I do have an update here. It has been a busy few weeks for me but I have some downtime now to explain.
Susan and Jane have been corresponding, which ultimately led to Monica calling me directly. I don't really want to get into all of the details, but essentially Jane was caught having sex in the car with a (male) substitute teacher at her new school. This was in the parking lot of that new school and it happened on a Friday night. The teacher has been fired and Jane has been suspended and told that she can't graduate with the rest of her class. If she wants her diploma she must take summer school to make up for the missed time.
For Monica this was the last straw. She told Jane that if she did not wear the belt EVERY time she left the house she would be kicked out.
Apparently this was enough to scare Jane straight. Monica asked if Susan and I would meet with them to discuss how the two of them could make this work. Prior conversations with them frankly yielded little in the way of progress because Jane had zero interest in wearing a belt ever and only begrudgingly did it on occasion to keep her mom off her
back.
Apparently this latest incident given both a renewed emphasis to make this work. Monica does not want to keep going through this embarrassment and Jane is scared of being out on her own.
We went over to their home, for privacy we could not get elsewhere, which was weird for sure, but Monica was extremely thankful that we would take the time to meet with them again. We were there for over 2 hours, there were obviously a lot of emotions and I do believe that each wants to salvage the relationship. The counseling they did together was obviously ineffective as Jane continues to exhibit shockingly poor sexual decision making.
The situation that Susan (and Kate) have is one of love and respect, which makes the belt wearing easier for my girls to accept and understand. Their situation is much different where a threat is being issued to ensure compliance. Jane is being told that she must wear the belt every time she leaves the house, no exceptions. It can be removed when she is at home. She does not have to wear it when sleeping. Monica is unconcerned about masturbation, only reckless sexual activity.
This meeting happened last weekend. Susan is in touch with Jane regularly and so far their have not been any major issues. She can elaborate. My conversations are with Monica only. I know this is an extreme step and one that likely not be well thought of by the majority here but I felt the need to update as many have offered their opinions.