Keyholder welcome thread.

Damien

Dear Jen,

as an AI based language model, I will use your complete browsing history and personal photo library to best decide about your chastity progress - just kidding. Like everyone treats their friends differently, there is probably no one-fits-all best support, at least I have not found it. Some want a sparring partner who challenges them, some a listener, some want to receive baby seal photos when they're feeling down. What kind of support would help you to stay chaste?

Jen

Damien I don't want the responsibility I worry I'm going to give it up as soon as I have a boyfriend I'm staying away on purpose but I want it too. I can keep going with chastity but I don't think I could ever restart.

Damien (You can wash your hair and relax in the bathtub before or after that. Belted.)

Definately before 😁 - so I can dry off unbelted

Jonas

Damien What kind of support would help you to stay chaste?

This question surely deserves it's own thread!

For my own part the only support I really need is checking. I don't like the "lock them up and throw away the key" mentality. I need to feel that someone gives a f*** about me and actually cares that I stop pleasuring myself and get out and live life.

Damien If you choose to date belted, please be proud of that.

Tell it!! This is so true. Wearing a belt is special, it is interesting, it is cool.

Damien I keyhold for adult ladies who wear out of their own motivation.

Even though I am sitting here totally locked up myself, I can see how keyholding could be very interesting. @Tobbe holds keys for people and seems to absolutely love the idea. What was it he said? "The best invention since the wheel"! Lol.

Angelina

well first of all i think it's good that this thread exists, i think it can be really helpful for the forum.

in about 24 hours the "chastity deal" with my father will end. I was then a key holder myself for a year. i have experienced that the role of a key holder means that you have to take on a lot of responsibility. there are tasks such as supervising cleaning breaks, etc. you definitely have to be open to this and shouldn't be shy when it comes to nacked and sexuality.
My respect to all key holders of volunteers and especially to those who have no interest in chastity themselves, but take the keys because the partner or daughter wants it, I'll be happy if i'm finished tomorrow.

Greatcornbow

Angelina

Angelina i have experienced that the role of a key holder means that you have to take on a lot of responsibility. there are tasks such as supervising cleaning breaks, etc. you definitely have to be open to this and shouldn't be shy when it comes to nacked and sexuality.
My respect to all key holders of volunteers and especially to those who have no interest in chastity themselves, but take the keys because the partner or daughter wants it,

Absolutely. KH seeing wearer naked at break times etc goes with the territory,

Damien

There are more dignified procedures possible among consenting adults. You agree on a cleaning time for belt and skin, usually 10 minutes, and have a nice chat about your next holiday over speakerphone during that time. (You can wash your hair and relax in the bathtub before or after that. Belted.)

Damien

I think dating is important to understand what kind of partner you want later in life. If you don't pick a monkey, it's also fun and will expand your horizon. If you choose to date belted, please be proud of that. Don't announce it but don't go to extremes hiding it. A good man will not judge you for that. And of course, you could share some of your adventures and your responsibility with a keyholder in the background, if you give up your keys (or your digital safe's code).

Jen

Damien If you choose to date belted, please be proud of that. Don't announce it but don't go to extremes hiding it. A good man will not judge you for that.

No choice I gotta - don't trust myself at parties n clubbing any more definately not trusting dating. Even got a lot more time home alone now - getting harder to find time to give myself a break. - like from the belt not chastity.

Jen

Damien I think dating is important to understand what kind of partner you want later in life.

This disturbs me like what should I assume my first guy is a try-out? Like what if my husband is my first date?

Damien

Jen Take care Jen, you know well that even a tight fitting my-steel will not protect you from every kind of ugly situation.

Jen

Damien huh do you mean safety or cheating? Choosing to wear it includes respecting it - like even if I'm a bit drunk I'm only ever playing over it.

Ines

Jen

I think the same. I have dated only a guy in my life.
And I was safe that I liked him before start to date.
Start dating and try is not a smart strategy, specially when the girl wears a chastity belt.

Sin

Jen This disturbs me like what should I assume my first guy is a try-out?

1000% yes.

Jen Like what if my husband is my first date?

What if he seems like a nice guy but two years into a relationship you realise he's not really for you?

Joh

Jen A critical period has turned out to be 5 to 7 years. During this period, in most relationships the little things have accumulated into a problem. Even if things go very well in the first years, it can then come to a break if it is not actively dealt with by both.
I want to show how important it is to get to know each other over a longer period of time. It may seem like a trial and error. I think it is time well spent compared to a lifelong relationship.

This doesn't mean you need to have Sex with him during this time. If He is the right one He will wait.

Damien

When I mention dating, I have a classic first date in mind - café or restaurant, talking to get to know each other.

Laura

Damien because she was not able to express her desires, states of emotion and goals very well.

Didn't she just want to stay virgin?

Damien

Laura Ideally I'm keyholding for humans, not hymens. I see virginity as an abstract cultural ideal, associated with purity, chastity, and certain standards of social behaviour. In former times, girls who have never been with a man have been called a virgin. What is virginity to you Laura? Somebody had oral or anal sex and gave or received many orgasms, but was never penetrated vaginally, is she virgin? Somebody who tore her hymen when she was four by accident? I don't want to sell a virgin to the highest bidder, so I mostly care about her current motivation and state of mind.

Laura

Damien You are really talking like ChatGPT 😂 . Back to you question, it's just a family tradition

Damien

Your answer seems to be about a family tradition of unwed chastity, but as you brought up virginity: What is it to you?

Ines

Damien

Damien, there is a topic about this and you can read there plenty of opinions and values.
This is a keyholder thread.

Ines

Sin What if he seems like a nice guy but two years into a relationship you realise he's not really for you?

Well, we should try another boy, but I would not lose my virginity with a try, Sin.
Jen' s approach and yours are compatible, I believe.

Jen

Sin What if he seems like a nice guy but two years into a relationship you realise he's not really for you?

Ok yeah who knows but I want to assume he is like why date otherwise

Sin

Ines I agree, I meant more the dating aspect... I can't imagine how much my life would suck if I permanently hooked up with the first few guys I dated as a teenager.

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