Well it has been quite some time from the last update that I have made.
It has been a bitter sweet 6 months but I am finally free of the belt. I did have to end my relationship and stop my family interfering with my life but at least I am happy now.
I gave my ex-partner the benefit of the doubt for the first few months but I could see nothing was changing for the positive and was slowly getting progressively worse. It was death by a million little cuts. She never ended up wearing a belt herself that idea got killed off pretty quickly. It is too difficult for her to keep herself clean through the day and every other excuse that she could think of. Secondly she had no desire of finding a different job to get her off night shift. Like she only applied to 2 jobs in 6 months. It got to the point where I was wearing the belt all the time and only getting out when I asked and even then she was giving me crap about it. She even managed to convince herself that I was cheating the belt somehow and started adding security tags and a tamper seal over the keyhole.
By the time September came round I was sitting the house one Friday evening alone and locked up and I just thought to myself this is never going to end I need to do something. There and there I made my mind up I am done with this. I messaged my then partner I am coming over to her work for the keys this is coming off. I am done with this nothing has changed. She called me back in like 2 min and said she will let me out in the morning she gets back. I stupidly said okay but you can’t give me any crap about it when you come back. So next morning she comes home from working and says that she is knackered from work and can it wait until she wakes up in the afternoon. Again me being stupid I said okay we will chat when you wake up. So a few hours pass and the afternoon comes round and she gets up and she starts asking a million questions why you were so unhappy last night everything had been going fine for months now. By that time I was so annoyed I said that I am not talking to you until this belt comes off. So eventually the belt comes off and I start talking to her. I said that I am never wearing the belt again I am done. She started doing the usual crap about how it was making her so happy knowing I was in the belt when she was not about and how it turns her on knowing that she has control over my orgasms. I just stopped her in her tracks and bluntly said that I really just don’t care anymore. You have one of two options either we have a relationship without the belt or you are leaving. Of course the waterworks start and I just said to her I am not going to listen to this anymore I am off out and will be back in a few hours you can let me know what decision you made when you get back.
When I finally left the house and free of the belt such a load was taken off me. I made up my mind that this is never happening again. Even if she or my family was going to give me any crap about this I am completely done with it. When I finally got back to the house she said that she wants to try and make a belt free relationship work. We had a fairly awkward quiet evening but Sunday comes round and she just could not help herself. She just starts ranting on about her state of mind and how much peace it gives her when I am belted Etc. Etc. Etc. I listened to this crap for a few hours and I knew what needed to be done. I said to her that I I need to stop you there I consider this relationship over, it has no future it is unhealthy and you are making me so unhappy. I do not care where you go but you are not staying here. It is done it is over.
Well after that went down I became the worst person on the planet, she started saying to anyone that would listen that I am kinking her out for no reason at all. I was sleeping around with other every chance I got. Ran straight to my parents and told them that is was over and I was kicking her out. Of course they put their oar it but by that stage I just turned round and said I am not listing to you I just do not care anymore and this should have happened years ago. They came out with how disappointed they are with me things seemed to be going really well and you seemed happy as a couple. I said to them if that what happy looks like I do not want to be happy.
She finally accepted the fact that the relationship was over but started coming out with that I am making her homeless. I just came back with did you not see this happening we have been circling the same issues for years. You never changed and you were well aware of what was untimely going to happen if things never changed. You either move out by the end of the month or I will move you out by the end of the month. I finally got her out of the house last weekend she ended up moving in with a friend of hers until she gets somewhere else.
It is such a nice feeling to be finally free and all this is behind me. I can finally get on with living my own life and not worrying about other think. I would highly recommend everyone get rid of their belts and just be yourself. Yea some people might see the down sides of being single and their family being disappointed with you but you know what it is worth it.
I have been free from the belt for about 5 weeks now and away from my ex-partner for nearly a week now and I have never been happier. Why does anyone ever put up with this kind of crap I literally wasted years of my life being unhappy.
