@Dilly Umm, I don't really understand the reasoning behind cutting the hymen and why trying to have sex before marriage would be a good idea in that context.

@Vanessa means, parents might take the belt off in advance before marriage to let me "prepare" and avoid pain during wedding night. They wouldn't do it, me either.

now I understand! I think it would be a good idea to at least open the belt after someone is engaged as you can't expect an engaged couple to really wait for the time till the date of marriage.

    Dilly you can't expect an engaged couple to really wait for the time till the date of marriage.

    Traditionally they are supposed to.

      nods and smiles. Now you sound like my Mom. She'd say the same, but maybe a bit more directly.

      True,an engaged couple too is supposed to wait.

      Cutting it would avoid pain,but I'm not sure it is usual and probably a bit disturbing,I guess.But at least you'll be sure to avoid pain and blood during the wedding night.

        Vanessa but I'm not sure it is usual and probably a bit disturbing

        That's not usual, because people prefer to do it "natural" way, but possible.

            Laura What is this procedure? Is there an expert at it who explains? is it for smaller women? I may be interested. I am very sensitive and have to move much slower than a man would when I touch myself. My bottom has become a source of pleasure and is not torn nothing hurts there ; )

                Megan What is this procedure? Is there an expert at it who explains? is it for smaller women? I

                Usually it's for women with too thick hymen that might not be broken easily, so they just cut it. But your gyn knows better if it's the case. I'm not an expert either.

                  I wonder if a doctor will accept to do it if you explain you want to wait,but don't want to feel pain on your wedding night...

                  They can definitely do it if you ask, but it might cost you. But usually girls (and their parents) care more to leave it intact.

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                  Vanessa
                  I do not like that option. I like to imagine to my husband breaking my maidenhood, even if it supposes a little pain.
                  We are girls, we are used to suffer, and I guess that feel yourself being broken for your loved being, can not be so bad 🤗

                      Ines
                      if it's the right one, i have no problem with him piercing my hymen, i know it will hurt and some blood will flow, i'm afraid of that. but the right one will take care of me and make sure it doesn't get too painful. the moment it happens is at least the biggest proof of love to the spouse

                        If a girl maintains her virginity until marriage, I consider it a nonsense to resort, in the absence of medical reasons, to surgery for this subject.
                        In my case, after keeping my virtue, going through moments of frustration and, almost despair, how could I not like to be aware of the moment when my lover makes me a woman? Even if it can be a little painful.
                        And in the same way, our husbands must be aware of what we are giving to them, to ourselves, and that with it, they take on a great responsibility.
                        In my case, as a young lady, I was never a belt holder, but I suppose you can all understand my feelings and I'm sure that at least some of you feel it this way, too.

                          Tere If a girl maintains her virginity until marriage, I consider it a nonsense to resort, in the absence of medical reasons, to surgery for this subject.

                          Me too

                          Tere And in the same way, our husbands must be aware of what we are giving to them, to ourselves, and that with it, they take on a great responsibility.

                          Girls remain virgin until marriage in our family. Or at least say so. That's why we have to wear chastity belts

                              I don't think using surgery to cut the hymen is a good idea either.

                              Why I think it is a good thing if the hymen is broken before,is because,even if it can be very different for different women,when the hymen is broken,it can be painful enough to prevent us to have an orgasm,or even be painful to make love.I don't know if it is painful for most women,or not,but it is better to have pleasant feelings and maybe orgasm on our wedding night,which can not be the case if the hymen is broken at this time.

                                Vanessa
                                I do not have experience, but I think that to have your love inside you, with the couple become in just a being inside our body, has to be intense enough.
                                I want to feel me teared by my love, even if it hurts me a little.
                                As I usually say, just my thinking

                                  Angelina Good question. Since most of us are virgins, better to read experienced girls.