We also uses the express service @Laura 😉 not the 24hours express but it should be faster then 2-3weeks.

Tigh-bands are also ordered, but not as express. She now wears the belt always with bands and this would not be change, for her and for me.

Ines But her husband set the same rules for both of them, and wifes always have more lenient rules than daughters, so, it is typical that mom rules change when the girls start to wear the belt.

thats the point @Angelina, rules sould be same, no advantage for only one person. Its also more fair if the rules are same. Think in other familys, the rule for all womans are same or the have seperate rules for each women?

Angelina for you or your daughter?

for such trials in first, then wee would see.

Rafael

MarleenTotok family punishment is not an good working construct in our mind. but here the own meanings could be different.

MarleenTotok but this is seperate thing in my eyes.

MarleenTotok so she would be punished for her thing and i maybe for mine, not for hers too.

This is also true in our house, no one has consequences for the actions of another person, but it is true that many times the actions of one person are only possible with the cover-up or lack of attention of the other girls, so most of the time they have consequences at the same time, but for different causes.

Mithras Same rules, same belt. I like that!

I like too.

Angelina but your daughter's. once she starts wearing her belt seriously, rules should be set for your daughter and for your husband and you in the role of the key holders, but all of this should only relate to your daughter's chastity.

MarleenTotok thats the point @Angelina, rules sould be same, no advantage for only one person. Its also more fair if the rules are same. Think in other familys, the rule for all womans are same or the have seperate rules for each women?

It is true as Marlene says, it would not be logical for some women to have one set of rules and others another. It is fairer that everyone at home has the same rules and when the girls get married and are no longer at home, or are not yet old enough to wear a belt, the rules for the wives are relaxed a bit.

MarleenTotok It would be given them on trial and then we would see its ok for sports or not 😉

Ines The cable belt can be a good solution, cheap and fast until you get her new belt.

It is perfectly usable. Sure it's more comfortable if you didn't have to wear anything, but the added security more than makes up for that small inconvenience. In my house the girls use it without any serious problems, and both you and your husband can check out our experience.
In the end the girls are grateful to have this belt that allows them to do their favorite activities, sometimes I even authorize them to use it so they can wear certain clothes, and then they are grateful when they get home and replace that belt with their usual belt that is much more comfortable not having to wear it so tight.

Angelina

Ines But her husband set the same rules for both of them, and wifes always have more lenient rules than daughters, so, it is typical that mom rules change when the girls start to wear the belt.

if originally the father wants the belt for the daughter, i can even understand that, but here the daughter wants the belt and the daughter has to impose the rules on herself. That has nothing to do, with the chastity of the mother.

MarleenTotok Think in other familys, the rule for all womans are same or the have seperate rules for each women?

Even if @Ines will contradict me, I think it always depends on the individual situation, but I wrote my real point in the answer to @Ines

MarleenTotok We ordered now booth, so, lets see wich one would be faster here 🙂

ok, again briefly for stupid ones like me, what exactly did you order now? 😂

MarleenTotok yes you are right.

does that mean wearing the bands outside too, what will happen when your daughter goes to school?

Ines

Laura

I was thinking in a cheap cable belt, not in the My Steel, Laura. I did not understand you rightly.

MarleenTotok

Ines I was thinking in a cheap cable belt, not in the My Steel

But is with bouth possible 😉

We ordered now booth, so, lets see wich one would be faster here 🙂

My husband would not have really longer an belt-sharing 😃

Ines

MarleenTotok My husband would not have really longer an belt-sharing 😃

You are lucky, he was very patient.

MarleenTotok But is with bouth possible 😉

My aunt and her girls have both types as @Rafael said you.

MarleenTotok

Ines You are lucky, he was very patient.

yes shure 🙂 he also accept them for the next days until her belt would be here. Tigh-bands would be here 1-2weeks later but the belt is the priority at moment.
So in few days it starts for her right by her own belt and we are locked in same time.

Ines My aunt and her girls have both types as @Rafael said you.

It would be given them on trial and then we would see its ok for sports or not 😉

Renita

MarleenTotok Do you mean i have to wear also the blockpiece because my daughter was cheating the rules and she has to wear them?

Bra and thighbands.

MarleenTotok

Renita sorry but i dont understand you. you mean one person should be also punished because other person cheats the rules?

Renita

MarleenTotok You should support her this way while she is being punished.

Andrew

Renita You should support her this way while she is being punished

In my opinion it contradicts the foundations of justice and demoralizes the perpetrator (daughter) that an innocent person (mother) is to suffer with her for her misdeed.

MarleenTotok

Renita You should support her

your last post sound different to your other in my eyes! Supporting her, shure!!! If she is getting an punishment (what shurely early or later happens) i will do my best to support her. But it would not helps her if i wear bands or bra. I could her support by many other things to go the best way trough an punishment.

Wearing bands or bra dont help her! It woulds be more like @Andrew told before, this could be more demoralizing. Doing something she need in this time would help her more 😉

Ines

Andrew

Agree.

Rafael

MarleenTotok Lack of attention, therefore we could discuss. In my mind its not the job of the girls to watch about the others.

It is not a question of work. It is for several reasons.
The first is that I'm a man and I'm not going to violate the privacy of the girls to keep an eye on them, it's better that way.
The second is that there are three girls and if they are not involved it would be impossible to monitor or supervise them effectively.
The third reason is that while I know how important it is for them to have them away from stimulation, I also know that sometimes it can be hard for them and they will try to cheat. It is important that the others do not abandon her and that they help her overcome that frustration without cheating.
Experience in my home has taught me that most of the time, the other girls are almost never oblivious to cheating attempts.

I have also found that many times they view with some sympathy or at least empathy, attempts to cheat, so the one who is going to cheat knows that if the other girls don't help her avoid it, they too will face consequences, and the other girls know that not helping her is not an option since it won't just be the other girl who will be punished, as they like to call the consequences.

MarleenTotok we would give them a try

Soon, your husband wont accept another thing for you.

MarleenTotok Wearing bands

What is your band usage regime? From what I understood you and your daughter have to use them daily and when your husband dictates it for some reason, you use shorter chains or the locking piece.
Is this the case?

Renita

MarleenTotok But it would not helps her if i wear bands or bra.

You will have her feeling.

MarleenTotok

Rafael no one has consequences for the actions of another person

good 🙂

Rafael but it is true that many times the actions of one person are only possible with the cover-up or lack of attention of the other girls

I think this is also an theme who is not easy. If something is covered, ok then the girl is active involved. Lack of attention, therefore we could discuss. In my mind its not the job of the girls to watch about the others. If the girl dont interact, for me this is not an lack of attention. But yes its no easy this theme.

Rafael the rules for the wives are relaxed a bit.

Thats not a surprise for me. Shure is the pressure of the girls in the belt much times more hard then for the wifes. So some eules are more strickt and the wearing itself would be strickter. By same rules, this changes alo something for the wifes.

Rafael In my house the girls use it without any serious problems

we would give them a try 😉 if it works, i have shure to wear them by some sports.

MarleenTotok

So, our daughter is still wearing the belt on evenings and on the night! She asked also to wear the belt tomorrow on the day during school.
The question wasn't surprising, but my husband wasn't all that happy about it. he prefers, that i am locked during the day and told this to hear.
She also asked about the weekend. For the weekend she could wear them in his mind. She should wear them but she could ask for the one or other one hour supervised break.

So, we are now really awaiting her own belt, it would be time for it now 🙂

Laura

MarleenTotok She asked also to wear the belt tomorrow on the day during school.

School? You told us she was 19

MarleenTotok

Laura please look again in my introducion post, she is 18 near 19 years.

and she lost one year by mooving from germany to netherlands, so she is unhappyly one year later finish with school then the most others. But it was no option for us to let her in germany without us.

C-B

MarleenTotok depend on country and school system too. By us students finish highschool at +- 19. (Also depend, if started with school at 6 or 7, then is it +1).

MarleenTotok

C-B depend on country and school system too

thats right, but in germany she would have been finished last year, finally its ok 😉

Rafael From what I understood you and your daughter have to use them daily and when your husband dictates it for some reason, you use shorter chains or the locking piece.
Is this the case?

yes you are right.

Owl

MarleenTotok its all a question about the price!

For all interested in actual price tag, just looked it up:
If you want production of 1 full chastity set (bra, belt, bands) be done in express time, this is the current extra price:

Production time: 5 working days: + 195 EUR
dito: 3 working days: + 566 EUR
Production "within 24 h": + 826 EUR

(Source: https://www.my-steel.de/Xpress-shipping-service-for-MY-STEEL-products )

Mithras

Owl Chastity is a priceless asset!

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