We had the meeting today, at the same coffee shop Monica and I met at last week. Susan came with me, Jane was there too. It was very awkward at the beginning, I wasn't really sure where to begin or even if I should begin. I don't like awkward silences though, so I spoke up and addressed Jane and said that I understood that her mom was looking to help her curb some of her bad behaviors. I did not want to be too judgmental and call her it what it really was: "being a slut".
Jane was embarrassed as we talked and her mother could only shake her head. She did not get into a ton of details but only that she was embarrassed about the way she acted and how it had made her mother feel when facing others in her community who had heard stories about her. I felt badly for both of them. I made sure to tell Jane that I don't have all the answers, but there is one solution that would help put her promiscuity behind her and make sure these sexual dalliances did not happen again. I will admit this was awkward for me because neither Susan or Kate ever exhibited this kind of disgraceful behavior. We talked about my initial discovery of chastity belts, why I thought they were important, and how I introduced them to first Susan and then Kate. We talked about some of the mistakes I made but ultimately Susan accepted wearing a belt full time, as her sister now has.
Susan then talked about the challenges she has to deal with. I could tell Jane was not thrilled about wearing one at all but not surprisingly Monica was. I told them that they both had to buy into it, that this could not be a "forced" situation because ultimately Jane would rebel against it and the outcome could be far worse than the situation they have now. I told them both sides have to agree to it and make it work otherwise it will be a failure.
I suggested that the two girls have a chance to talk alone, away from us. Alexis from across the street had told me that they could go over to her shop if they wanted privacy. I had previously cleared that with Susan so she did not feel put on the spot.
Once the girls left I reiterated what I had told Monica previously. She has to convince Jane that this is the right step for her, and when she does she must show Jane she is serious about following through with it. I went through all the steps again, making sure Susan put the belt on right away when she got home from school, with no delays. Each day she had to wear it longer than the one before, until there were eventually overnights with it on, and then finally when the belt would stay on full time. There can be no let up, no relaxing of rules, no bargains. Jane must know that she will be wearing this 24/7 for the foreseeable future. Monica needed to tell her that her actions have dictated nothing less.
I told Monica that she would likely need to by new clothes for Jane, a safe to keep the key in, a plan to make sure the belt went with them on trips, etc. I told her all the other things I had to do too, the shaving, the cleaning, the monitoring when they shower, etc. This is not a one way street, the Keyholder has a huge responsibility. Just putting Jane in a belt is going to make everything all better. She must take this seriously. If Jane agrees that this will help her curb her habits, then she needs to do everything she can to help her.
I told her that I was fortunate that I did not have to deal with this kind of behavior with either of my girls, but I also have a strict no touching policy, which I know is not popular with the girls. Apparently Jane has that problem too and Monica would like to be stopped as well.
After a while the girls came back. Susan did show her belt to Jane. I will let her talk about that and her discussion if she wants. We kind of wrapped things up. Monica did say she wanted to order one for Jane, just to try it out. She mentioned Alexis would do the measurements and they could get one from her. Jane did not look enthused but they went back across the street as Susan and I left.
I told Jane she was welcomed to e-mail me if she had more questions, at this point I am not ready to share my cell number. She is very anguished and frankly fed up and I can't say I blame her. To be honest, I don't know how this will end up but I was happy to help her in any way I could.
