Getting a job, so you can be free from chastity

youdontknowme

Avery I mean, reluctant gay (where a male who is otherwise straight gets involved with another male as the bottom) is pretty much its own porn genre. But I feel like a porn plot would avoid more anal sex than that. Either in an incestuous manner with extremely dubious consent, or simply to find other forms of relief. Since the story involves neither, I would not be so quick to dub it a porn plot.

Trismegistus

Andrew Lol. I didn't „let” my father to catch me, he usually storms in my room without knocking.

And the second time I didn't ever hear him when he got home. I tried to fight, but I was too afraid of the consequences to resist against his rules.

After those incidents I started reading psychology and found out that his behaviour is toxic. I am still his son, but we have different worldviews.

He believes it's his right of power to impose rules for my sexual behaviour. I believe everyone should be free to decide what to do with their body.

My girlfriend is by my side and has really helped me to realise I can be the architect of my own life. And nobody can stop me expressing my freedom.

Andrew

Trismegistus I didn't „let” my father to catch me, he usually storms in my room without knocking.

And being fully aware of the situation in your home and your father's behavior, you jerked off so carelessly that you got caught a second time???

BTW, I come from a country where almost no one knocks when entering their child's room and I don't know of a situation where anyone has been caught masturbating even once...

Trismegistus

Avery Thank you, Avery! You understand my situation. It's awful that my gf and I are attracted to each other, but we can't enjoy the physical side of our love. I am more frustrated that she is, because her parents don't think masturbation and sex are unhealthy or sinful.

Trismegistus

Laura In my country age of consent is 14, so we both are old enough to decide if we want to make love. But no, my father decides on my behalf. 😡 I understand some people have fetishes, but being forced or manipulated to wear a chastity cage/belt is abuse.

I'm not afraid to work hard, I only want my freedom back and I'm willing to pay the price.

Trismegistus

Andrew I wrote about this. The second time he caught me with the cage, so he replaced it with a belt... And usually people don't confess they got caught masturbating in conversations. I didn't tell my friends about my situation, because I feel ashamed. Only my gf knows.

Trismegistus

Andrew Also your logic here is crooked. If you haven't experienced something, that doesn't mean it never happens.

youdontknowme

Andrew I mean, it takes a lot longer to get off with a cage on, and probably makes more noise as well. A sexually desperate mind is also frequently not the most careful state a person can be in. All that makes every act of masturbation risky, especially if the bathroom door policy is unlocked so you could not innocuously hide in there either.

Andrew

youdontknowme I mean, it takes a lot longer to get off with a cage on, and probably makes more noise as well.

I know what cage masturbation is because I've done it in every cage I've had, and there have been quite a few (about 15). In each of them it was possible to ejaculate discreetly.

Trismegistus If you haven't experienced something, that doesn't mean it never happens.

I am fully aware that someone may have a different experience than me, but the assessment of the credibility of the statements is based, among others, on the assessment of the probability of an event taking into account the so-called life experience. Life experience suggests that when someone is repressed for specific actions, he tries to hide them from the persecutor, and does not expose himself to unreasonable harassment, unless he deliberately acts in a provocative way. Life experience also suggests that the topic of being caught masturbating is exploited with pleasure by people who try to increase its attractiveness by alleged truthfulness of the story.

Trismegistus

youdontknowme You're right. I was only thinking how to cum. When I get home from school, I usually have 2 to 3 hours alone time. That day my father got home earlier than usual. 😩

The door of our bathroom doesn't have a lock, so it's useless to hide there. The walls to the bathroom are thin, and my father can hear everything if he's home.

Angelina

Trismegistus

ok, i'll focus on the original post

so i'm also involuntarily in the chastity belt, the reason is simply that i'm dependent on my father in certain ways. That's exactly the point, I don't see that, you don't seem to be dependent (anymore). So just get out of the belt and if your dad won't give you the keys voluntarily, look out about lockpicking.
Why are you still in the belt despite your independence? Why?

Trismegistus

Angelina I still live in his house. Right now I'm saving money to be truly independent. When I get to live with my gf, I'll give him choice to either unlock me or I'll pick/break the lock. I want to avoid fighting with him, but I'm not sure it's possible.

Angelina

Trismegistus

ah ok, sorry i thought you were going to keep wearing the belt after you moved out

Trismegistus

Angelina I don't want to keep it. My philosophy is that growing up is becoming independent. My father thinks I'm just too rebellious, but my gf thinks I'm right to be unhappy about the belt.

We're dating almost one year, and I want her someday to be my wife.

Laura

Avery He just wants to get himself laid. By a girl.

And it seems that's all he wants

Avery

Laura And it seems that's all he wants

B.S. You should be ashamed of yourself.

The guy has a job. He is close enough to the girl's family that they are willing to let them use a flat they own. He is in contact with his father, though things are tense right now. He has mentioned going to school.

youdontknowme

Andrew I know what cage masturbation is because I've done it in every cage I've had, and there have been quite a few (about 15). In each of them it was possible to ejaculate discreetly.

You say that as a middle-aged adult with a fulfilled sex life. Your mind is probably clearer when you tried this than that of a desperate horny teenager. Plus as many cages as you have tried, you have only tried one penis.

Renita

Trismegistus Because I want to have sex with my girlfriend.

And how about her? 😃

youdontknowme not getting rid of the belt to move in with his girlfriend.

His phrase means exactly this. And if it's not the case he can solve the problem with belt later.

Trismegistus

Renita I've already pleasured her, because she has high libido and I like to see her enjoy our time together. But we both think it should be mutual, and the belt prevents this to happen.

It's not only about getting laid. Sex is expression of love and emotional attachment. When two people in love have sex, their body produces oxytocin and they become more attached to each other.

Laura

Renita he can solve the problem with belt later

... said @Renita , who can't get rid of her own belt 😂

Laura

Avery The guy has a job.

Is he paid enough to live on his own or still have to pull more money from his dad?

Avery they are willing to let them use a flat they own

Them or her?

Avery

Laura s he paid enough to live on his own or still have to pull more money from his dad?

Read his initial post. Your replies will then be more cogent:

"In my country education isn't expensive, so if I work, I can manage to make enough money to be independent from him."

Laura Them or her?

Read his initial post. Your replies will then be more cogent. Oh, sorry, I already said that.

"My new girlfriend (18) and I plan living in her parents' flat and they agree"

They will be fine. If they need a little help from the family OK, many people do. That's partly why I advised him to try to keep a relationship with his father.

Trismegistus

Laura Is he paid enough to live on his own or still have to pull more money from his dad?

I don't want to get money from my dad, if that means I remain in the belt. I'm ambitious enough to know that life gives enough opportunities for income. I just need some time to be fully independent: financially, emotionally, etc. Good education will definitely help me, and I'll be able to afford it.

I know I can have high enough results to receive payment from University. I believe getting rid of the belt will boost my self-esteem.

Being dependent from your parents means that if something happens to them, you won't be able to deal with your life. Many grown people I know are like big babies, who prefer to depend on their parents, because it's easier. It isn't how both my gf and I see our future.

Laura

Avery Your replies will then be more cogent:

Agree, and forgive me that I don't have time to read everything.
Then maybe you can point me to his dad's reasons.
Anyway, if he can move out, he could just cut the belt.

Avery

Laura Anyway, if he can move out, he could just cut the belt.

Yes, he could. But what does that do to his relationship with his father? He is 18 1/2, it would be much better if he can keep a good relationship with his dad and get him on board of things. We all need help from our families now and then at that age. If his father won't relent I agree though, the belt must go so he can have a normal life with his girl and her family.

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